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AYSO should be fun for everyone!

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Keep Calm and Carry OnA Rx for Leadership Stress

Leadership can be a heavy burden.

Volunteer leadership can generate high levels of anxiety and stress.

Let’s identify and define leadership stress.

Offer creative, practical and innovative methods to deal with leadership stress before . . .

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Who are AYSO’s “Leaders?”

Regional Commissioners, Regional Coach/Referee Administrators, Board Members, Coaches, Referees . . .

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What Qualities Define a Leader?

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What Qualities Define a Leader?Volunteer Leadership Qualities Key Words

Team Manager (problem solver)

Referee (settles interpersonal conflicts)

Goalkeeper (ensures goals are met)

Equipment Coord. (finds and manages resources)

Visionary (plans ahead)

Firefighter (puts out everyday fires)

Motivator (Pollyanna Activity Leader)

Drill Sergeant (Keeps Group On Track/Calendars)

Counselor (reports/helps with personnel issues)

Striker (risk taker, outside-the-box)

Coach (“expert” who thinks they know “everything”)62013

In AYSO, what kinds of situations

can cause stress?

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Stress Triggers

• Spectators yelling at referees• Not enough coaches or referees• Difficult parents• Negative Regional Board Members• Volunteers who don’t do their jobs• Balanced team problems• Procrastination

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13 Strategies to Keep Leadership Stress Under Control

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1. Identify high priority items first.

2. Avoid spending too much time on less important items.

3. Use calendaring skills to budget for larger events.

4. Develop simple rating system to assess priorities.

Prioritize

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1. Weed out those tasks that are not productive.

Sort

2. Do not add to your “to-do” list without completing, removing and reducing items on your current list.

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1. Challenge is a key part of leadership; it helps us keep up our creativity and competitiveness.

Remain Positive

2. Thinking positively will do a lot to ward-off stress-producing negativity.

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Rules of Thumb for Successful Delegation

1. Know what to delegate.2. Be picky with who you choose.3. Check for understanding.4. Allow for frequent progress reports.5. Support the volunteer.

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Stay Active

Exercise is a great mechanism to control anger, depression and other elements of leadership stress.

What are some exercises you think would be effective?

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Organize Yourself

1. Clean up your desk/workspace.

2. Sort and organize computer data files.

3. Group or classify your email and cell phone contacts.

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Talk Out Tough Issues

1. Sharing “war stories” can relieve unwanted tension.

2. Keep your volunteer responsibilities in perspective.

3. Try not to “dump” too many stress-related concerns on the home front.

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If someone around you is causing you a lot of stress, stop and talk it over.

Be Honest

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Scenario 1: An RC talking to an RRA who’s negative and always late.

Scenario 2: A coach trying to convince a parent not to yell at the referees.

Scenario 3: An RCA dealing with a coach who refuses to attend training.

Give it a Try

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When leadership stress becomes overwhelming or you are feeling stressed...

Reflection

schedule some time to relax and reflect..

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Don’t overextend yourself! Balance your life with work, AYSO, family, friends and hobbies.

Maintain a Balance

What do you do for fun?

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Control Contact Time

Set hours to be on-the-job. Communicate these hours to your Regional Board Members.

Stick to it - and train those around you to respect your “off hours”.

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Clarity is Key

S.M.A.R.T. goals keep volunteers motivated and energized.

Specific

Measurable

Achievable

Realistic

Timely

Write down your goals and regularly evaluate them.

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Have Fun!

Humor makes our perspective more positive and help us deal with challenges in a more constructive way.

Laughter:

•Connects us with others.

•Detracts focus from anger, guilt or stress.

•Is contagious and reduces stress levels.

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Thank you

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