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Friendship on Purpose

People need to be reminded more often than they need to be

instructed.Samuel Johnson

English author, critic, & lexicographer (1709 - 1784

How would you define

Because of the peculiarity of this theme ‘friendship’ many definitions have ensued.

riendshipHow would you define

riendship

Here is mine;

Cross! Cross!

"Can two walk together, except they be agreed?" Amos 3:3

This is what I’m convinced is theultimate price of

true and genuine friendship

Cross is the supreme symbol of altruism—selflessness

amazing friendship characters in Bible

Jonathan and David1 Samuel 18-20

Abraham and God2 Chronicles 20:7,Isaiah 41:8,

James 2:23

Ruth and Naomi

Jesus and PeterMathew 26:31-35, John 21

Barnabas and PaulGalatians 1:15-18, Act 9:26-30,

Act 13:13-16, 11 Timothy 4:11

Kinds of pseudo-friends you must be aware of

Pseudo:1. not actually but having the appearance of; pretended; false or spurious; sham. 2. almost, approaching, or trying to be.

1. The Energy Vampire

After spending time with this person, you feel drained. Theconversation usually revolves around their problems andcomplaints.

2. The Calculator

…pseudo-friends you must be aware of

This friend is always keeping score and if your tally is not adding up, then they resent you for it.

This friend is always keeping score and if your tally is not adding up, then they resent you for it.

3. The Disappearing Act

…pseudo-friends you must be aware of

This person is your BFF when theyare single and needs you to be thewing person in order to fill theirsocial calendar. But as soon as theyenter a relationship, you dropabruptly to zero priority.

Parasitic Friendship

…pseudo-friends you must be aware of

4. The Taker

According to author of Give and Take, by Adam Grant, there are three types of people: takers, givers and matchers. I think that your capacity to give is really determined at a young age, and it becomes a part of your DNA.

5. The One Man Show

…pseudo-friends you must be aware of

This person is the star of his or her own show. Therefore, everything

from the conversations to the cast (this includes

you) must revolve around them.

6. The Drama Queen

…pseudo-friends you must be aware of

This person’s storyline never seems to move past the conflict stage. There is

always something that is making

them unhappy and there is typically

someone to blame.

…pseudo-friends you must be aware of

7. The Child That Never Grows Up

This person has not learned how to handle his or her emotions and unfortunately,

everyone else has to pay the price.

8. The Flake

…pseudo-friends you must be aware of

Sometimes peopleare going through life stuff that causes them to be unavailable –that is totally understandable. But those who constantly flake due to their own inability to manage their time? That gets old, fast. The friend who always says they have no time to see you? Not true. They just don’t want to prioritize their time on you.

9. The Guilt Tripper

This person has expectations of you

and if they are not met, they will

make sure you feel the wrath for it.

…pseudo-friends you must be aware of

10. Friend Who Secretly Hates You

This friend cheers you on, exclamation

points and happy face emoticons included.

But in reality, they secretly just don’t like

you nor want the best for.

Judas Cousins

…pseudo-friends you must be aware of

8 types of friends you need in your life

1. A Loyal Best FriendSometimes a loyal best friend is the only thing you need to stay sane. Everyone needs a non-judgmental friend who will support them no matter what.

…friends you need in your life

2. A Fearless AdventurerWe live in a big world where there are so many places to see, people to meet, and experiences to be had, yet so many of us are stuck in our own routines and forget to, well, live. We all need an adventurous friend who will pull us out of our shells and introduce us to new ideas, cultures, philosophies, and activities.

3. A Brutally Honest Confidant

There’s certain situations in life where we need to hear the harsh

truth. That’s what the brutally honest confidant is for.

…friends you need in your life

…friends you need in your life

4. A Wise Mentor

Jesse Jackson once said, “Never look down

on someone unless you’re helping them up.”

If you have someone smart, inspiring, and

admirable in your life who practices this

philosophy, you’re extremely graced.

…friends you need in your life

5. A Friend From a Different Culture

If everyone had a friend from a different culture, the world would be

a much better place. Being in a cross-cultural friendship allows you

to explore customs, values, and traditions outside of your own

culture. Sometimes you might even adopt new ways to do things.

…friends you need in your life

6. A Polar OppositeIf you only develop friendships with others who follow the same beliefs,

customs, and values as you do, chances are you’re somewhat

detached from the rest of the world… people who hold opposing views will

help open your eyes to different world views and you’ll learn to accept

people who don’t see the world exactly the way you see it.

These days, a lot of people don’t know their own neighbors. It’s a shame, because some neighbors can be the nicest and most helpful people ever. If you’re on a vacation, and you suddenly realize that you forgot to lock the front door

…friends you need in your life

7A Friendly Neighbor

…friends you need in your life

8. A Work PalStatistics show that the more isolated you

are at work, the more depressed you get. That’s why it makes sense to get a work

pal . You spend 50%

of your waking hours at work, and so does your work pal.

24 A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer

than a brother. Proverbs 18:24 (KJV)

Who is responsible for whatever happens

between you and your friends

My ardent desire is;

Get us to judge ourselves so we will not be judged.

The Energy Vampire

The Child That Never Grows Up

The Calculator

•The Taker

. The Guilt Tripper

The One Man Show

Friend Who Secretly Hates

The Disappearing Act

We examine ourselves to make tomorrow more glorious

By becoming …

Loyal Best Friend

A Fearless Adventurer

Honest Confidant

Wise Mentor

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Friendship on Purpose