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SPRING 2011
HE MAGAZINE OF THE ASSOCIATION FOR THE ADVANCEMENT OF MERIDIAN ENERGY TECHNIQ
DOSSIER16 PAGE SPECIAL
SPRING CLEANYOUR LIFE
LIFEAAMET
PLUS:A PRACTITIONERS GUIDE TO ERADICATE SHAME
The courage to
PRESENTAn inspiring EFT sto
META-Medicinen Interview with Richard Flook
ARTICLE
SELF SABOTAGE
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LIFE
Spring 2011Contents
Regulars
SPRING-CLEAN YOUR LIFE
FeaturesAAMET SPRING EFT GATHERING:YOUR PERSONAL INVITATION
THE COURAGE TO BE PRESENT:
AN INSPIRATIONAL EFT STORY
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ReviewFEATURING THERAPY: META- MEDICINE
An interview with Richard Flook
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ArticlesSELF SABOTAGE:HEALING THE PARTS
THAT DONT WANT TO HEAL
THE POWER OF WRITINGA LETTER
STICK MEN IN EFT: A GENTLE WAY TO
RECONNECT WITH YOURSELF
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Dossier
IS 4-YR OLD YOU STILL RUNNING
YOUR LIFE?
ERADICATING SHAME: THE
PRACTITIONERS GUIDE
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34 CAUSE OR EFFECT? THE BENFIT OF
BEING IN A STATE OF CAUSE
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EVENTS UPDATE:AAMET 2011
EFT NORTH GATHERING
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All problems were once solutionsMilton Erickson
n many cases, the attempted solution to a prob-
lem has become the problem itself. This is thecase in any addiction and in other issues such
as anxiety, depression, or anger.
The problem exists because a part of your sub-
conscious is holding on to strategies that no longer
work. These parts have a positive intention for us, itsjust that the strategy theyve chosen to achieve that
positive intention, is not working.
For example, the subconscious may see us become
anxious in a certain situation and then it looks for
times when it thinks feeling being anxious might be
useful. Soon it will recognise 100s and maybe 1000sof triggers that remind it to help you to be anxious,
without any conscious thought on your part.
Its positive intention is to keep you safe by remind-
ing you to look at a situation carefully. It doesnt rea-
son whether its self appointed task is useful or not,
it just does it. The good news is that the part of youwhich activates this behaviour will be equally happy
to do something more useful for you if you tell it what
you would like it to do!
article
Self SabotageHealing theparts that
dont want
to healby Jacqui Crooks, EFT Master
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It is possible to work with the part that is holding onto this behaviour to create more useful, more effec-
tive and more creative strategies to achieve the same
positive outcome, without creating the problem.
A possible statement could be Even though the
part thats creating this anxiety is working hard for me,
Id like it to understand that what it does, isnt work-
ing. Id like it to create a safer, healthier and more
creative way of fullling its positive intention. I thank
it for its help and I deeply and completely love and
accept all parts of me. Although long, this statement
gives an instruction to the subconscious to make safeand healthy changes and also accepts it for what it
has done, which collapses the resistance to change.
It may be possible to nd when and where a part was
created and then to nd its purpose in your life.
Often we are holding on to beliefs or patterns of
behaviour that we created very early on in our life.
When we become aware of them and their purpose
its possible to reframe using EFT.
Even though when I was little, dad shouted at me
and I thought he didnt love me, its possible that
with his background, he didnt know how else to
show his love.The part may be our inner child, the part of us that
was damaged early on, or that took on board otherpeople's beliefs or fears that were given to us, usu-
ally with love, to keep us safe. Asking the client to
nd that little child and ask it what it needs to be
healed can allow profound changes. If it needs to
be loved and accepted, the EFT statement couldbe - Even though little Mary doesnt feel loved and
accepted, I choose to give her the love and accept-
ance she needs!"
Parts can also be used very effectively when yourintuition suggests there might be a reason to hold
on to the problem but the client may not accept that
reason.
