being cool: respect for all. [insert school name] our school is safe and cares about you. we treat...

“Being Cool: Respect for All”

[Insert School Name]• Our school is safe and cares about you.

• We treat everyone with compassion and respect.

• We are all here to help you.

• Bullying and harassment are not acceptable.

Our School Mission

• To help you to succeed in becoming the Vision of the Hawaii Public School Graduate

• To nurture & support your talents and skills in reaching your goals

“Be Safe, Be Kind, Be Responsible”• [Insert your school’s own schoolwide

behavioral expectations and/or core ethical values]

• [Discuss how these are your school’s acceptable behaviors]

Your Responsibility: General Learner Outcomes

• Responsible for your own learning

• Work well with others

• Engage in complex thinking & problem solving

• Produce quality products

• Communicate effectively

• Use technology effectively and ethically

Your Mission:

Become a contributing member of society

Because We Care About You . . .

2 in 3 middle school students in Hawaii say bullying is a problem

1 in 2 high school students in Hawaii say bullying is a

problem

2007 Youth Behavioral Risk Survey

Is bullying a problem in Hawaii schools?

Is bullying & harassment a problem?Hawaii Youth Risk Behavioral Survey

(YRBS) 2007

Middle School

(%)

High School

(%)

Had been hurt by having mean things said to them on internet or email

20 24

Had been hurt by hitting, punching, or kicking while on school property one or more times

33 24

Had been hurt by having mean things said to them while on school property

33 45

Had been harassed because someone thought they were gay, lesbian, or bisexual

10 13

Bullying has many names

• Rumors, gossip

• Exclusion

• Rejection

• Teasing and taunting

• Assault

• Harassment

• Extortion

Bullying Continuum

Chapter 19 2009 Definition

• “Bullying” means any written, verbal, graphic, or physical act that a student or group of students exhibits toward other particular student(s) and the behavior causes mental or physical harm to the other student(s); and is sufficiently severe, persistent, or pervasive that it creates an intimidating, threatening, or abusive educational environment for the other student(s).

Chapter 19 2009 Definition• “Cyberbullying” means electronically transmitted acts, i.e.,

Internet, cell phone, personal digital assistance (PDA), or wireless hand-held device that a student has exhibited toward another student or employee of the department which causes mental or physical harm to the other student(s) or school personnel and is sufficiently severe, persistent or pervasive that it creates an intimidating, threatening, or abusive educational environment:

• (1) On campus, or other department of education premises, on department of education transportation, or during a department of education sponsored activity or event on or off school property;

• (2) Through a department of education data system without department of education authorized communication; or

• (3) Through an off campus computer network that is sufficiently severe, persistent, or pervasive that it creates an intimidating, threatening, or abusive educational environment for the other student or school personnel, or both.

Take a minute and think about

How would you feel if . . .

• He stole my wallet. He said if I told anyone he is going to punch me out.

• “She’s a real pig.” They keep teasing me and nobody talks to me.

• At recess they make fun of me because I walk with a limp.

• They always push me out of the lunch line, saying, “Move over Shorty, you belong in the back.”

• “You fag, get out of here.” But I am not a fag. Why do they tease me?

Is Bullying . . .Fair? Deserved? Funny?

Bullying is Harmful

“Two minutes of bullying can last you

a lifetime.”

Bullying & harassing . . .

• Hurts people

• Interferes with learning

• [Have students contribute a list of negative impacts of bullying & harassing]

Don’t Laugh at Me (hip hop version)

• http://www.operationrespect.org/videos/babyj.mov

Bullying Quiz – True of False

• Bullying is a part of growing up and has a minor effect on victims.

• A bully usually attacks when no one else is watching.

• If students fought back, bullies would leave them alone.

• Hanging out with classmates only increases the risks of being bullied.

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Reflection . . .

So, if you are being bullied,

what should you do?

If your friend is a victim of bullying, what should you

do?

Reflection . . .

If you are bullying others, what are you doing . . .

Reflection

If you were a bystander seeing the bullying

happen, how do you feel and what should you

do?

Why Some Bully?

• Way to become popular– Look tough and take charge

• Do it for attention

• To make people afraid of them

• May be jealous of the person they are bullying

Why Some Bully?

• Some bullies may not understand how wrong their behavior is and how it makes the person being bullied feel.

• They may be being bullied themselves at home or outside of school.

Practice:“Stop”• Stop signal

–Hold the stop hand signal firmly out

–Give eye contact to the bullier

–Use a clear voice and say “Stop”

• If the problem continues then . . .

Practice: “Walk”• Walk Away–Walk away from the situation

–Walking away removes the reinforcement for the problem behavior

• If the problem continues then . . .

Practice: “Talk”• Talk: Report problem to an adult

• Talking is not “tattling”– “Talking” is problem solving– “Tattling” is when you don’t use “stop”

and “walk away”• “Tattling” is when your goal is to get other

person in trouble

Remember . . .

• Treat others the way you would like to be treated.

• “Two minutes of bullying can last you a lifetime.”

• Someone will always want to help.

• Someone will always care!

References/Resources

Let’s Get Real (video)

By Debra Chasnoff, Helen S, Cohen, and Kate Stilley

The Bully, The Bullied and Beyond (book)

By Esther Williams, M.ED, LPC

Operation Respect, Don’t Laugh At Me, Performed by Baby Jay. Directed by Kenn Bell. Produced by Starlight Runner Entertainment.

Sticks and Stones: Teleschool Express Video

Close positively (example)

• Thank you for being a • Respectful Tiger!

• Thanks being a Cool Wave Rider Respecting All!

• A Cool Dragon: Respect for All! Right on!