bullying in and out of our schools

Advanced Clinical Experience Project

By Desiree Ann MitzelSpring 2012

“DIGNITY FOR ALL STUDENTS”

STOP BULLYING!

WHAT ARE SIX THINGS YOU NEED TO DO IN ORDER TO STAY HEALTHY?

1.Eat Healthy Foods2.Exercise Every Day3.Stay Safe4.Get Plenty of Rest5.Positive Attitude6.Drink Lots Of Water

Bullying

In and Out of Our Schools

“There is a light at the end of the tunnel but first you'll have to find the light switch and change the bulb before switching it on yourself.“

- Tim Field

EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT!

No One Deserves

To Be Bullied!

Bullying by other students

Harassment Discriminatio

n

Some of us are tall!

Some of us are short!

Some of us are fat.

Some of us are

thin.

Some of us walk with crutches.

Some of us get

around in wheelchai

rs.

EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT!

EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT!

Some of us are good at sport.

Some of us are good at art.

Some of us are good at music.

Some of us are good at math.

Some of us have red hair.

Some of us have dark hair.

Some of us have blonde hair.

It Would Be Boring If We Were All The Same!

It’s Good To Be Different!

Some of us even come from different countries.

Remember: What makes you different, makes you special!

BULLYING CAN OCCUR

PLAYGROUND HALLWAY

Children usually are bullied by one child or a small group

Bullying is more common at school than on the way to/from school

CLASSROOM

BATHROOM

LUNCHROOM

WHERE?

If you or someone you know is being bullied...

When you are being bullied, it is hard to concentrate

You probably feel unhappy and scared.

Perhaps you are keeping the bullying a secret because the bully has threatened you.

But staying silent means the bullying won’t stop.

…Tell and get help.

If you are a bully

You will have real friends, not people, who are only there because they are afraid of you.

Becoming a good person will make you feel better about yourself

You will find some

nice friends.

….You can change your behavior

TYPES OF BULLYING….

PHYSICAL

VERBAL

EMOTIONAL

Types of bullying

Won’t let others talk to you.

Stopping other children playing with you.

Hitting you on purpose.

Won’t leave you alone even when you say “I’ve had enough.”

Saying unkind things

about you.

Thinking it’s fun to make you sad.

PHYICAL BULLYING CAN INCLUDE Pushing

Kicking Hitting Pinching Any other forms of

violence

VERBAL BULLYING CAN BE

Name-callingSarcasmSpreading RumorsThreats

EMOTIONAL BULLYING CAN INCLUDE

Excluding Others

Making fun of others

Humiliation

Tormenting

(Examples: hiding books,

threatening gestures),

Long-Term Implications of Being Bullied

Low self-esteemDepressionPerceive school as

unsafeMiss more days of

school than friends….in turn, learning is affected

STEP UP BULLY PREVENTION VIDEO

Let’s Listen To The Story Called…..

STICKS AND STONES

Luke was happily walking to school minding his own business whistling as he went. Suddenly he heard someone shout “Get out of my way Pee Wee!” As he turned around he saw Kevin, the biggest boy in school, racing towards him on his skateboard. Luckily he leapt out of the way just in time to avoid being knocked over.

MOVE PEE

WEE!

On his way home Luke saw Kevin with his dog waiting on the corner. Luke kept walking and hoped for the best. “Hey Shrimp, what’s it like down there,” laughed Kevin. “You are the most pathetic excuse for a boy I have ever seen.”What could Luke

do now?

Luke ran home as quickly as he could just hoping that Kevin or his dog wouldn’t chase him. When he got home he went into his bedroom and sat alone, quietly wondering why Kevin was being so mean to him. How do you think

Luke is feeling, sitting in his room?

The next day Luke spent all day trying to stay away from Kevin.

Unfortunately he only managed to do it until lunch time……..

“You’re so small and scrawny I could squash you and feed you to my dog Tyson. Where do you buy your clothes, the baby section?” laughed Kevin. Luke tried to hold back the tears but eventually they began to trickle down his cheeks.

As his alarm went off the next morning Luke rubbed his eyes and wished he didn’t have to go to school. “I could tell mom that I’m not very well, maybe she will let me stay home,” he thought.What do you think

would happen if Luke doesn’t go to school today?

“I’m sorry Luke but you don’t seem that ill to me. You shouldn’t take time off school unless you are really ill,” said Mrs Thomas. “Should I tell mom about Kevin?” thought Luke.

Can mom help me?

Luke started to laugh too, as he thought about what Kevin had said. “Feed me to his dog, what a ridiculous idea” chuckled Luke.

Luke’s mom said to Luke that she thought the names Kevin had called him were silly names. “Shrimp, is that the best he can do?” giggled Luke’s mom.

The next day when Kevin started to say mean things Luke didn’t start to cry. Instead he thought about how silly Kevin was and began laughing. Kevin tried again but Luke just laughed even harder.

Kevin finally got bored with Luke laughing at him and just carried on walking to school.

Luke enjoyed going to school again.

The End

Bullying Is WrongHitting them Kicking them Calling them namesSending them threatening

text messages Spreading rumors about

themDoing anything else which

is intended to be upsetting

Nobody has the right to hurt other people by….

What Does It Feel Like To Be Bullied?

Bullying can mean many different things.

Being pushed or pulled

Being hit

Beingteased

Being called names

Having rumours

spread about you

Having your

things taken

Being ignored

or left out

Bullying Hurts Bullying makes you scared and upset.

• Bullying can make you so worried that you can't work well at school.

Some children make up excuses so they don’t have to go to school.

