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A SUGGESTION

Get over yourself.

The universe is waiting for your magnificence!

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For Openers

“The unexamined life is not worth living”- Socrates

Suppose you take 48-72 hours off from life to examine how you are living it.

Don’t believe a thing that I say.

Just try it on like a jacket . Think it and see what you see. If it doesn’t fit …

Your guarantee…

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You are invited to invest 48 hours or so having fun during which time you will discover the answers to three critical questions:

1.What is possible in life?

2. What is missing in my life that I don’t have this?

3. What is there to do about it?

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Purpose

The purpose of this work is to is to alter your ability to experience living so that life occurs as a curriculum you are living in, and as you experience living in this curriculum, things magically clear up, just in the process of life itself.

The Promise ProgramThe Promise Program

• Power to eliminate any suffering in your life and transform it into an opportunity to celebrate.

Altitude

• Observe yourself

• Power to choose your behavior and thinking rather than being run by them.

Design of the Program

The overall thrust of the program moves you through three aspects of existence:

1. being enabled to observe, “what’s so”

2. being able to add the “so what” to the “ what’s so”.

3. which leaves one standing in a creative place called “now what?”

To Summarize what we are up to:To Summarize what we are up to:

1. Find out where you are right now.

2. Discover how you got that way.

3. Who do you have to be and what is it that you have to do now to realize your desires?

4. What structures need to be put in place?

Where are you?Where are you?

Oh, There you are

How to get the most out of the program

Being coach-able

Moods of learning

Arrogance

Confusion

Perplexity

The Trust Mingle

Objective:An exercise in telling the truth, being honest with the focus on trust.Mechanics:1. You will move about the room and stand in front of one person at a

time.

Based on your experience of that person and your definition or standard trust and declare one of 4 possibilities:

1. I trust you.2. I don’t trust you.3. I’m not sure.4. I don’t care to say.

2. Both partners move on to someone else until I say stop.3. Mingle with the whole group.5. The value comes from just participating fully, noticing thoughts, emotions and physical sensations associated your choice.

KnowledgeKnowledge

KNOW DON’T

KNOW

DON’T KNOW THAT YOUDON’T KNOW

Relate: problems common sense knowledge

Traditional education

RESULTS

Action

BEING

A Taste of the TechnologyA Taste of the Technology

Using distinctions. Using distinctions.

What are they ?

How we work

Checking your experience.

Trying things on.

Definitions vs. Distinctions Definitions close down possibility

Distinctions open up possibility

Distinctions To Get

Distinction Looking goodAltitudeEnlightenmentRealityPerceptionMindHanging up OrdersChoiceVictimResponsibilityForgivingInside jobBeingFuturing

Automatic Survival CommitmentsAutomatic Survival Commitments

Looking good

Being right

Being in control

Avoiding the pain

The Promise For The ProgramThe Promise For The Program

• Power to eliminate any suffering in your life and transform it into an opportunity to celebrate.

Altitude

• Observe yourself

• Power to choose your behavior and thinking rather than being run by them.

How do we know what is real?

With your perceptions.Let’s check it out.

•Flawed –Premature cognitive commitments•Examples: Elephants, Fish, Cats, Humans•Your Business meetings 26

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Perceptions

BIRD IN THE THE HAND Slide 22

Perceptions are Dangerous

What is it?

Purpose

Logic System

Design Function

The MindThe Mind

X V

CONSCIOUS

UNCONSCIOUS

=

a f y y b b b l o d p f y u zd y my u m r w

x

• Are somatic, linguistic phenomenon

• Are usually assessments from the past that are misplaced in the future.

•Are usually unconscious and you think this is just the way that it is.

• Work from the inside out.

•Are contagious

Moods

What does it feel like when “you have to”?

What does it feel like when “you get to”?

Moods

I HAVE TO A. IF I DON’T A … THEN B IF B … THEN C

IF C … THEN D IF D … THEN I WOULD FEEL X, Y, Z.I’D RATHER A THAN ZQUESTION #1 IS THERE ANY “HAVE TO” IN A ?