This can be particularly useful when dealing with
secondary gain. No client can argue if you intro-
duce a statement which says: Even though part of
me may believe that I need to keep this problem,I deeply and completely accept myself, especially
that part. Accepting that part for what it does, will of-
ten be enough to allow things to change. It releases
the need for resistance. The part that creates theproblem is so used to the client ghting it, that when
theres nothing to ght, it may just let go.
If the client accepts that there is a reason to hold
on to the problem, incorporate that reason in your
statement. It will usually be a reversals.
Even though part of me is scared to let this go,
because who will I be then? I deeply and com-
pletely accept myself. Or Even though part of me is
scared to let this go, because who will I be then? Ichoose to be curious and excited about discovering
who I am and to be comfortable just being me. Itsall I can be, so I may as well enjoy it!
Be creative with your statements. Dont worry about
perfection, just do it, if it doesnt work, do something
else instead. Remember Theres no failure, only
feedback.
Jaqui Crooks, EFT Master
www.beacontraining.co.uk
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LOCATION & BOOKINGThe Spring Gathering 2011 will be held in The Ramada Hotel Sutton
Coldeld, (B76 1LH) which is centrally accessed by all major routes. Set
in beautiful surroundings with a small lake and 14 acres of extensivegrounds for a breath of fresh air to recharge those energy cells during
the breaks. It includes a spa and gym for residents to chill or exercise.
Its 7 miles from the centre of Birmingham and only 25 minutes fromBirmingham International airport so even those north of the border can
y in and join the fun!Find out more about this fun and exciting event please go to
www.springgathering.org where you will be able to book and pay for
your place. We look forward to
We believe the EFT Spring Gathering is extremely good value-for-mon-
ey and, importantly, it is not for prot everyone pays the registrationfee and everyone helps out however they can, even if its just by spread-
ing the word. This year it only costs *125, including your two course
lunches and refreshments. People can attend for one day of they wish
for 80. Go to www.springathering.orgto book your place at this excit-
ing event. (*EFT Spring gathering event, Saturday and Sunday only).
AAMET Gathering
Your personal
initation...
EFT Spring Gathering21st & 22nd May 2011
Tis May sees the launch o the UKs first EF Spring Gathering which isbeing held in Sutton Coldfield in the Midlands. Over two days ourteen
dynamic and interesting speakers will share their passions, coering a broadrange o topics om working with Children and Serious illness to Perorm-
ance and using EF with minor ailments.
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GUEST SPEAKERS & ACTIVITIESWe are also excited to announce that
international speaker and creator of
Faster EFT, Robert Smith, will be join-ing us on Saturday morning to share his
passion of using his faster EFT method.
A session not to be missed!
We are running four inter-
esting and diverse one day
workshops on Friday 20th
May; Opening our hearts andminds to Integrative Care for
cancer, serious Illness and
their prevention with Dr Kate
Jamesand Linda Wood,EFT on the Edge with Gil-
lian Wightman and Creating
an effective and successful
Practice with Roy Martin.
Finally, An
Introduction to Faster EFT
with Robert Smith.
Your time at the Spring
Gathering will be informa-
tive, fun, friendly, and
hopefully enjoyable as youspend time in a community
of like-minded and like-
hearted people. Over thetwo or three days you will
hear from exciting speak-
ers who are enthusiastic
about their eld of workand will share their life-
transforming experiences
using EFT and associated techniques.
You will also get to watch some amaz-
ing live sessions you may even be the one in the chair! There willbe ample opportunities to mix and connect with others with similar
interests and to make new friends.
