forgive & let go

FORGIVE & LET GO

“Tears are showers for our soul to heal and grow. “

1.I am here to support, love, and accept myself and others.

2.I agree to share honestly and from my heart

3.I release the need to try to win love, approval, or appreciation by appearing wise or knowledgeable.

4.I will use whatever happens as an opportunity to learn and grow in awareness, acceptance, and compassion

5.I will keep everything said in the group confidential

GUILDELINES FOR SHARING

3 MAIN CAUSES OF GRIEF

1. Loss of Connection: Loved ones, family, friends, community

3. Cash: Financial security, prosperity, freedom

2. Loss of Contribution: Career, meaning, self-esteem, life purpose

MYTHS THAT PROLONG

HEARTBREAK/GRIEF

1. “It just takes time”2. “Replace the

loss”3. “I don’t need support”4. “It’s my

fault”5. “I need a therapist”

Event + Reaction = OutcomeEvent + Victim Story = Misery

Gratitude = Love

CHOICEWe may not be able to choose the events that

occur, but we CAN choose the reaction.

Pain Is Inevitable. Suffering is a Choice

“POWER vs FORCE”by Dr. David Hawkins

LADDER OF CONSCIOUNESS• Developed a “map” of the levels of human

consciousness that uses a muscle-testing technique called Applied Kinesiology (AK) to document the nonlinear, spiritual realm.

• This research was scientifically-validated and published in his doctorate dissertation titled Qualitative and Quantitative Analysis and Calibrations of the Level of Human Consciousness.

• The numbers on the scale represent logarithmic calibrations of the levels of human consciousness and its corresponding level of reality.

About 78% of the world’s population is below 200

22% of people above 200

counterbalance the other 78%

1 person at 600

counterbalance the

negativity of 10 million

people below 200.

Only 4% of the world’s

population calibrates in the 500s. Mother

Teresa & Gandhi

Aristotle, Freud,

Einstein,

Newton,

all calibrated

around 499

Everything we interact with either strengthens or weakens our life energy

Because our ego is so

rooted in the physical

domain as opposed to

the spiritual domain250 is where some degree of

self-confidence & satisfaction

emerges

Pain comes from resisting what is.

Peace comes from embracing what is.

If you resist change you will be here forever

4 Steps in Helping Yourself

Heal

1) Express

• Express your feelings & release them. It’s the recipe for transcending more quickly.

IF YOU CAN’T FEEL IT, YOU CAN’T HEAL IT

• Unrepressed feelings are like not dealing with your taxes. It doesn’t go away & the consequences and penalties just get worse.

• Is the painful thought about the past, present or future?

2) Forgive

• See the whole truth and all the possibilities.

• Take responsibility that you CAN make things better for yourself

• Forgive everybody (including yourself) for everything right now.

• Realize that in order for you to win, someone else doesn’t have to lose.

• Acknowledge that the other person was doing the best that they could do under the specific circumstances that they were in.

3) Appreciate & Accept

• Accept & Appreciate what has happened as if you have chosen it.

• Realize the gift and opportunity in whatever happened. Thank the other person for giving you an experience that helped you grow.

• Ask yourself:1. If you could do it all over again would you still do it?2. Given the answer would you want to know that it

would have ended the way it did?

So many of us hold on to things that have happened to us in the past and we

allow it to become our story without realizing we have the power to create a new story- whatever story we desire. Let

go of the past.

4) Live & Love

• Live for today

• When you do this you are releasing victim energy & bringing yourself into the present moment.

• Give up the hope for a different or better yesterday

• Choose Peace

1) What are you enthusiastic about now?2) What action(s) are you excited about

taking?

• Focus on Love

What IF Happiness Was Under Your Own

Control? 40% of our happiness in our immediate voluntary control

50% of our happiness is genetic or habitual. This can shift depending on how you change or choose your habits

10% of our happiness is due to our life or external circumstances

80 – 20 Rule

What action can you take in the next 30 days to stop tolerating the aggravation, stress & stop limiting your

success?

Forgiveness is letting go of the

hope for a different or better outcome

Loving yourself is the greatest way

to improve yourself & as you improve yourself, you improve your

world.

Four Steps To Heal

3) Forgive

4) Live & Love

1) Express

2) Appreciate/Accept

Tears are showers for our soul to heal and grow.

HAWAIIAN HO’OPONOPONO

HEALING PRAYERI love youI’m sorry

Please forgive meI forgive myself

Thank you

Ho’oponopono (“to make right”) is a healing process used by ancient Hawaiians of the past

and those that practice Huna (“empowerment”) today to align with and clean up our genealogy as

well as to clean up our relationships with other people in our lives. When we forgive others we

are forgiving ourselves.

FORGIVE & LET GO

“Tears are showers for our soul to heal and grow. “