emotional intellegence

• M.Abubakar Butt

Corporate Values

Everyone takes the limits of his own

vision for the limits of the world.

Power of Paradigm

Each of us tends to think, we see things as they are, that we

are objective. But this is not the case.

We see the world, not as it is, but as we are – or as we are

Conditioned to see it.

We open our mouth to describe what we see, we in fact; describe

Ourselves, our perception – our paradigms.

When other people disagree with us, we immediately think

Something is wrong with them.

If you keep on doingwhat you have done,

you will keep ongetting what youhave always got

Change

The only thing that each of us can

really change is OURSELVES.

A rule to remember:

"The only thing you can change is

YOU."

Therefore, unless you change...

NOTHING CHANGES.

Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the

ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.

Barack Obama

SurprizeAnger

Sad

Joy

Love

•“Being nice”

•Letting feelings

hang out”

The capacity for recognizing our own feelings and

those of others, for motivating ourselves, and for

managing emotions well in ourselves and in our

relationships.

•a field in infancy

•fast-growing

•Emotional Self-Awareness

•Managing one’s own emotions

•Using emotions to maximize intellectual processing

and decision-making

•Developing empathy

•The art of social relationships

(managing emotions in others)

Goleman’s Categories

Self-Awareness

Self-Regulation

Self-Motivation

Social Awareness

Social Skills

A weak predictor for

achievement

job performance success

overall success, wealth, & happiness

Accounts for a major component of employment

success according to numbers of studies covering

career success; maybe as much as 20-25%.

The Research

shows that IQ can

help you to be

successful to the

extent of 20

percent only in

life.

The rest of 80

percent depends

on your EQ

The

Head

IQThinking

part

The

Heart

EQFeeling

Part

•Tackling Emotional Upsets

•High Self-esteem

•Handling Egoism

•Handling Inferiority Complex

Emotional Competency

•Self Awareness

•Developing Others

•Delaying Gratification

•Adaptability and Flexibility

Emotional Maturity

•Understanding Threshold of Emotional Stimulation

•Empathy

•Improving Inter-personal Relations

•Communicability of Emotions

Emotional Sensitivity

Low EQ Person If only I had a different job….

If only I had finished Graduation….

If only I had been

Handsome/beautiful….

If only my spouse had stopped drinking….

If only I had been born rich and famous

If I had good contacts….

If only I had better friends….

If only I had married someone else….

High EQ Person A time to be aggressive and a time

to be passive

A time to wait and a time to watch

A time to be together and time to be alone

A time to fight and a time to love

A time to work and a time to play

A time to cry and a time to laugh

A time to confront and a time to withdraw

A time to speak and a time to be silent

A time to be patient and a time to decide

1. Taking the time for mindfulness

2. Recognizing and naming emotions

3. Understanding the causes of feelings

4. Differentiating between emotion and the need to take action

5. Preventing depression through “learned optimism”

6. Managing anger through learned behavior or distraction techniques

7. Listening for the lessons of feelings

8. Using “gut feeling” in decision making

9. Developing listening skills

Nine Strategies

for Emotional

Intelligence

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100,000workers for

20years for a single

pyramid – who told

each workers what to

do and make sure they

do it right?

compared to building the

Great Wall, building the

Pyramids was nothing!

AMYGDALAAmygdala is a small part of the brain located just above the Spinal

Cord that stores Emotional Memories, particularly those associated

with Fear.

It is where the Fight or Flight response is resides.

NEOCORTEXThe Cortex can act as a damper switch for the amygdala, but it

can’t prevent the emotional surge from occurring in the first place,

if the stimuli are strong enough.

If you are in a situation that feels

threatening to you physical being or

your ego, it is the amygdala that

stimulates your reaction to either

fight (Aggression) or Flight (Escape).

Emotional brain triggers emotional

reactions before the thinking brain has

any chance to pick up a signal or

evaluate it.

SOME QUOTES"You are precisely as big as what you love and

precisely as small as what you allow annoying

you."

– Robert Anton Wilson

."What you are is what you have been. What

you'll be is what you do now."

- Buddha

."There are no limitations to the mind except

those we acknowledge"

- Napoleon Hill

The term amygdala hijack describes any situation in which a person responds inappropriately based on emotional rather than intellectual factors. The amygdala is the emotional center of the human brain and can create split-second responses when a person is threatened.

Hijacking can cause you to confuse the

facts

Rational brain can be rendered

dysfunctional due to hijacking by

Emotional Brain

As such hijacking can impair decision –

making in the work-place, which can

have serious consequences

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

Between stimulus and response

there is a space. In that space

lies our freedom and power to

choose our response. In those

choices lie our growth and our

happiness.