It is an excellent way to get informed, in-
spired, develop skills and network so you can
move your EFT practise forward to another
level. Or if you just have an interest in En-
ergy Psychology specically EFT Techniques
the Spring Gathering will give you a deeperinsight and understanding of how you can use
it in your every day life. You will have ample
opportunity to chat with the speakers and
browse the exhibit stalls over the two days. On Saturday evening
spend time with friends old and new for dinner, entertainment and
some fun. We will be holding a rafe which is accumulating someamazing prizes which include one to one sessions with some of the
most experienced Masters and Practitioners in the world, books
DVDs and lots more. The only thing is you have to be at the Gath-
ering to buy your tickets
"I am just coming back down to earth, what an unbelievably marvellous
experience on many levels
Comment from the Ilkley Gathering 2010
The AAMET AGM & TRAINERS CONFERENCEThis year we are supporting the AAMET with their AGM
and Trainers conference. The AGM will be held at 6pm on
the Saturday 21st May in the Windows on the Lake Suite,
attendance is free to all AAMET members. Visit the AAMETsite for more details www.aamet.org
The Trainers Conference will be held on Friday 20th May
in the Penns Quay Suite. This years trainers conferencewill take a different direction than the previous one. It is
to be a more informal day with a two way ow of informa -
tion between the organisation and its trainers. There willbe information for the trainers, the opportunity to share
best practice and ask questions. The AAMET manage-
ment team want to provide the day as a platform that both inform its
senior members and for them to be informed by them. The Trainers
Conference is 50 which covers the day and includes a two course
lunch and refreshments. Visit the AAMET site www.aamet.orgfor
more information and to book your place (AAMET Trainers only).
Monies from the Gathering and generous donations will be put intoa new fund being setup by the Spring Gathering team to benet
those working in the Energy Psychology eld called Pay It Forward
Fund (PIFF). The fund with give out grants to various projects and
benefactors will be asked to help pay it forward by paying backa monetary sum or their time which can then be donated for good
causes. (Editors correction - All funds do NOT go to AAMET).
For more information about the event go to
www.springgathering.org
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y client Marie, a former
skeptic of EFT, wantedme to share this brief
story with you. What I've
outlined here is a varia-
tion of the Tell the Story technique,
which I call "Write a Letter" and it is
one I'd use again.
Marie came to see me because she
hadn't been able to lose any weight
and knew it was because she fre-
quently resorted to comfort foods. Itwas no surprise then when her eat-
ing habits changed after the sudden
death of her husband 3 years ear-
lier. Marie had so much hurt, guilt,and sadness within her but could
not connect these emotional issues
with her diet. She kept saying, "Why
can't you just tap me not to eat?"
She was a bit skeptical of EFT so westarted tapping on her belief that it
The Power of Writing a
Letterby Helena Fone
AAMET CHAIRPERSON
Hidden and shifing aspects are something we ofen come across in EF and Ihave equently dealt with clients where this has been a problem. Experiencehas taught me a lot, and I have great respect and admiration or those I have
learned om.
the words owed and owed abouthow she wished she'd gone to Am-
sterdam with him when he asked, ifonly she'd been more vigilant about
his illness, if only she'd been there
when he died, how she wished she
never nagged him about his slip-
pers near the front door and so on.
As with the Tell the Story technique
I asked her to stop at any point
where she felt an emotion (and do
EFT on it). There were many tearsand lots of laughter about the good
times. After a couple of sessions,her problem with comfort food dis-
appeared quickly.
Marie recognized her eating pat-
terns were a result of her loneli-
ness. She later joined a women's
group and gave a talk on EFT and
the rest are now all avid students of
this wonderful technique!
wouldnt work. Then we graduallymoved on to her sadness which
reduced from a level of intensity of
more than 10 on a scale of 0 to 10,
to a healthy 0 out of 10 with a sigh
at the end. We had the same suc-
cess with the hurt and all the other
emotions and aspects that cropped
up.
When I moved on to the guilt, some
shifts were taking place but there
seemed to be many aspects. I hadan idea that might help. Marie had
told me her husband often worked
away from home so I asked herif she were to write a letter to her
husband and he was able to read it,
what would she write.
She thought about this for a minute
and hesitated so we tapped, Even
though I don't know how to begin
this letter to George Very soon,
M
EFT technique
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EFT technique
hen Im working on my own issues I
often nd that Im struggling to see
exactly how I feel about something.
For instance, I know that something
makes me angry but tapping on being angry
doesnt feel like its getting me anywhere fast.
So I use a different tool to take myself out of
the situation and get a better look at whatshappening.
