50 dads on parenting

50 Killer Philosophies on Parenting by Dads

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“Love, respect, and affirmation is what I try and get across to my kids each and

“Since my time with my children is limited due to geographical distance, I make sure to schedule phone calls every other day and a weekend webcam session too. They always know when my next visit with them will be. Their mom and I get along well and provide a calm and respectful relationship. It's always about "what is

“I try to be the best I can while balancing the rest of life.”

“I do what I think is right...I do what my dad would do, for the most part...I try to be honest about everything. I make sure my kids know I love them and

“Being a parent for only six months makes this a difficult question to answer. However, the approach I plan to take is providing structure and guidance, something I believe my parents failed at. At almost 30, I want my daughter to be well rounded and I think that comes with spending quality time and providing quality guidance.”

“Tough love.“

“I am the bread winner in the family. We chose to have my wife stay home with our kids to have parental involvement in their development years. We also chose to have our kids involved in as many activities as we can afford and that they choose to experience. I try to be involved as much as I can be involved. I am currently in the medical field and am looking to start my own business so that I can spend more time with my kids as they grow older. My primary responsibility is to provide. I'd like to spend more time with them and see this as the only

“We don't have video games. We try to determine their passions and support them in that, help them build friendships and 'catch them doing something right' “

“Challenge her to think for herself - question authority, question trends, question, question, question...Stress responsibility to and respect of others (accept a person's individuality - different does not mean wrong, follow up, keep your word, be on time). Get out in the world, experience life, and learn from your mistakes. Two mistakes are much worse than one - if you make the first mistake, don't

“Treat them like I want to be treated. “

“I'm pretty laid back but firm. My daughter knows when she has done something wrong from the tone of my voice. We use time outs when she does something she shouldn't like swat at the cat. She's 2 so she doesn't get into too much trouble. I'm an affectionate parent and my daughter knows very much that she is loved. I spend time reading to her, having tea parties and doing whatever I can to be a good father. I might be too much of a friend but my daughter certainly recognizes me as someone in control of the situation. So basically my approach is gentle love, laughter and fun and firm guiding disciple. Each time she has a time out we tell her why in calm tones and then tell her that we love her.“

“As long as he is following the rules at home and at school he better be having as much fun as he can. “

“Teach them the basics while they are young: respect, manners, compassion. Moderately strict. Whatever happened during the day, the last words they should hear before bed from their

“I changed careers to be with my 20-year-old daughter, so I spend way too much time at home. My approach is to love them first, listen to them even when you don't want to, follow through with punishments when needed, I like to hug them every day-even my older kids, I admit when I am wrong and expect them to do the same, don't leave a trail of your stuff or Dad will get mad, show affection and love to my wife when the kids are around, we trust you until you give us a good reason not to trust you, no matter what you do I'll be there but you will have to deal with your own consequences, and

“We believe in a strict, but fair approach. We only use physical (spanking) when other options have failed “

“I am a stay at home dad, so I find it necessary to be patient, caring, loving and supportive.”

“Stern but try to find reasons to not say NO. Prefer children to have a sense of work ethic, such as early to bed, early to rise, be on time. No longer a believer in spanking but instead trying to understand.”

“Do what feels right. Stay away from shit that feels wrong. Hope we're getting it right.”

“I love my kid, I figure the rest will follow into place. “

“This survey was difficult because I have two grown step-children, and then my daughter who is 6. I believe that two-way communication is the most important aspect of parenting. I not only have to explain myself to my daughter, I have to try to really listen to what she is saying. We have never used spanking with our daughter (nor my step-kids when they were younger). I try to be as honest as I can, and help my daughter to make good decisions and think things through. It helps that she is smart and compassionate. I think that this approach would not work with every child. I don't think there is a "right" way to parent, though there are certainly wrong

“Be there. I'd rather be broke and with my family than rich and away. Loving. I try to be a loving dad even when they need discipline.”

