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In the “Mood” for

Porn

Jake Larson Teaching Pastor, Arcade Church, Sacramento, CA

Chapter 9

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I. What are Moods?

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I. What are Moods?

– Starbucks

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I. What are Moods?

– Starbucks– What are moods ?

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I. What are Moods?

– Starbucks– What are moods ? – This internal alarm…– The “Starbucks” mood

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I. What are Moods?

– Starbucks– What are moods ? – This internal alarm…– The “Starbucks” mood– Seems to be only one response

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I. What are moods?

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I. What are moods?

– They are triggers – internal ones that move us to do something

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I. What are moods?

– They are triggers – internal ones that move us to do something

– Moods often times trigger us to do something we don’t want to do

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I. What are moods?

– They are triggers – internal ones that move us to do something

– Moods often times trigger us to do something we don’t want to do

– A “TRIGGER” is something that takes you from one thing to another

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I. What are moods?

– They are triggers – internal ones that move us to do something

– Moods often times trigger us to do something we don’t want to do

– A “TRIGGER” is something that takes you from one thing to another

– Things are normal one minute, then the next, you are not doing well

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II. What moods trigger you?

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II. What moods trigger you?

– Stress / papers / too much to do

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II. What moods trigger you?

– Stress / papers / too much to do– Sometimes a mood is created by a

pattern of behavior – like your “weekend routine” drink, sex, etc.

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II. What moods trigger you?

– Stress / papers / too much to do– Sometimes a mood is created by a

pattern of behavior – like your “weekend routine” drink, sex, etc.

– You most likely are not “in the mood for pornography” every moment of every day

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II. What moods trigger you?

– Stress / papers / too much to do– Sometimes a mood is created by a

pattern of behavior – like your “weekend routine” drink, sex, etc.

– You most likely are not “in the mood for pornography” every moment of every day

– The goal is to be able to identify them

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III. Why do moods trigger us?

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III. Why do moods trigger us?

– To pursue Godliness is to pursue adversity.

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III. Why do moods trigger us?

– To pursue Godliness is to pursue adversity.

– Ephesians 6:16

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III. Why do moods trigger us?

– To pursue Godliness is to pursue adversity.

– Ephesians 6:16– You are in a battle!

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III. Why do moods trigger us?

– To pursue Godliness is to pursue adversity.

– Ephesians 6:16– You are in a battle!

Moods affect your RESPONSE to temptation!

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IV. Cycle of temptation

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IV. Cycle of temptation

– Stimulation

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IV. Cycle of temptation

– Stimulation– Entertainment

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IV. Cycle of temptation

– Stimulation– Entertainment– Action

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IV. Cycle of temptation

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IV. Cycle of temptation

1. STIMULATION:– The first look

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IV. Cycle of temptation

1. STIMULATION:– The first look– The thought of sitting down and what you

could do online

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IV. Cycle of temptation

1. STIMULATION:– The first look– The thought of sitting down and what you

could do online– Going in the door at your girlfriends--then

shutting the door behind you

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IV. Cycle of temptation

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IV. Cycle of temptation

2. ENTERTAINMENT:– I might be interested

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IV. Cycle of temptation

2. ENTERTAINMENT:– I might be interested– Letting the thought in

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IV. Cycle of temptation

2. ENTERTAINMENT:– I might be interested– Letting the thought in– You have “opened the door” for the salesman

and are now talking to him

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IV. Cycle of temptation

2. ENTERTAINMENT:– I might be interested– Letting the thought in– You have “opened the door” for the salesman

and are now talking to him– Entertaining the idea can create a kind of “porn

fog” – where you are in this mental state where you don’t think straight

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IV. Cycle of temptation

2. ENTERTAINMENT:– I might be interested– Letting the thought in– You have “opened the door” for the salesman

and are now talking to him– Entertaining the idea can create a kind of “porn

fog” – where you are in this mental state where you don’t think straight

– You begin to do things you never thought you would do – cross boundaries you never thought you would cross

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IV. Cycle of temptation

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IV. Cycle of temptation

3. ACTION:– Relapse

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IV. Cycle of temptation

3. ACTION:– Relapse– Acting on the temptation

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IV. Cycle of temptation

3. ACTION:– Relapse– Acting on the temptation– Using pornography – or doing something else

that is against your sobriety statement

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IV. Cycle of temptation

3. ACTION:– Relapse– Acting on the temptation– Using pornography – or doing something else

that is against your sobriety statement

I understand. I know what this is like. BUT I KNOW THAT I WAS NOT DESIGNED FOR THIS.

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IV. Cycle of temptation

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IV. Cycle of temptation

Summary:• God designed “stimulation” –

“entertainment” – “action”

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IV. Cycle of temptation

Summary:• God designed “stimulation” –

“entertainment” – “action”• But it was designed to take place inside

a marriage relationship

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IV. Cycle of temptation

Summary:• God designed “stimulation” –

“entertainment” – “action”• But it was designed to take place inside

a marriage relationship• Don’t be tricked into thinking that it

doesn’t matter who or what is at the “end” of the cycle

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V. Do Something

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V. Do Something

– Put boundaries in place so you don’t keep falling into the same temptations

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V. Do Something

– Put boundaries in place so you don’t keep falling into the same temptations

– Deciding in advance that you are not going to put yourself in situations that cause you to go through this cycle

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V. Do Something

– Put boundaries in place so you don’t keep falling into the same temptations

– Deciding in advance that you are not going to put yourself in situations that cause you to go through this cycle

– But don’t set boundaries that are just about “not looking at porn”

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V. Do Something

– Put boundaries in place so you don’t keep falling into the same temptations

– Deciding in advance that you are not going to put yourself in situations that cause you to go through this cycle

– But don’t set boundaries that are just about “not looking at porn”

• Don’t go “searching” – feeling your way around the “edges” of the porn

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V. Do Something

– Put boundaries in place so you don’t keep falling into the same temptations

– Deciding in advance that you are not going to put yourself in situations that cause you to go through this cycle

– But don’t set boundaries that are just about “not looking at porn”

• Don’t go “searching” – feeling your way around the “edges” of the porn

• Example, “I can look at Maxim, but not Hustler”

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V. Do Something

– Put boundaries in place so you don’t keep falling into the same temptations

– Deciding in advance that you are not going to put yourself in situations that cause you to go through this cycle

– But don’t set boundaries that are just about “not looking at porn”

• Don’t go “searching” – feeling your way around the “edges” of the porn

• Example, “I can look at Maxim, but not Hustler”

– Set boundaries that are more about what you will do – PURSUE GOD

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Just a little porn is not OK

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