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The Language of Success

Mushtak Al-Atabi

Achieving Successwith Emotional Intelligence


Outline

• Quote• Recap• Emotions• Emotional Intelligence• Start• Brain Rewiring• My Emotions Today• Developmental Projects


Thoughts, Words and Success

Lau Tzu said, “Watch your thoughts they become words. Watch your words, they become actions. Watch your actions, they become habits. Watch your habits, they become character. Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.”


Recap

• CDIO starts at the brain and ends with everything else

• The three brains – they work together– Can be fooled (scary movies)

• Neuroplasticity – Brain is continuously changing forming new

connections– We can influence this


The Man that Lost his Emotions!

Elliot was a successful business executive. He had to go through a brain surgery to remove a tumor. Surgery was deemed successful as his intellect was intact. But, he also lost the ability to process emotions, lost his job and his wife divorced him.When working on an appointment with his doctor, it was discovered that he also became pathologically indecisive.It is now well established that emotions play a very important role in decision making.


Emotions

• Emotions are what sets us “in motion”. They are not a bad thing that we want to get rid of or subdue

• All emotions are ok• But not all behaviours are ok• Regulating the behaviour that results from the

emotions is Emotional Intelligence


Example

• You are queuing to pay at the supermarket counter

• Another customer cuts the queue ahead of you

• What will you do?


Self AwarenessEmotional AwarenessAccurate Self AssessmentSelf MotivationSelf Confidence

Social AwarenessEmpathyOrganisational AwarenessService Orientation

Self ManagementEmotional Self ControlTransparencyAdaptabilityAchievement OrientationInitiativeOptimism

Relationship ManagementDeveloping OthersInspirational LeadershipInfluenceChange CatalystConflict ManagementTeamwork and Collaboration

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Emotional Intelligence- Daniel Goleman


The Start

• Daily exercises• Get our brains ready for the journey– Replace the P-word – Brain Rewiring

• First step towards Self Awareness – My Emotions Today– Meditation


Opportunities and Challenges

• What if I want to say “No Problem!”


Brain Rewiring

• So now we know the brain thinks, let us see how can we rewire it

• Rewiring your brain will enable you to create a state of mind that will enable the change in the world

• Our brains are built to respond to negative stimulus (danger, threats) and we need to train them to behave otherwise to identify opportunities

• From now until the end of the semester, you will need to report and share five things that you are grateful for

• This will build synapses in the brain


My Emotions Today

• Nonreactive and Non judgmental attention to our inner state, our mood, our relations and our physical state and how we think about them

• M.E.R.S.V.P.• Mentally: mind, intellect • Emotionally: affective state of consciousness• Relationally: quality of relationships • Spiritually: a bigger cause or meaning• Vocationally: job, career or study• Physically: body


My Emotions Today

• Avoid words like, good, fine, ok• Acknowledge your emotions, positive and not

positive• Be authentic


Developmental Projects

• Self Analysis– Strengths– Growth Areas– Opportunities– Challenges

• Personal Development Plan• Goal Setting• Relationship Management

– Identify a relationship that you want to improve• Share your learning

– Pick a key learning and share it in 3-5 minute presentation video


Reflection Questions

• What did you learn today?• What will you do differently from now on?

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