I imagine that Im drawing stick men to repre-
sent the situation. This starts with a stick manof me and often includes a scene and other
people. I draw the scene if I feel that it will
help, however I nd that my visualisations aregood enough to get me started most of the
time.
I look at the stick man of me and see how hes
feeling. (I always use stick man as I dont feel
the need to be politically correct with gender).I look at his body language and his expres-
sion. I ask myself where he is and if anyone
else is there. If there is another person, how
are they feeling? How big are the stick menin relation to each other, if they have colours
then are they relevant and what are they?
Then I do the part which is most important for
me. I ask myself how I feel looking at the stick
man. I often nd that what comes up for me isquite unpleasant and gets worse, hence my
resistance to see it in the rst place. I oftennd that I cant accept the stick man, but I
can usually accept my feelings about him. For
instance, I may feel hate or disgust and I allow
these feelings and tap on them. Sometimes
I nd that pacing up and down helps me to
release big negative feelings. I try to keep the
phrasing simple and just repeat what Im feel-
ing, such as I hate you. I always refer to the
stick man as you or she depending on how
distant I want to feel. This varies as I go along
and I just say what feels right.
A gentle way to reconnect with yourself
As I watch the stick man in his scene and tap on my feeling,
my feelings can get worse for a while. I just keep going, no-
ticing any changes which may come up and allowing myself
to say whatever I feel. After a while my feelings start to mel -
low a little and I can start to add phrases like I cant acceptyou yet but Im working on it to acknowledge my end goal.
The outcome is or the stick man to be happy and for me to
feel acceptance of him. I prefer anyone else who may have
cropped up to have left the scene. I believe that my issues
start with me and end with me.
I nd it a little scary how big my negative feelings about my-
self can be sometimes, but I always enjoy the relief I get on
the issue after the tapping.
With so much energy going into negative things I like to think
of it as a chunk of energy Ive reclaimed for something crea-
tive and powerful.
As variations
on a theme,
use the follow-
ing:
- Imagine that
I have a big
piece of paper
attached to
the wall and
do nice big
clear drawingson this
- Actu-
ally have a big
piece of paper
attached to
the wall for
drawings
- Use a white
board
- Imagine a3D scene on a
table top
- Sketch in
a notebook.
Re-draw every
few rounds
as it clarieswhat changes
have occurred. www.behappi.co.uk
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Stick Men
with EFTby Karen Young
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The courageto be
PRESENT...An Inspirational EF Story
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over the phenomenon that just as soon
as I have had a personal breakthrough
or discovered a new technique or vari-
ation to help myself, I have been called
on to use that learning, sometimes im-
mediately afterwards, with a client.
I had experienced an almost continual
state of anxiety, depression and dis-
sociation, interspersed with periods of
feeling well, sometimes too well andslightly manic, since my early teens.
I was absolutely convinced that if I
went to the Doctor and told her what
was really going on in my head that I
would be locked up. So I didnt. I kept
a very tight lid on what was really go-
ing on even from myself. For a lot of
the time, and for many years, I man-
aged to present a good picture to the
outside world that was very different
to the internal chaos and struggle that
was really going on. What was really
going on was a very mixed picture. Iwas experiencing an internal world that
was chaotic, confused, fragmented
and ever changing. I felt different all
the time, sometimes within the hour,
denitely within a day. I could feel like
dying, ying, screaming, laughing or
running away. And of course the way
I thought I could help myself with this
changed all the time too.
Over the years I tried sensible things
that werent always that helpful, like
Counseling, Psychotherapy, Psycho-analysis, Reiki, Spiritual Healing,
Homeopathy, Diet, Exercise and DIY.
I also tried not so sensible things that
always felt helpful (at the time!) but
were distressing for the people around
me, like binge drinking, shopping,
shoplifting, self harm, risky behaviour
and crazy schemes. This state of anxi-
ety and inner chaos was very tiring and
meant that I never really got anywhere
because I was always changing the
goalposts, and the eld, and the foot-
ballbut it was something that I justcoped with. he depression was another
matter. When the depression came
it bought with it other mad feelings.
