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IntroductionIncident #1When did you have your first crush?How did you act?How long did the crush last?Had you ever talked to the person
before you decided you Liked them?
IntroductionIncident #2 Why was it so frightening for
teenagers to talk on the phone with someone of the opposite sex?
Have you ever experienced such a situation?
How is the best way to handle phone calls?
What can you talk about to ease the tension?
Purposes of Dating Socialization – to develop appropriate social
skills; to practice getting along with others in a different setting
Recreation – to have fun and enjoy the companionship of others; to try new and different activities
Mate Selection – to see others and compare their personalities and characteristics
Purposes of Dating Try different things
- to know what you really like- it’s boring to always do the same thing
- there may be another one just as good or better out there
Others influence our Choices Sometimes things are not what they
seem
Avenue of Adolescent Attractions
Getting Acquainted St.Conversations during class or in the hall, glances, smiles
Friendship Blvd.Sharing common activities or friends, writing notes/texts, friendly shoves, hits or pushes; common work place or community groups.
Avenue of Adolescent Attractions
Phone Call CircleSilly calls or calls for information about a school project or another friend; an occasional prank-call
Group Socialization St.Sharing gossip, hugging, working on school activities or projects, going to the movies, mall, or to another person’s house to watch a movie or eat
Avenue of Adolescent Attractions
Group Dating DriveGroups of 3+ girls and 3+ boys, meeting for specific activities – movies, dinner, sports, etc. Pairing off doesn’t occur; group members are simply friends
Double Dating Drive2 girls and 2 boys who have paired off go together for an activity of any kind; a romantic attraction is involved
Avenue of Adolescent Attractions
Pairing Parkway1 girl and 1 boy who have paired off go together for an activity of any kind. The couple know each other well, and want to spend time together alone.
Stages of Dating – #1 Gushy
Want to please each other
Write name on everything
Tend to like the same things
May not tell the complete truth
Need to touch & hug; physical
Co-equals in relationship Never late Lots of kissing and talking on the phone Swollen lips from so much kissing Forget your friends Everything is funny
Stages of Dating – #2 Playing Games
Swollen eyes from crying (girls)
Crossed out name Lots of ups &
downs Remembering your
friends again
Trying to get the other person to do something Jealous Power struggles
Stages of Dating – #3 Goal Directed
Trust Like to see them do
things w/ their friends
Don’t paw all over each other
Want to see each other happy
More mature & real Can show each other the good and bad sides Looking to make a commitment
You can move through all 3 stages Each couple will have their own speed You can skip stages or repeat them
Stages of Dating
3 A’s of Emotional NeedsAcceptance - receive with approval or
favor
Affection - fond attachment, devotion, or love
Appreciation - gratitude; thankful recognition
3 A’s of Emotional NeedsLove Language is The way one sends and receives messages of
Acceptance, Affection, and Appreciation
It is much harder than sexual expression
Dating Right of Ways1. Be Yourself2. An enjoyable, safe date3. Have your values respected4. Care for and protect your body5. Establish and protect your reputation6. Be free from guilt and fear7. Say “NO”8. Write 3 more dating rights you feel are
important and that are not listed above
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