active listening
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communication skills in englishTRANSCRIPT
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NEGOTIATIONNEGOTIATIONPROCESSPROCESSACTIVE LISTENINGACTIVE LISTENING
INSTRUCTOR:INSTRUCTOR:PROF.PROF.Dr.Dr. Azize ERGENELİ Azize ERGENELİ
SUNUM TARİHİ:14 MART 2007SUNUM TARİHİ:14 MART 2007
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WHAT IS LISTENING?
If you ask a group of people to give a one word description of listening, some would say hearing.
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BUT LISTENING…
Is following and understanding the sound---it is hearing with a purpose.
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DEFINITION OF LISTENING The process of receiving,
constructing meaning from, and responding to spoken and/or nonverbal messages; to hear something with thoughtful attention
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Listening vs. Hearing
• Hearing- physical process; natural; passive
• Listening- physical & mental process; active; learned process; a skill
• Listening is hard!You must choose to participate in the
process of listening.
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Listening is a conscious activity based on three basic skills:
1) Attitude 2) Attention3) Adjustment
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1)Attitude Maintain a constructive Attitude 2)AttentionStrive to pay Attention
3)AdjustmentCultivate a capacity for Adjustment
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Empathy What is it:reflection of content and feeling at a deeper level Purpose:
To try and get an understanding of what may be deeper feelings
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HERE IS AN EXAMPLE OF HOW EMPATHIC LISTENING DIFFERS FROM THE OTHER TYPES OF LISTENING…A computer instructor explains with enthusiasm how to use a new word processing program
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Focuses on the Program
She certainly enjoys teaching this word processing program.
I think she would enjoy teaching any subject.
She seems very impressed with the usefulness of this new version.
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Focuses on Person
her feelings about teaching the importance to her of
teaching this particular program her evaluation of the program
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Empathizing
Empathizing does not mean you need to agree with your partner
Empathizing does not mean you need to give in to your partner
Empathizing means you do not dismiss what your partner says as ridiculous or silly.
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It is easy to know when you are being empathic because: 1. Your body language and tone match 2. Your tone and your feelings match 3. You are focused on what your
partner is saying and meaning.
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Listening is needed everywhere…
Listening skills form the basis of: Continued learning Teamwork skills Management skillsNegotiation skills
Emotional intelligence
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… But not practiced effectively 70% of all
communication isMisunderstoodMisinterpretedRejectedDistortedNot heard
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Listening is an active process that has three basic steps. 1. Hearing 2. Understandi
ng 3. Judging
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TYPES OF LISTENING 1. Inactive listening. 2. Selective
listening. 3. Active listening 4. Reflective
Listening
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Active Listening
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WHAT IS ACTIVE LISTENING?
A way of listening and responding to another person that improves mutual understanding.
A way of paying attention to other people that can make them feel that you are hearing them
This type of listening is called active because it requires certain behaviors of the listener.
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WHY LISTEN ACTIVELY? Our brain works four times the speed that
someone can speak. You have to actively focus on listening so that your mind doesn’t wander.
It enriches you and those around you, and guides other areas of your life.
It can build trust and respect between people, and prevent misunderstandings that can lead to conflict, frustration or hurt feelings.
While listening to other people’s point of view, you may just learn something new and fascinating!
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Do you know these?
We listen at 125-250 wpm, think at 1000-3000 wpm
75% of the time we are distracted, preoccupied or forgetful
20% of the time, we remember what we hear
More than 35% of businesses think listening is a top skill for success
Less than 2% of people have had formal education with listening
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BENEFITS OF ACTIVE LISTENING It forces people to listen attentively to
others. It tends to open people up, to get them to
say more. Shows empathy Builds relationships
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The Main Goals to Active Listening Maximize your understanding of the
other’s perspective
Minimize their defensiveness (and your own, too)
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KEY CONCEPTS OF ACTIVE LISTENING 1. Display involvement in what the person is
saying 2. Carefully observe the person speaking 3. Resist distractions 4. Try to stay focused on what is being said 5. Ask for clarification of anything that you do not
fully understand 6. Delay making judgments about what is said.