Feeling like I wasnt real, or attached to
my body, or feeling as though the world
wasnt real, or feeling as though the
world wasnt safe, there was no clean
air to breathe and everyone was out to
get me.
Because I was so afraid of being
locked up I didnt go to see a Doctor
about what I was experiencing until I
was in my late 20s. From then on my
involvement with mental health serv-
ices was a mixed blessing, at times I
was grateful for the medication as it
provided respite from intolerable feel-
ings and did prevent me from killing
myself. At other times it seemed to
make what I was experiencing worse
or I was so heavily medicated that Icould not function as a parent, wife or
human being. Every time I went to see
a new Doctor, Psychologist or Psy-
chiatrist they would change or alter my
diagnosis. A diagnosis can be partially
useful in that it can help you and other
people better understand or empathise
with your experience, it also enables
you to connect wit other people who
share similar experiences to you. Men-
tal and emotional confusion can feel
very isolating and any experience of
community, whether real or virtual, willhelp you to feel more connected and
hopeful.
The relationship that I have with my
current diagnosis is one of interested
nonattachment. Post Traumatic Stress
Disorder and Dissociative Identity
Disorder describe my experiences and
internal world better than any disorder
Ive yet been labeled with, however
I dont want my identity to become
bound up by them. And as I move
further and further into wellness I also
object to the term disorder. As I see
it my madness has been a mysterious
and magical force for good, which has
protected me in the very best way it
possibly could. Even the darkest parts
of my journey and the most terrifying of
my inner people have transformed into
my wisest and most thorough teach-
ers.
When I rst started using EFT it was
purely as an anti-anxiety medication.
I had been sent away from an EMDR
therapist who felt that she was unableto help me, with Gwyneth Mosss ABC
tapping sheet. Little did this woman
know just how helpful she had been. I
used the 3 point calmer just on its own
and was amazed. I had never found
anything that could have that kind of
immediate, long lasting effect, except
for tranquilisers, and even those lose
their efcacy over time. Everyone is
amazed when they discover EFT for
the rst time but for someone who had
The courage to be present
Jessica Mr talked about
her journey with EFT at the
Northern EFT Gathering,
Craiglands Hotel, Ilkley,
January 2011.
What follows is a transcript
of her talk.
Part One A State of Chaos
Id like to talk to you today about how
EFT has helped me to overcome seri-
ous mental health challenges in the
hopes that increasing numbers of us
will feel able to bring our knowledge
and experience to this eld. I will tell
you a little of my own story and Ill go
into some detail about how I have used
tapping to facilitate my recovery overthe past year. Hopefully you will be
able to extract something useful from
this to use in your own practice with
yourself or with others.
I feel as though I have had a bit of a
whirlwind romance with EFT, as do
many of us when we are rst intro-
duced to it! I have had to adapt how I
worked with it but I have also stayed
true to the core principles as taught to
me so soundly by Gwyneth Moss and
as I interpreted them from Gary Craigs
training DVDs. Ill give you someexamples of the ways in which I have
worked with myself and of how that
has changed over time. I have found
that working with myself has been
incredibly useful, crucial even; to the
work I have done with clients. We are
only able to go with someone as far as
we have been ourselves, the further I
can go with my own healing and devel-
opment, the further I can accompany
another. I have experienced over and
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accepting every bizarre, scary, unu-
sual, crazy thought, word or feeling is
all we need to do. Without questioning
or analyzing or judging, just allowing
this reality to be, to exist as it is, just for
now. I had an experience of working
with someone when for 2 hours I didnt
understand a single sentence that he
was saying. He was obviously in great
distress and in a state of profounddepression. All I could offer was my
undivided attention and presence as I
sat with him, providing witness to his
experience by listening deeply; empa-
thizing with his emotions and offering
his jumbled words back to him through
the tapping. Towards the end of the
session his face relaxed and his eyes
cleared as he said the words drum-
ming, its like drumming, with a soft
smile. Perhaps he was talking about
the rhythm of the tapping, or perhaps
he was feeling as relaxed as he didwhen he was drumming. At any rate,
somehow, just by being together with
his darkness he had reconnected to
his light.
