act - w: fear and self-loathing in it - imposter syndrome
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But who do I feel like most days?
Angela is not a trained psychologist
Angela most definitely suffers from imposter
syndrome
Also, there is a non-zero chance that I am
terrified that you all think I am full of crap!
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Impostor syndrome[1] is a psychological phenomenon in which people are unable to internalize their accomplishments. Despite external evidence of their competence, those with the syndrome remain convinced that they are frauds and do not deserve the success they have achieved. Proof of success is dismissed as luck, timing, or as a result of deceiving others into thinking they are more intelligent and competent than they believe themselves to be.
Notably, impostor syndrome is particularly common among high-achieving women. ~Wikipedia
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Notably, impostor syndrome is particularly common among high-achieving women.
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Are YOU a “phony”?
Researchers believe that up to 70% of people have
felt the effects of impostor syndrome at some point
The Imposter Test: http://paulineroseclance.com/pdf/IPscoringtest.pdf
“When people praise me for something I’ve accomplished,
I’m afraid I won’t be able to live up to their expectations of me in
the future”
“I’m afraid people important to me may find out that I’m not as
capable as they think I am”
“I rarely do a project or task as well as I’d like to do it”
“I often compare my ability to those around me and think they
may be more intelligent than I am”
40 or less = respondent has few IS characteristics
41 to 60 = respondent has moderate IS experiences
61 to 80 = respondent frequently has Impostor feelings
80+ = respondent often has intense IS experiences
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IT Evangelist: 40
Graphic Designer: 74
Senior Developer: 67
Dietician: 69IT Consultant: 77
Screen Printer: 73
Librarian: 71Agile coach: 74
Interior Designer: 55
IT Director: 77
ALM Consultant: 87
Industrial Plumber: 54
SAHM: 39Lawyer: 53
Freelance Writer: 30
IT Manager: 55
IT Consultant: 55
Scenic Painter: 71
SAHM: 52
Biology Teacher: 65
Network Administrator: 39
Audio Engineer: 67
Lawyer: 89
Management Consultant: 67
http://paulineroseclance.com/pdf/IPscoringtest.pdf
Senior Developer: 70
SAHM: 69Academic Coach: 57
Kindergarten Teacher: 56
Being an “expert” is overrated
An expert is just someone who has effed up something more than you
Being a beginner is pretty amazing!
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Most “experts” had no freaking clue what they were doing…
Until they DID
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Fear is an emotion induced by a threat perceived by living entities, which causes a change in brain and organ function and ultimately a change in behavior, such as running away, hiding or freezing from traumatic events.
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But what are we all so afraid of?
Being wrong?
Not having ALL of the answers?
Being/looking vulnerable?
Getting Fired?
Not being “perfect”?
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To be ___________ , I have to be perfectemployablerespectablelovableenough
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Perfection is the enemy of good
Recognize how you’re feeling
Go ahead and feel it
And stop beating yourself up about it
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It encourages us to push ourselves to learn
It fosters innovation
It teaches us humility
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In Judaism humility is an appreciation of oneself, one's talents, skills, and virtues. It is not meekness or self-deprecating thought, but the effacing of oneself to something higher.
Humility is not to think lowly of oneself, but to appreciate the self one has received.
~ Rabbi Lord Jonathan Sacks
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Acting with humility is a RESPONSIBLE way to participate in the IT community
ANY community
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Find something you suck at and then be the best you can be at that thing
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Then take that thing you’re really good at now, and teach someone else to do it
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Nothing helps you realize just how much we don’t know like mentoring someone
Nothing helps you realize just how much you have to offer like mentoring someone
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Be OK with taking risks
Be ok with being vulnerable
Be OK with asking for help
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“A manager’s job is not to prevent risks but it is their job to make it safe to take them.”
~ @dneighbors
You don’t have to be a manager to be a leader!
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Nothing makes you rethink how you represent yourself, accept and give praise,
and react to others missteps like having others look to you as a model for behavior!
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Recognize when others are feeling like imposters
Create a safe environment for sharing ideas and asking questions
Shut down bad behavior as soon as you see it
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LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andugan
Slideshare.NET: http://www.slideshare.net/angelabinkowski
Twitter: @OakParkGirl, @ChicagoALM, @TeamPolaris
Blog - http://www.tfswhisperer.com/
Polaris Solutions website - http://www.polarissolutions.com/
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Managing Humans - $18
Getting Naked ~$20
The Art of Asking ~$18
The Authenticity Paradox ~$0
Angela’s Slide decks: http://www.slideshare.net/angelabinkowski
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