THE CONCLUSION : YOU HAVE BEEN LYING! YOU HAVE BEEN SAYING “I HAVE TO” WHEN, WHAT YOU REALLY HAVE BEEN DOING IS, “I GET TO” (I CHOOSE TO).

WHAT DOES THE WORD RATHER MEAN?

From A to Z

You are a racketeer!

The Big V is not for victory.

What does it stand for?

Let’s check it out

Why would you do that?

Case #1Tell a true story to your partner in which you were victimized. Give details and be certain that your partner is convinced.

Case #2Now tell the same story only this time tell your partner how you got him or her or them or it todo it to you. (This is make-it-up-time. Just do it!)

Note your experience. How did that feel?

Describe your experience. How did that feel?

It’s story time! (Payoffs &Costs)

LIFEI HAVE TO

I GET TO

Choice

Considerations from the head = options & no possibility.

After considerations from the heart =pure possibility.

ResponsibilityResponsibility is the willingness to acknowledge being cause in the matter. What matter…all matters. That includes:

- what you do to another, - what another does to you, - and, even what another does to another.It is not the truth. It is simply a function of declaration.

ResponsibilityResponsibility

It’s all an inside job!

Do You See Me?

Let’s Check It Out

Forgiveness is a function of responsibility.

Forgiving

Let’s check it out.

Facts+

Interpretation+

Agreement=

The Truth!

(Foundation for Action)

“The Deadly Equation”

STORYABOUT IT

SOMETHINGHAPPENS “IS”

THE Vicious CIRCLE

(The cost of no distinction)

What Is Present In Your Life

Something

Happens

StoryAbout

HUMAN CONDITION

Something

Happens

Standor

Possibility Is

The Origin of Possibility

• What is the meaning or purpose of life?• There isn’t any! • Life is empty & meaningless.• It doesn’t mean anything, and it doesn’t mean anything

that it doesn’t mean anything. • It just doesn’t mean anything!• “Life is a tale, told by an idiot, signifying nothing.” • “Life is but a poor player that struts his hour upon the

stage and is heard from no more.”

What’s it all about anyway?

What’s so. – So What! – Now what?

?Now What?

What is behind the blue steel door?

Some Useful Tools

For “now – whating”

Make one declaration

Clarify: your commitment?

It’s all an inside job

1. Now what?2. How’s it gonna turn out?3. Why?

Ask three questions:

The Now What Process

Identify the circumstance and the accompanying negative thought.

Critical Question # 1. How does thinking this thought make you feel? Good or Bad Powerful or Powerless

If good and powerful, focus your attention on the thought. Your energy will follow your attention. If bad and powerless, move to critical question #2.

Critical Question #2. Choose one of the following: Give my attention to the negative thought. Don’t give my attention to the negative thought.

You can not stop thinking what you are thinking. However, by not giving your attention to a thought, you discover an opening to create an alternative thought. Go to critical question #3.

Critical Question #3. What alternative thought can you generate that: Makes you feel good. Makes you powerful.

The Spiritual Centering Process

Upsets In General

Some things to remember: 1. You are never upset about what you think you are upset about.

2. Suffering is never about the facts and always about the perception.

3. Resistance causes persistence.

4. Anything fully experienced leaves you in calm and joy.

What happened

Interpretation

Emotions

What’s

Possible

What

Actions

Your Current Experience

What Happened

The Hurricane of an Upset

POWER

DemandsDeclarations

Concerns

Commitments

Now what

Wants

Decisions

The Ontological Dissolution OF Upsets

Spiritual Dissolution Of Upsets

1. Become conscious that we are suffering. When we are not feeling well force of habit is to tell ourselves

that we are feeling fine. We need to acknowledge & accept the pain and suffering. We must move towards it and not away from it.

2. Become aware of habitual mind questions that take us away from the discomfort.

Who did this to me? Why did they do it? Assign cause & blame to someone or something else. What questions do you ask yourself?

