confronting self sabotage

Confronting Self Sabotage

Presented byAlan H. Culpeper, CPPO, VCO

Newton’s Law

For every action there is an equal and

opposite reaction.

Elements of the Game

• A Limited Time to Play

• A Small Challenge

• A Score

Going Beyond

Procurement Self Sabotaging Assessment

Assessment Results• 0 questions, you are free from self sabotage.• 2 questions, you are moderately self sabotaging.• 4 questions, you are in the middle just like all the

other psychological surveys you’re ever taken.• 6 questions, you are strongly self sabotaging.• 8 questions or more, you are likely consumed by self

sabotage whether you know it or not!

Redesigning Your Playbook

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Redesigning Your Playbook

1. Rewriting the Formula for Success2. Raise your Deserve Level3. The Fear of Potential Success4. Never waving the White Flag of Surrender5. Understanding those little voices inside

your head6. Resisting the idea of Throwing in the

Towel

Formula For Success

Hard Work + Success = Goals/HappyGoals/Happy + Success =Work Hard

Raise Your Deserve Level

Nothing will beat an attempt, but a try

New Game Rule

Giving Yourself “Permission”

The Fear of SuccessAs Purchasing Agents we must take full responsibility for our actions, and never try to shift the blame. Our job is not to assign blame, but to make the best of every circumstance and to meet every new challenge to our objective.

New Game Rule

It’s O.K. to get Angry.

Waving the White Flag of Surrender

Believing in yourself is an endless destination

Believing you have failed is the end of the journey

Why People Give Up

• Difficulty

• Responsibility

• Overwhelming Feeling

• Time

Opt-Out

Ask Ask and Then Ask Again

• Have a positive expectation

• Keep asking• Make your request

clear and specific

• What do you want?• To whom do you feel

you can’t say “No” to without being reprimanded?

• To whom can you say “No” and still get away with it?

Our Inability to Ask The Amount of Guilt to Say “No”

New Rules to the Game

Ask for what you want&

You can say “No”

Little Voice Inside Your Head

Without that little voice in your head, you wouldn’t be able to

read this.

The Power of the Unconscious Mind

Preventing Negative Thoughts• Interrupt the

thought and say “STOP”

• Use only Positive Statements

• Believe in what you are saying

• Feel good about yourself

• Be Specific

Throwing in the Towel

“Age wrinkles the body. Quitting wrinkles the soul”Douglas MacArthur

New Designed Plays

1. New Formula for Success2. Raising your Deserve Level3. Reaching your full Potential Success4. Never waving the White Flag of Surrender5. Understanding those little voices inside

your head6. Resisting the idea of Throwing in the

Towel

New Rules to the Game• Give Yourself

Permission

• Angry is o.k.

• Always Ask

• You can say “No”

Never Give Up!

10 Simple Rules to Prevent Self-Sabotage

10. If at first you don’t succeed, remove all evidence you ever tried.

9. If a first you do succeed, try not to look too startled.

8. You have to be 100% behind someone before you can stab them in the back.

10 Simple Rules to Prevent Self-Sabotage

7. Don’t play cat-and-mouse games if you have any reason to suspect that you might be the mouse.

6. If you can’t do things correctly, at least be consistent.

5. Never underestimate the power of very stupid people in large groups.

10 Simple Rules to Prevent Self-Sabotage

4. It’s only when you run out of options that the solution becomes clear.

3. Pride, commitment, and teamwork are words used to get you to work for free.

2. Never be too good at the tough jobs; you’ll only be given more of them.

The #1 Rule to PreventSelf-Sabotage

1. Don’t make yourself irreplaceable; If they can’t replace you, they won’t promote you.

Confronting Self Sabotage

Presented byAlan H. Culpeper, CPPO, VCO