Apart from not digging for early memo-
ries, another precaution I had to take,
and I would urge you to take with your
complex trauma clients (and you wont
always know who these are because
they wont always know who they are,
if they are dissociated with repressed
memories) is to be gentle and wary
when working with body sensations at
rst.
Although I was fascinated by this tech-
nique I was aware that for me, work-
ing with somatic experience was also
playing with a loaded gun because I
could very easily slip into accessing
body memories of the abuse that I
had repressed and from there become
overwhelmed and dissociated.
For example, early on in my use of
EFT, somewhere between Level 1 and2, I was tapping for a reluctance to
go to work. Tapping on the words and
thoughts around this wasnt touching it
so I then went to the strongest physi-
cal sensation, which was of extreme
anxiety in my stomach. I described
what this sensation was like to myself
while tapping and that reduced it. As I
was tuning more deeply into the sensa-
tions in my stomach I became aware
of the presence of a child. As I tapped
I asked myself what is this stomach
had tapping to accompany me through
these moments however, I would be
able to move into a different state
within minutes and be back to my self
in half an hour.
Part Two Being in the Moment
So I began my EFT practice by tap-
ping very gently and cautiously, skirting
around anything big, or anything thatfelt like it might lead somewhere big.
I tapped whenever I was walking, or
waiting, or panicking. A lot of the time
I didnt need words at all because my
emotions were still fairly extreme so I
was already well tuned in to whatever
the problem was. I made very good
use of the nger points, as these were
inconspicuous while walking or in pub-
lic. I had also found that if I was really
distressed tapping on my face could
feel like a violent act, or could lead
me towards a violent feeling towardsmyself, whereas the nger points felt
more distant and safe. Ive since had
this corroborated by several clients,
particularly those who dissociate eas-
ily or self harm. I think now that what
all this gentle, generalised tapping
was doing was calming down all the
rough, haywire edges, and it got me
to a place where I was safely able to
enter therapy and start working on my
deeper issues with an EFT Practitioner
I would recommend this approach for
anyone youre working with, including
yourself, who is particularly fragile and
traumatized. There are different places
in which we can begin but the very
best is where our client is. If they have
suffered from childhood trauma, known
or unknown, they will be out here
somewhere, so thats where you have
to begin, out here. And while theyre
out here, the things they may say,
may not make sense to you, thats ok,
just give them back to the client word
for word.One of the biggest problems and ob-
stacles to recovery for people who suf-
fer from extreme anxiety, depression,
dissociation or unusual beliefs is their
feeling of isolation. There are often no
words for the things that they are ex-
periencing and hardly ever anyone to
share their reality with. Tapping is a gift
that we can give to ourselves and to
others when we are having these ex-
periences. Simply acknowledging, and
featurelived at the mercy of their emotions this
was truly revolutionary. A 100% effec-
tive, portable, free method of calming
anxiety and neutralizing emotion, that
wasnt addictive, harmful or had any
side effects. Like many of us I was
hooked from the rst and then studied
as much as I could on the Internet be-
fore beginning training with Gwyneth.
As I learnt how to work with EFT ina more sophisticated way however,
I began to come up against some
obstacles. The rst was going for the
memory, which of course we often
want to do in order to clear out the
roots of the presenting emotional or
physical problem for the client or our-
selves. However, I knew that I had re-
pressed memories of incest as a young
child and so the most frightening EFT
phrase for me was, When was the rst
time you felt like that? My childhood
memories were a no-go area, off limits,a battleeld of undetonated explosions.
Any tapping that I did had to stay in the
present and I did this by working very,
very generally on things that were oc-
curring at that moment. A moment-by-
moment awareness of the present was
not a mindfulness practice that I had
learnt from Buddhism but what I had
learnt through personal experience as
a technique to keep me alive.
