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FRIENDSHIP FACILITATORS“LIVING and LOVING in tight spaces”

We’re the “FRIENDSHIP FACILITATORS”

We’re here to help you learn how to get along with your roommates!

Living with roommates is NEVER easy! Roommate Conflict? (1:55 – 3:20)

FACILITATING FRIENDSHIPS: AN INTRODUCTION

But with a little help from your Friendship Facilitators, you can learn how to live in peace and get along with your roommates! How NOT to deal with conflict! (5:11 – 6:47)

FACILITATING FRIENDSHIPS: AN INTRODUCTION

PREVIEW

Audra Van Winkle – Choosing Roommates

Kaelee Abbey – How To Be a Good Roommate

Melissa Edmonston – Conflict Resolution

Bethany Harbour – Living With Friends

Dear Friendship Facilitators,If I decide to go potluck, how will a

roommate be selected for me? Sincerely, Jessica

Bulletin Boards Newspaper/

Internet Ask around Church/School/

Work

Finding a Roommate

Questions I Should Ask…

Male/Female Smoking/Non-

Smoking Pets/ No Pets Morning Person/

Night Person “Neat

Freak”/Comfortable Living

How Are Boundaries Set?

Be honest Be respectful Talk! Be upfront Be able to

compromise

Dear Friendship Facilitators,What are some general tips to being

a good roommate? Sincerely, Anna

How To Be a Good Roommate

Building a good roommate relationship has as much to do with the way you conduct yourself as it does with the other person.

You have to be willing to:• Compromise• Communicate

Tips For Being a Good Roommate!

Remember The Golden Rule

Establish Rules From The Beginning

Set A Schedule

Clean Up After Yourself Washing Dishes Picking Up Laundry Throw Away Your Trash

More Tips!

Ask Permission

Offer Alone Time

Don’t Be Afraid To Discuss Problems

Own Your Own

Find Ways To Appreciate Your Roommate

Dear Friendship Facilitators,How do I deal when there is conflict

between me and my roommate? Thanks, Meagan

Conflict Resolution

Disagreement over options for solving problems, making decisions, or achieving goals; also, disagreement caused by seemingly incompatible goals of group members and their perception of interface from other in the achievement of those goals.

Conflict Management StylesNonconfrontational

StyleControlling StyleCooperative Style

GroupthinkConflict avoidance

ConsensusReaching agreement

through communication

Conflict Resolution

Dear Friendship Facilitators,Is it wise to move in with my best friend?

What are some advantages and disadvantages? Yours Truly, Rachel

Living With Friends

PRO’S: Know if they are

reliable or not Have a pretty good

idea if you can trust them

More likely to have common interests and friends

Living With Friends

CON’S: Higher Expectations Annoying Stop spending time

together outside of your living space

Risk losing the friendship

TMI! “Choosing sides” –

hassle among other friends

Helpful Tips

Expect things to change

Set ground rules

Prepare for stress

Fight fair

Other Ideas

Have monthly meetings

Cook dinner together Decorate together Spend time together

OUTSIDE of your living environment! Remind yourselves why you were friends in the first place!

Laugh it off!

“LIVING AND LOVING IN TIGHT SPACES”

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you…” Luke 6:31

GOOD LUCK!!

Love, The Friendship Facilitators

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