anger management in students

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PATHFINDER GLOBAL SCHOOL, PATAUDI

PRESENTATION ON: ANGER MANAGEMENT IN STUDENTS

Presentation by: Divyashu SharmaSchool Counsellor

Pathfinder Global School, Pataudi

Presentation by:Divyashu Sharma(School Counsellor)

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INTRODUCTIONDo you find yourself fuming when someone

cuts you off in traffic? Does your blood pressure go through the

roof when your child refuses to cooperate? Or any situation makes you angry in daily

life.

Myths about angerAnger is dangerousWe should not express our angerAnger is badAnger is goodAnger is sinMales have more anger

Anger is a normal and even healthy emotion — but it's important to deal with it in a positive way. Uncontrolled anger can take a toll on both your health and your relationships.

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Difference between

Anger

and

Aggression

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Negative effects of anger Bodily system becomes rigid

and impure We damage or abuse others Broken relationship

“Holding on to anger is like

grasping a hot coal with the

intent of throwing it at

someone else; you are the

one who gets burned.”  -

Buddha

Positive effects of anger

• Energize us to do something

• Enable us to assertive

• Help us to survive

• It is a way of communication

• Motivate us to take action

Nobody makes you angry without

your concern

Causes of angerHigh expectationFaulty perception and thinkingPersonality factorPoor communication skillsPoor emotional control

“Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten.”  -Buddha

How do you act when Angry?JudgmentalHateBlamePreoccupiedTake revengeDistrust

“Anger and intolerance are the enemies of correct understanding.” -Gandhi

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ANGER MANAGEMENTCAUSES OF ANGER FALL INTO TWO

CATEGORIES:

EXTERNAL STRESSORS

INTERNAL STRESSORS

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ANGER MANAGEMENTEXTERNAL STRESSOR

MAY BE MAJOR LIFE EVENTS: MOVING DEATH OF SPOUSE, FAMILY MEMBER OR FRIEND DIVORCE

MAY BE CAUSED BY EVERYDAY PRESSURES SUCH AS:•FINANCIAL•DEADLINES•ARGUMENTS •FAMILY CONCERNS •LACK OF SLEEP

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ANGER MANAGEMENTINTERNAL STRESSORS“INSIDE OURSELVES”

THIS TYPE OF STRESSOR MAY PLAY A GREATER ROLE IN THE ANGER OF DAILY LIFE

EXAMPLES ARE:• “VALUES AND BELIEFS”• FAITH• GOALS• SELF-IMAGE • EXPECTATIONS OF SELVES & OTHERS

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ANGER MANAGEMENTANGERDRIVEN BY HORMONES

HORMONES ACT LIKE A CONDUCTOR

HORMONES INNERVATE BODY SYSTEMS/ ORGANS

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ANGER MANAGEMENTWHAT HAPPENS WHEN WE ARE ANGRY: HYPOTHALAMUS STIMULATES PITUITARY PITUITARY RELEASES ACTH INTO BLOOD ACTH STIMULATES ADRENAL GLANDS TO SECRETE

FURTHER CHEMICALS THAT AFFECT OTHER ORGAN SYSTEMS WHAT WE NOTICE:

HEART RATE SPEEDS UPBP RISESBREATHING SPEEDS UPBLOOD TO MUSCLESSWEATINGBLOOD SUGAR INCREASES

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ANGER MANAGEMENTCommon symptoms of Anger:

Physical Mental Behavioural CognitiveMuscle tension Worry, Guilt Tardiness Personality ChangeVomiting/ Nausea Nervousness Serious Appearance Become depressedHeadaches Frustration Increased

frustration & irritable

Feel helpless/ hopeless

Jaw, Neck, Back Pain Moodiness Prone to accidents & addictions

Become explosive/ impulsive

Sleep disturbances Nightmares Overreacting Exaggerated FearsDry Mouth/ Sweaty Palms

Diminished Concentration

Rushing & Tiredness Develop Anxiety/ Panic

Upper respiratory infections, Appetite varies

Impaired Memory or forgetfulness

Nervous habits Develop Physical Problems including CV disease, HBP, Ulcers, Migraine

Cold Hands Reduce productivityBreathing changes (eg. Shallow, sighing)

Social withdrawal

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Anger ManagementHow Do I Do It?

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Skills needed in dealing with your anger:1. Identify a range of feelings including anger2. Identify aggressive acts by self and others3. Identify the potential consequences to self and

other from these aggressive acts4. Identify self-destructive behavior5. Identify thoughts prior to aggressive acts6. Identify internal cues to feelings of anger7. Develop coping mechanisms for dealing with anger8. Express anger without loss of control

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ANGER MANAGEMENTIdentify a range of

feelings including anger:

EmbarrassmentExcitementDisappointmentJealousyFearHelplessSadnessLeft-out

ANGER MANAGEMENTI am in charge of my own feelings:

1. I own my feelings.2. It is okay to feel angry.3. Anger is part of being

human.4. I learn how to express my

anger in helpful ways.

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ANGER MANAGEMENTIdentify aggressive

acts shown by self and others:

Throw somethingKick someone or

somethingGet in someone’s faceShoving, grabbing, hittingBreak somethingCall someone namesGive someone a dirty lookSilent treatmentGet others to “gang up”Spread rumors

ANGER MANAGEMENTI choose to feel good about myself through expressing my feelings.

1.I express angry feelings in ways that are fair to others and me.

2.I use fair words…e.g. “I feel when you”

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ANGER MANAGEMENT The more I learn to take care of

my anger the more powerful I become.

1. I need to control what I do with my anger.

2. I control how I let my anger out.3. I practice cooling off.4. I watch my thoughts.

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ANGER MANAGEMENTIdentify potential

consequences of your anger to others and yourself…what can that mean for you?

Physical harm to someone or self

Destruction of propertyLoss of family/friendsLoss of jobLoss of social privilegesGoing to jailGetting a bad

reputation

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ANGER MANAGEMENTIdentify self-

destructive behavior…How does that help or hurt you?

Negative self-talkBlaming everyone elseTaking everything

personallyAssumingOvereating, drinkingDriving recklesslyTaking drugsLooking for fightsFeeling outraged

ANGER MANAGEMENT I stop blaming others and

myself.1. Blaming only keeps people

upset.2. Blaming is a way of not

respecting people.3. I express my feelings and then

try to work things out.

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ANGER MANAGEMENTIdentify thoughts

prior to aggressive acts:

You did that on purpose…You wanted to hurt me…You deserve this…You never even asked me…You’re being unreasonable…You think you’re so good… I’ll show you…You started it…There’s no justice…

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ANGER MANAGEMENTIdentify internal

cues to feelings of anger:

Stomach gets tight/upsetHeart is beating fasterClenching fistsFeel myself getting flushedPressure on my templesSweaty palmsClenched jaw

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ANGER MANAGEMENTCalm downShow mutual respectName the problemFind solutionsChoose the best solutionCongratulate yourselfReview the solution that was picked

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ANGER MANAGEMENT

LOVE, PRAY, FORGIVE

REALIZE THAT MOST STRESS COMES FROM WITHIN, NOT WITHOUT.

TAKE TIME TO SMELL THE FLOWERS AND TASTE THE STRAWBERRIES.

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THANK YOU

ALL !!!

For queries email:pgscounsellor@gmail.com