Bullying can make you feel that you are no good, that there is something wrong with you.

Bullies can make you feel that it's your fault.

Why do you bully certain people?

She’s quiet and won’t tell on me.

She’s the teacher’s

pet.

He’s got more

friends than me

You look scared I can easily make

you cry.

KINDNESS

COMPASSION

LET’S WATCH THE VIDEO ABOUT RACHEL’S CHALLENGE

You May Just Start A Chain

Reaction”-Rachel Scott

“THINK ELEMENTARY”

RACHEL’S CHALLENGE

RACHEL’S

5 MESSAGES

RACHEL SCOTT’S KINDNESS ESSAY

THINGS WE SHOULD DO…..

THINGS WE SHOULD NOT DO…..

THINGS WE SHOULD DO…..

Seek adult help

Do not participate in the harassment of the victim

Offer kind words to the victim

Do not become involved in rumors and gossip

If you can effectively communicate with the bully, tell the bully that he is doing inappropriate things

Do not become involved in physical or verbal fights with a bully

THINGS WE SHOULD NOT DO…..

Don't try to deal with the problem on your own. There is nothing wrong with asking for help.

Don't hit the people who are bullying you. You might end up being accused of bullying yourself.

Always tell the truth about what has happened. Don't exaggerate. If a small part of what you are saying is shown to be untrue then it throws everything else into doubt.

Don't hide what is happening from the adults you trust. Keeping things secret is the bullies' biggest weapon. That is why they go to so much trouble to stop you telling.

CYBER BULLYING

Other Names For Cyberbullying…

Electronic Bullying

Online Social Cruelty

CYBER BULLYING IS…

Being cruel to others by sending or posting harmful material using technological means

An individual or group that uses information and communication involving electronic technologies to

Facilitate deliberate and repeated harassment

Threat to an individual or group.

Distribution of cyber bullying venues used by young people in the US, according to the Centers for Disease Control

CYBER BULLIES’ TECHNOLOGY E-mail

Cell phonesPager text messagesInstant messagingPersonal web sitesOnline personal

polling web sitesChat rooms

DIFFERENCES

BULLYING DIRECT

Occurs on school property

Poor relationships with teachers

Fear retributionPhysical: Hitting, Punching & ShovingVerbal: Teasing, Name calling & GossipNonverbal: Use of gestures & Exclusion

www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov

CYBERBULLYING

• ANONYMOUS

Occurs offschool property

Good relationships with teachers

Fear loss of technology privileges

Further under the radar than bullying

• Emotional reactions cannot be determined

{McKenna & Bargh, 2004; Ybarra & Mitchell, 2004

How Can We STOP BULLYING?

Let’s STOP Bullying Together

BEING BULLIED?What Can You Do?

STAND UP Straight

Look The Bully In The Eyes

Walk Away Without Saying A Word

If the Bully Continues to

Bother You

Take a deep breath and say ‘No!’ very loudly NO!

How would you feel?

How would the bully feel?

Let’s Stop Bullying

Together

TELL, TELL, TELL!!

Practice what you want to say.

Keep a note or diary of what is happening.

Don't give up.

Ask your parents to visit the school.

Talk over what to do with a friend, teacher, your mom or

dad or someone you trust

If you are being bullied, you can do something

about it. You can make a

difference

Too Many Letters!

Linda is tearing her hair out because she has too many bullying letters. Can you help by answering some of the letters for her?

LETTER #1

Dear Linda,

I am 9 years old. When I play on the yard in school I get tripped up and bigger boys keep taking my dinner money. I hate going to school, whatcan I do?

Gavin

What would you do?

LETTER #2Dear Linda,I have seen a group of childrenin my school picking on anotherboy. They steal his money andoften hit him. Once theysmashed his glasses and threw them in the toilet. I feel really sorry for him. I would like totry and help but I don’t want to get on the wrong side of thebullies. Is there anything I can do?

JoshWhat

would you do?

LETTER #3Dear Linda,I am a 12 year old girl and I am being bullied through a website.Everyone in school goes on there but a group of girls have been posting really nasty things about me. I tried talking to the girls but they told me that if I tell anybody they will post more messages and beat me up on my way home from school.

Joanne

What would you

do?

Bullying Quiz Show

Quiz Time

Find out how much you know about bullying. Do you know what makes a bully and what to do if someone is being bullied?

Question 1You and your best friend Dean

have an argument and you decide not to speak to him anymore. Is this a form of bullying?

YES NO

Question 2As well as not speaking to Dean yourself you tell everyone in your class that they should not speak to Dean. Is this a form of bullying?

YES NO

Question 3During a school soccer game, an

opposition player comes behind you and you and kicks your ankle. You can’t play the rest of the game, have you been the victim of bullying?

YES NO

Question 4You think it is funny to pass

notes around your class that say untrue things about a girl or boy in your class. Are you a bully?

YES NO

Question 5You see a year 6 girl

picking on a year 3 boy on the school yard. What should you do?

Tell an adultwhat has happened

Ignore it, she isn’t

doing anything to

you.

Question 6A boy who is 2 years older

than you has taken your sandwiches off you everyday this week so you have had nothing for lunch. What would be the best thing to do?

Tell an adultwhat has happened

Ask your motherfor lunch money

instead

Remember!

Say “NO!” really loudly

NO!

PRACTICE EACH DAY!

Stand up straight, in front of a mirror

Look at your eyes -make them

look stern

Remember!

Everyone is different and you should be proud of who you are!

Remember!

Treat others the way you would like to be treated and you’ll find making friends is easy.

THE END!!!