In the past, sometimes my feelings
of hopelessness, darkness or crazi-ness had been so intense that I felt
as though I was literally clinging onto
a cliff edge with my ngertips. At any
moment I could fall and would never
recover and the only way to keep
clinging, to keep hold of that tenta-
tive contact with the rock was to be
utterly present in that one moment.
If I looked back the past would over-
whelm me, if I looked forward the
future would annihilate me, the only
place I was safe, and breathing, was
the present and so I had to stay in thatpresent moment or die (at least thats
what it felt like). I did this by noticing
what was in the present moment and
describing it to myself. Chair, carpet,
blue, crumb, hurt, ache. Sometimes
I couldnt even nd words and I would
simply count the moment by, second
by second, 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10, -
1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8,9,10. This state could
last for days, or even weeks but I
would survive. I would hang on. Once I
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anxiety child like. The image that I re-
ceived was horrifying, it was of a baby
who was burned and black and vomit-
ing from every pore of his skin. This
was deeply disturbing and stopped me
in my tracks.
All I could do was what I knew, which
was moment-by-moment witness-
ing, together with the condence that
tapping changed things. So I just didcontinuous tapping, describing what
I was seeing and tuning frequently
into the imagery to check how it was
changing. As I did this the tension and
disturbance within me gradually re-
duced until I could watch and witness
as a protected, detached observer. The
intense and manic vomiting in the im-
agery lessened and the baby lightened
in colour until I was left with a baby
who just seemed completely wiped out
and was constantly oozing uid. I let
myself describe what I was seeing insimple words and then repeated those
exact words back to myself through the
tapping. Constantly oozing uid baby,
completely wiped out. After that round
I felt much better and when I returned
to the imagery found that the child had
vanished. At rst this concerned me,
but I didnt feel scared, so I just had
to trust my internal imagery, whatever
was happening was the right proc-
ess for me. I noticed that the baby
had left a blanket behind and this felt
signicant, as though the blanket held
the experience, that the blanket had
witnessed and seen things but the
blanket was ne, the blanket was going
to be ok. As I became aware of these
thoughts I tapped with them too until I
felt completely at peace and the blan-
ket also disappeared from the image.
I was blown away by this experience.
Had I tapped into a memory or a
frozen part of myself? I didnt know. All
that I knew was that the imagery was
relevant and meaningful to me and thatthrough tapping, something that at rst
seemed unmanageable, horrifying and
distressing, transformed into feelings
of relief, release, peace and wellbeing.
Having discovered this way of working
accidentally I then seized upon exam-
ples of anyone else who was combin-
ing imagery and EFT in order to afrm
that this was a valid technique. I read
about Imagineering and Inner Theatre
and Betty Moore-Hafters work with
parts and Gillian Wightmans work with
the anxious and dissociated.
I was too cautious to work in this way
by myself however, I had no way of
knowing what else lay in wait in my
subconscious and I considered myself
lucky to have got away with it this
time. What I needed was to work with
a skilled therapist and to nd an EFT
mentor for my practice who was expe-rienced in this eld, and I have been
lucky enough to nd both of these
roles in Gillian Wightman. It is through
working with her that I have begun to
learn more about the internal world
of someone who has been through
complex childhood trauma and how
the parts of ourselves that all of us ex-
perience as part of our multiple human
consciousness, become more distinct
and separated for traumatised people,
as a result of the extra burden we have
to carry in protecting us from our expe-rience and from our memories.
My view on mental health is that it is
a continuum of human experience. All
of us have low days and up days, all
of us experience inner voices, were
all aware of different aspects of our
personality, one of which might be
critical, another of which is playful, and
all of us hold some beliefs that others
dont share. For some of us, perhaps
due to experiences that we have lived
through and been unable to digest,these shared experiences move to the
higher end of the continuum. Our up
days may be really up and involve the
grandest of hare-brained schemes;
our low days may nd us hatching a
suicide plan. The different aspects of
our sub-personalities may feel stronger
than our core self and threaten to harm
or overwhelm us. Rather than being a
quietly critical monologue of thought,
an inner voice may be projected out-
wards to become an external voice that
shouts abuse at us. We may believenot just that people are talking about
us but that they have planted a secret
recording device in our living room.