“Offer boundaries, set high expectations and provide support.“

“I believe love and attention from both parents is the most important part of parenting. I also believe in an being 100% open and honest with your kids. Every parenting and discipline decision I make is based on how it will effect their adult life. I want to raise adults who are confident in themselves and aren't afraid to take risks, be different, and give life everything they got.“

“Understanding my role as a model and teacher, and his role as learner. I try to create an environment where he can learn through experiencing life.”

“I'm still learning. Try to do it with love and take it a day at a time. Try to remember what it was like to be a kid. “

“In a nutshell, my greatest responsibility is to teach my children that their consequences for their actions. I try to show them how to think, not what to think. This involves both rewards and negative consequences in their day-to-day choices. Along with that is learning to love themselves; a respect for themselves is key to them showing compassion towards others. Other than

“Lead by example. Open , honest and transparent. Spare the rod and spoil the child. Encourage, promote and support them as people. Biblical based values first and formost”

“I am consistent, or at least I think I am! I provide love as well as discipline.”

“I'm suddenly finding it difficult to summarize my approach. Hard to briefly explain raising a future adult for 18 years. I suppose it could be this: Teach the value of respect, the importance of discipline, the necessity of curiosity, and the benefits of determination. Due all of that teaching with love and you should reap the

“Roll with what life deals you. Teach when you can and make sure your kids have morals. “

“Roll with what life deals you. Teach when you can and make sure your kids have morals.”

“Attachment Parenting”

“My approach is to let Joey explore the world with no limitations tempered with guidance in regards to acceptable behavior and safe exploration. I want to teach him and prepare him for the inevitable day when he ventures into the world on his own.”

“To teach to be good human beings, good citizens and

“Always on same page as spouse. Never disagree in front of kids. always follow through on punishments. “

“I am trying to raise strong, happy, healthy children who are not afraid of independence, who are not afraid to question what they are told, but to do so respectfully. I want them to not be afraid to stand up for what they feel is RIGHT, and not be ashamed of who they REALLY are (despite what the world deems is ‘popular’.”

“Give them the skills to be functional members of society.”

“My wife and I have a very hands-on approach to parenting. We are primarily a ‘parent’ first and don't really subscribe to the idea of ‘being friends with your kids.’ We spend a lot of time ensuring that we have open communication channels, empowering them, strengthening them and giving them tools to survive. “

“My kids are my life's priority right now. Nothing I do is more important than raising them right. I believe in Biblical discipline.“

“He's 18months we let him do whatever he wants and we want him happy while we deal with his diabetes - we have light structure - but core values.“

“I am a stay at home dad so I am the one setting the tone for our parenting approach. I want to raise strong confident kids that know how to take care of themselves and how to take care of others. I give them space to try and fail so they can grow. “

“My child will grow up on his own. I just have to create a healthy environment and give him all the love he needs. This is not a difficult job, but it will never go away. You become a father, you're a father for life.“

“I just roll with it. My approach is pretty laid back, and I don't tend to worry too much about things. Then again, my son is only 6 months old right now, so I haven't had to get into much. “

“Give them unconditional love. Be there as they become who they are. Help keep all possible doors open to them so that when they are an adult, they have the most options. Teach them all I can to make their life as full and as rich as it can be.“

“I believe that parental interaction is key. The most important thing to a child is having a parent who is around, to talk to, to understand. Day care is not a parental alternative, neither is TV, or the computer. “

“Keep doing what my parents did right, change up what they didn't...“

“I am a step-parent whose 2 boys are now in university. I always felt it was my roll to teach them things that they would learn from their dad. I had rural upbringing so I taught them stuff like driving stick shift, driving snowmobile, snowshoeing, etc.“

“I try to bring my children up to respect others and have confidence in themselves.”

“I try to bring my children up to respect others and have confidence in

“I am trying to be very ‘hands on’ with my son. I try and model the kinds of behavior and attitudes that I want him to have. My wife and I give him the freedom to fail and learn from the failure. Also, discipline is very important to us. We work hard to remain consistent and teach this to our son.”

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