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Knowing Homework• Write down two ways each of

your children is like you and two ways each of your children is unlike you.

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TOUCHSTONE PASSAGES ON FATHERING

The Heart of a father in the New Testament (John 20:17-21, 1 Thess. 2:9-11, Luke 15:11-32

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Secret # 3...CONSISTENCY

Predictability in personal and fathering practices

Key impact on children’s security

What are your words for consistency?

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Secret # 3...CONSISTENCY

Moods Presence at homeKeeping promisesMoralityEthicsDaily scheduleHobbies and interestsPhysical condition

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Every Family is A Little Dysfunctional

• The law of averages means all of us lie outside the bell middle on some item.

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Strong Fathers Have

Relationships With Other

Fathers.

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ConsistencyPractical Action Tips

Inventory emotions, discuss with wife, kidsPromises-keep... And don’t over promiseMaintain relationships with other fathersStandardize work schedules, provide travel

itinerary, call when on the roadPlan regularly scheduled family time

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Small group activity

What did I learn about my fathering from the profile?

What was the most profound insight I gained from this session?

What specific actions will I take?

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Consistency Discussion

• Every young “mapmaker” needs an environment of stability. Our children need us to be regular and predictable in our person, our actions, and our habits.

• List some of the areas in which your children look to you for consistency.

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Consistency Discussion

• Consistency is synonymous with trust. How can your becoming consistent strengthen your children’s trust in you?

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Consistency Discussion

• What are three things your father did consistently with you over the years? What is one thing you wish he had become consistent in?

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Consistency Discussion

• What are three things your father did consistently with you over the years? What is one thing you wish he had become consistent in?

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Consistency Discussion

• How do you perceive God as a consistent father? What specifically, does he do to demonstrate his consistency?

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Consistency Discussion

• If a father is divorced and does not have custody of his children, how can he display consistent actions toward his children? What are some practical things he can do?

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ConsistencyPractical Action Tips

Inventory emotions, discuss with wife, kidsPromises-keep... And don’t over promiseMaintain relationships with other fathersStandardize work schedules, provide travel

itinerary, call when on the roadPlan regularly scheduled family time

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Consistency Homework

• Pick one of the items or another you want to build trust. Discuss it with another man.