feelings arent facts theyre feelings!. thinking – feeling - behavior
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Feelings aren’t Feelings aren’t FactsFacts
They’re They’re Feelings!Feelings!
Thinking – Feeling - Thinking – Feeling - BehaviorBehavior
Core of Carried ShameCore of Carried Shame
• Children are spongesChildren are sponges• They are egocentricThey are egocentric• Emotion is energy Emotion is energy • Shameless behavior is Shameless behavior is
induced into children.induced into children.• They are vulnerableThey are vulnerable• They are collecting They are collecting
datadata• They develop a shame They develop a shame
core that is not their core that is not their own.own.
Exercise – pick a partnerExercise – pick a partner
What I make up about What I make up about it…it…
Communication Feedback Communication Feedback LoopLoop
• When you – state the behaviorWhen you – state the behavior• What I made up about it – describe your What I made up about it – describe your
thinking, or what you are making up thinking, or what you are making up about itabout it
• How I felt about it is …How I felt about it is …• What I need from you is …What I need from you is …
AddictionsAddictions
• AlcoholAlcohol• Drugs – IllegalDrugs – Illegal• Drugs - Drugs -
PrescriptionsPrescriptions• GamblingGambling• SpendingSpending• Debting Debting • Eating disordersEating disorders• NicotineNicotine
• CaffeineCaffeine• SugarSugar• Work Work • Busyness Busyness • Sexual acting outSexual acting out• PornographyPornography• Love addictionLove addiction• Internet surfingInternet surfing
Shame Core Circle Shame Core Circle
AddictionsCodependent behaviorsAdaptations Wounded ChildCarried FeelingsLife Spark
Normal DevelopmentNormal Development
Moderation/PassionOur own shameGifts from feelingsFeelings Rights to life Life Spark
Feelings Chart Feelings Chart Carried Carried FeelingsFeelings
Adult FeelingsAdult Feelings Gifts from Gifts from FeelingsFeelings
Rage Rage ANGERANGER Assertiveness Assertiveness Strength Strength EnergyEnergy
Terror Terror FEARFEAR Preservation Preservation WisdomWisdom
Protection Protection
Despair Despair PAINPAIN Healing GrowthHealing GrowthAwarenessAwareness
Mania Mania JOYJOY Abundance Abundance HappinessHappiness
GratitudeGratitude
Hopelessness Hopelessness LONLEYLONLEY Connection Intimacy Connection Intimacy
SpiritualitySpirituality
WorthlessnesWorthlessness s
SHAMESHAME Humility Humility ContainmentContainment
HumanityHumanity
Shame Shame GUILTGUILT Values AmendsValues AmendsContainment Containment
Shame Binds Shame Binds A shame bind A shame bind
happens whenever a happens whenever a codependent begins to codependent begins to
have a feeling and have a feeling and immediately has immediately has
shaming messages go shaming messages go through the mind through the mind about how bad or about how bad or wrong having that wrong having that
feeling is. This stops feeling is. This stops the original feeling and the original feeling and a shame attack takes a shame attack takes
over as the over as the predominant feeling.predominant feeling.
Learn to practice the 3 Learn to practice the 3 stepstep
• Get your history straight – have your feelings about it.Get your history straight – have your feelings about it.• Nurture the child ego states that are stuck in you. Affirm and Nurture the child ego states that are stuck in you. Affirm and
protect.protect.• Meetings, step work, service work, sponsorship to strengthen Meetings, step work, service work, sponsorship to strengthen
the healthy adult self that is being formed. the healthy adult self that is being formed.
Re-parentingProcess
Exercise Recovering Adult
Muscle
Debriefing ChildhoodTrauma
THE BEGINNING – ENJOY THE JO
URNEY
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