3. Ask the right questions that take us into the experience of the pain.

4. Become aware of old habitual responses.Blaming, fighting the situation, losing motivation, shame.Condemn ourselves. Moving outward – looking for liberation outside yourself.

5. Make the decision. Now you have enough altitude to recognize an illogical, foolish habit. Requires a firm resolve to break old pattern. I will do everything required to pay attention. It requires practice& repeated resolve.

6.Invoke the divine presence.We need the focus and extra energy.

4. Become aware of old habitual responses.Blaming, fighting the situation, losing motivation, shame.Condemn ourselves. Moving outward – looking for liberation outside yourself.

5. Make the decision. Now you have enough altitude to recognize an illogical, foolish habit. Requires a firm resolve to break old pattern. I will do everything required to pay attention. It requires practice& repeated resolve.

6.Invoke the divine presence.We need the focus and extra energy.

7. Allow going through the whole experience. Just see what you are feeling physically. There is nothing to make sense of.

It is just an experience to go through.

8. After completing the experience and you feel a sense of silence, joy, or gratitude make the affirmation that “Suffering is not in the facts but in my perception”. Hands over heart, eyes closed, inhale & hold, affirm 7 times, exhale.

Resolve & face each experience fully.Body erect, eyes closed, hands on right thigh, Inhale and hold, state, “I am experiencing this feeling completely, then exhale, repeat 7 times.

9. Express gratitude to the divine.

Spirituality is not just about experiencing higher states and mystical happenings, but about re-programming our responses.

Our responses determine our destiny. Responding out of old habits, destroys relationships and causes disease.

Responding through acceptance and experience

causes transformation… creating a new golden age.

Focus

Attuned

Check your understanding

ValidateTheir POV

Being an Effective Weatherman

(Calming The Storm)

Inquire

Ask

Questions

Is it clear that the past has a profound impact on the present?

QUESTIONS

Now, what about our futures?

When do you create the future?

ANSWER: In the present.

Would you like to have a future?

NO!

Answer

It is only an apparency.

The Correction

A human being is likea set of three file drawers.

Filing Error

The Correction

How do we invent a future?

We need an alteration in beingWhere does this occur?Let’s look and see.

The alteration in being occurs

TENNIS ANYONE?

B

How shall I leave you?

Where? Nowhere, which is everywhere!

When? No Time, which is all time!

With what? No-Thing,

This is the End It’s the Beginningor

which is everything!

Now what?

In conclusion

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How did I leave you?

Where? Nowhere, which is everywhere!

When? No Time, which is all time!

With what? No-Thing,

This is the beginning

which is everything!

Now what?

This is the end or

How I Left You

Purpose

Dare To Dream

The purpose of this part of the program is to transform your life from “FRANTIC ACTIVITY” which is a fear based, egoist manifestation of separateness and survival

into a state of “ BEING IN ACTION” which is a divinely inspired, experience of oneness, that makes a difference, is fun, and is financially rewarding.

“Being”

How to Proceed

In the next two days I will give all the pieces.

It will take approximately a lifetime to sort it all out for yourself.

I can’t do it for you.

There are pitfalls along the way. That’s where competent coaching is important.

Dare To Dream

1. Quantum Mechanics – The mechanics of discovering your vision.

2. Quantum Principles – The rules of the game. Slide 75

3. IVAM Process – The process of translating your vision into reality.

4. Enrollment – Inviting buy-in to your vision. s81

5. Action Cycle – Structuring for fulfillment :Who’s going to do what by when.

6. Breakdown Process – Disappearing problems and achieving breakthroughs.

Design

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Quantum Mechanics (where vision comes from)

1. Intention 2. Information gathering 3. Information analysis 4. Incubation 5. Insight 6 Inspiration 7.Implimentation 8. Integration 9 Incarnation

Dare To DreamQuantum Principles

1. The Field (Soul) The deepest most fundamental level of Self A sub-manifest order of being Devoid of energy, particles, information A field of pure possibility (an un – differentiated back ground of everything

nothing)2. Non-Local In Nature One sub- atomic particle can communicate with another without a communication system or energy Can’t be squeezed into space of a body or span of a lifetime S74

An argument for Oneness ( Time and Distance are illusion. So are you ! )Slide 70

All creativity comes from this (contrasted with reactivity) and is non algorithmic and discontinuous in nature.