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Active listeners speak 30% of the time and listen 70% of the time. Sometimes, we have to try hard not to interrupt – the only acceptable reason is to clarify or confirm what has been said.
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Why is active listening difficult? When people are preoccupied with current
life stresses or difficult situations, it is hard for them to listen.
Anxiety can make it hard to listen. Being angry at the person who is talking
also makes it hard to listen. Having an idea in mind of what a person
“should do” makes it hard to listen to that person's point of view.
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ACTIVE LISTENING BARRIERS
EXTERNAL BARRIERS INTERNAL BARRIERS
Internal Barriers Within The Listener
Internal Barriers Within The Speaker
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External Barriersnoises clutter other interruptions
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Internal Barriers Within the Listener
Comparing Personal Experience Automatic Talking Mind-Reading Judging Day Dreaming Perceptual Errors
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Barriers Within the Speaker Expectations Avoidance Speaking in Code Boundary
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When to Use Active Listening Inappropriate Routine interactions Physical emergencies
Appropriate Organizational Crises Conflict situations Giving and receiving
feedback Brainstorming,
problem solving Seeking peers’
cooperation
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STEPS OF ACTIVE LISTENING1) Listen2) Question3) Reflect-Paraphrase4) Agree
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Step 1: Listen
To Feelings As Well As Words Words – Emotions -- Implications
Focus on Speaker Don’t plan, speak, or get distracted
What Is Speaker Talking About? Topic? Speaker? Listener? Others?
Look At Speaker Use Verbal & Non-Verbal Encouragers
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Opening door to good conversation shows an interest…. But it must be done sincerely, without judgment.
1) Verbal&non-verbal encourages
2) Non-verbal behavior
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1 ) Encouragement
Convey interest and Keep the person talking.
Concentrate attention upon the speaker Don’t agree or disagree. Use noncommittal
words in a positive tone of voice. Repeat one or two words of the person's
previous statement. Be aware of your body language! Use varying voice intonations
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“I see” “Right” “Uh huh”… “Okay” “Sure” “Yeah” “Yes” “Wow” “Really?”
Use varying voice intonationsUse varying voice intonations
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2)Non-Verbal Behavior
Non-Verbal Active Listening Techniques: Maintaining appropriate eye contact
with the interviewee. Occasionally nodding affirmatively to
display understanding and interest. Using expectant pauses to indicate to
the interviewee that more is expected
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The various forms of NVC touch sound smell timing and speed of delivery of speech proximity posture dress eye contact gestures facial expressions use of silence
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Communication through Eyes
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2.Question 3 Purposes
Demonstrates you are listening Gather information ClarificationWhen you asked some questions: Show interest Encourage more explanation Keep the person talking Ask questions but not too many
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Types of Questions
1) YES/NO QUESTIONS2) OPEN-ENDED QUESTIONS3)PROBING OR FOLLOW-UP
QUESTIONS4) LEADING QUESTIONS
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1)YES/NO QUESTIONS(Closed questions) This type of question involves
asking a question that requires only a "YES" or "NO" response
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2)OPEN-ENDED QUESTIONS:
Observation: "What happened?" Meaning: "What do you mean?" Affect: "How do you feel?" Motive: "What do you want?" Action: "What will you do?"
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3)PROBING/FOLLOW-UP QUESTIONS
Asking another question to clarify or obtain further information about a interviewee’s response.
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4)LEADING QUESTIONS Phrased to indicate a preferred
response Indicates the auditor asking the
question isn’t objective
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Other Questioning Tips
Avoid asking multiple questions at once. Generally, it’s best to start with open
questions Best questions are short, clear, objective. Ask questions in logical order. Allow for quiet, thinking time. Limit why-questions. Take notes.
