dealing with critical voices

DEALING WITHCRITICAL VOICES

Let’s begin with story

Meet Buddy!Football Player

He is coming late to the training :(

“If this were a match day,

I would tell you to turn around and go home!”

“Buddy, don’t worry, This isn’t a match. It’s

okay that you’re running a little late.

You’ll just catch up with your group.”

Two vastly different coaches.Two vastly different responses.

Who’s right?

Both are useful!

The right thing is to get used to the different responses without

getting thrown off balance

You can’t control how people respond to you but you can control how you

take them in and how you respond to them.

Be strategic and intentional

Notice

Pause

Think

Notice the voices in your head as voices. A lot of the time, most of us simply believe what we hear – either from other people or from ourselves.

1 Notice

Pause to assess whether the voices in your head are right

2 Pause

Think about the outcome you want. If you think it’ll motivate you, listen to it. If it will demoralize you, don’t.

3 Think

This is an important skill: the ability to ignore critical voices when they’re destructive, without discounting them entirely. They might be useful another time.

The goal is flexibility Comfort with multiple voices is particularly important if you are a team leader.

Because sometimes, both voices are the

perfect combination.