4. Uncertainty The only real experience of existence.

Anything certain has already happened and denies access to possibility5. Observation

Required (By the Soul) for manifestation to occur Created by a tangled hierarchy. The role of Karma Slide 69

You, Reality and The Illusion

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TimeDistance

Form Slide 67

Who are you really?

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I.V.A.M. Process (Futuring)

1. Ideal From core values Invent a virtual goal

2. Visualize materialized goalDetailed & Vivid

3. Actualize LinguisticallyEnergetically

4. MaterializeAllow it.

GOAL (manifested)

PRESENT FUTURE

IDEAL VISUALIZED

GOAL(invent a) HOW?

LANGUAGE(TO INVENT

THE STORY WITH)

invent time

X NOWPAST

A VIVID DESCRIPTION

CORE VALUES EXPRESSED AS YOUR

MOMENT TRUTH

ENERGY (THAT DRIVES

THE STORY)

ACTUALIZED

+ ALLOWING

The I-V-AM System (Futuring)

MATERIALIZED

1Slide 58

(only virtual)

Allowing

Being Doing Having

Resources Production Line Warehouse

(CFP) (CFA) (CFAL)

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Enrollment : is defined as the art of generating an opening in another’s heart such that they commitedly step in to that opening and act.

There are five phases in the process 1 . A conversation for establishing a back ground of relatedness - getting related.

Getting relatedBeing with what is their world listening?

What is local listening - their personal relationship to the subject 2. Creating a conversation 2. Creating a conversation forfor possibility possibility

Inspire themInspire them Create a big contextCreate a big context

3. Creating a conversation for opportunity. Establishing structures for fulfillment that will make the possibility real.

Have them see the value Feasible

Co-create 4. Create a conversation for moving people to action.

Invitation Handle their stops

5. Re-open Be smart…be proactive Don’t get out of town too fast

CUSTOMER PERFORMER

FORMULATION NEGOTIATION

FULFILLMENTCOMPLETION

A Request

QUESTIONS1.What’s possible2.What’s missing

Options1.Accept2.Decline3.Counter offer4.Request more info5.By when you will 1-4

Declarations1.Declare fulfillment2. Declare Failure3. Declare breakdown4.Revoke promise5. Delegate6. Refine c.o.s.7 Cancel

A Promise

Dare To Dream

Declare satisfaction or not Declare Fulfillment

The Action Cycle

CFS

1. Clarify the difference between a problem and a breakdown. A Problem is defined as a what is that shouldn’t be. A Breakdown is distinguished as an interruption to what you are committed to. It is technically an interruption to your directional vector.2. Declare a breakdown.

3. Differentiate What Happened ( the facts) from The Interpretation (the Story)

4. Given, that this is a breakdown then by definition, there must be a corresponding Commitment in the background.

5. Identify the commitment in the background. (or dissolve it).

6. Given these facts and that commitment:● have a conversation for possibility. Exactly what are the possibilities?● have a conversation for opportunity. Which of the possibilities do you want to create structures for fulfillment for?●have a conversation for action. Who will do what by when?

Dare To DreamBreakdowns

COMMITMENTNEGATIVE

CIRCUMSTANCESPSYCHOLOGICAL

REACTION

How It Goes

DARE TO DREAM

X

Distinctions To Get

DistinctionLooking goodAltitudeEnlightenmentRealityPerceptionMindHanging up OrdersChoiceVictimResponsibilityForgivingInside jobBeingFuturing

Let’s check it out

Embodied Competence requires:

1. a new way of being 2. practice 3. coaching

Some Last Words