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Step 3: Reflect-ParaphraseIn that step we will use another
techniques for active listening;
1. Reflecting2. Reframing
3. Paraphrasing4. Acknowleding5. Summarizing
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1. REFLECTING Reflect What Is Said (In your words) Reflect Feelings
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REFLECTING WHAT IS SAID
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REFLECTING FEELINGS Someone may say: “Don’t worry. I’m
fine” (when she actually looks very upset)… Reflecting, you say “You say you’re OK, but by the tone of your
voice, you seem upset, correct?”
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Act like a mirror and reflect feelings that you see and hear. This is particularly useful when the person’s tone of voice or gestures don’t match the person’s words.
OR just as a check…
“Seems like you had a fun time, right? OR
“I sense you’ve become worried. Is that so?”
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2.REFRAMINGWhy You Do It? to help the other person see their concerns in a new
light to broaden the meaning of an issue to identify needs
or interests to diffuse negative feelings to establish the focus for resolutionHow You Do It? recognize underlying needs re-word concerns from negative → neutral/positive
past → future; problem → opportunity; interpersonal → system rights/wrongs → impacts positions → interests singular → multiple
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REFRAMING(cont.) Concern: “She always talks to
everyone else but me when there is a problem.”
Reframe: “It sounds as if you would like more direct communication to resolve concerns.”
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3.PARAPHASINGPARAPHRASE the speaker to acknowledge the story and capture the content.EXAMPLE: “Let’s see if I got this right.
You’re upset because you think we’re going off in the wrong direction and you want to clarify our objective before we write this assignment. Is that right”
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CAUTION: Don’t parrot back; be sure to put the message in your own words – that’s active listening.
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4. ACKNOWLEDING
FEELINGS
Problem Solving
FEELINGS
Problem Solving
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Problem Solving Might
Not Work In the Face of Strong
Feelings
Feelings May Need Acknowledgement
Before Effective Problem Solving
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5.SUMMARIZEWhy You Do It?•to review progress •to pull together important ideas and information•to establish a foundation for further discussionHow You Do It?•restate the central ideas and feelings you have heardExample: “Let’s see if I have a clear understanding of your experience at this point…”“So basically what is most important to you is…”
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Step 4: Agree Get Speaker’s Consent to Your
Reframing Speaker Has Been Heard and Knows
It! Solution Is Near!
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Remember that the objective of all of this is increase understanding of the other’s point of view, not necessarily to agree with it or support it.
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“A good listener tries to understand thoroughly what the other person is saying. In the end he may disagree sharply, but before he disagrees, he wants to know exactly what it is he is disagreeing with.”
Kenneth A. WELLS
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Are You a Good Listener? Do you frequently think of other things when others are
talking to you? Do you doodle, shuffle papers, look at the clock or out
the window, read the newspaper,or watch TV? Do you silently argue with the talker? Do you only selectively hear ideas that fit your beliefs? Do you feel most people have little to talk about that is
interesting or important? Do you listen passively without any facial expressions? Do you frequently interrupt others as they are
speaking? Do you complete sentences or ideas for people when
they pause to think? Do you silently criticize characteristics of the speaker:
voice, looks, manner of speaking? Do you have to ask people to repeat what they said
because you have forgotten?
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ACTIVE LISTENERS
1. Be there2. Listen carefully to the person3. Accept the person and his/her
feelings4. Stay with the other person's point of
view without becoming that person5. Trust the person enough to
keep out of it
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ACTIVE LISTENING &NEGOTIATION
Active listening is important for identifying and creating negotiating goals, because listening helps to orient the negotiator to the environment.
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Because people do not learn much while they are talking, negotiators should attempt to talk less than 50% of time.
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In negotiation, there are FOUR major reasons to listen:
1.To learn the other side’s proposals and strengths;2.To discover the needs of constituents and teammates3.To discern subtle position changes and openings; and4.To show other side that their proposals are understood.
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CONCLUSIONListening is a critical communication skill
for managers and consultants, as well as for all of us in our personal lives.
You can't negotiate effectively until you understand what the other person wants.
Active listening, is crucial to achieving your ultimate communication objectives.
Active listening is a skill that, like other communication skills, must be developed .
By practicing you can develop these skills.