For all of us however, no matter where
we are on the continuum, tapping can
make a profound difference to our
peace of mind and therefore our qual-
ity of life. Of course, if someone ap-
pears particularly fragile or distressed
we need to proceed with real caution
as I did with myself and as I continue
The courage to be presentto do with my clients. We should not
think about working on early memories
or internal parts, or focusing on body
sensations until we have established a
strong relationship with the client, clear
safety protocols (and for these we can
add to our EFT toolbox with techniques
from the eld of EMDR and Somatic
Trauma Therapy) and proved in gentle
ways to their whole system that EFTcan hold them and their emotions se-
curely and safely. We may also need to
be particularly clear about our bounda-
ries and availability, as someone who
struggles with their own boundaries
may challenge these.
As I have learnt more about the struc-
ture of my internal world and as I have
been safely negotiated through this
again and again by a skillful and expe-
rienced EFT Practitioner, I have been
able to feel more comfortable with
working on my own and with othersusing tapping and imagery to transform
dark energy and distressing experi-
ences. I still dont work directly on
memories for myself and I am cautious
about working on early memories with
many of my clients. Instead I nd that a
simple moment-by-moment witnessing
approach to tapping enables the sub-
conscious to offer up the most powerfu
and profound metaphorical imagery.
As we tap with this imagery, it changes
and transforms beautifully and we are
able to release and evolve away (as
Jade Barbee would put it) the most dif-
cult and indigestible of experiences.
Part Three Allowing a Space
I would like to share with you now a
personal tapping experience that I had
with a younger part, which occurred
6 months after the story I related to
you earlier. I was having trouble with
insomnia and so I had settled down
for an evening tap on this issue in the
hopes that it might help me to sleepbetter that night. I began with general
statements.
Even though I dont want to sleep,
even though I want to stay awake all
night, even though I want to sabotage
my progress by being so tired I cant
do anything I deeply and completely
accept myself. This round helped me
to realize that these thoughts werent
coming from the I, that a lot of me was
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when working with clients. Its very
easy to get caught up in our favourite
protocol or procedure but next to the
clients experience none of that mat-
ters. We dont have to do anything,
we dont have to feel as though we
need to achieve something special or
impose anything on the clients proc-
ess. If we are fully present and tapping
what theyre experiencing will changeand as it changes their cognition about
that experience will change, even their
memory of it will change, naturally,
easily and individually in a way that is
safe and right for them. The client is
the expert on themselves, and given
the opportunity, their subconscious will
lead them toward healing and release
more effectively and more safely than
anything we could possibly plan or
think of.
And so my partner and I just sat
together and tapped as she asked mevery simple questions. What do you
see now? What else do you notice?
Its blue; everything is blue, the light,
the girl, the road. Shes wearing a
nighty and shes lying on the road. It
feels like theres been a car accident.
And its very cold, its so cold. And
then I started to cry, because it was so
cold and she was so cold and I couldnt
help her. Can you touch her? my part-
ner asked. No, I replied, Im afraid, I
dont want to feel her skin, I dont want
to admit Im connected to her, or admit
responsibility for her, I dont know what
to do. I repeated each of my answers
and insights several times in order to
get to a good few tapping points for
each. Then my partner asked, Whats
happening now?
Its starting to snow, I said, Maybe
I can put a blanket over her. I can do
that; I can do that to help her. Now Im
resting my head against her chest,
were together in the snow, and the
snow is getting deeper, but its still sohopeless, now shes buried and I will
be too. Its so cold. And we continued
to sit together with this feeling of hope-
lessness, tapping continuously.
Part Four Darkness Transforms
After sitting and tapping with the dev-
astating feeling of hopelessness for a
while, allowing that to be my total focus
I suddenly became aware of a change.
There was a gure moving into the im-
reect it back with tapping. So cold, so
cold, so cold, so cold, I tapped on
each of the points. We just honour
each word or sensation as it occurs,
accepting it as complete in itself, being
mindful not to analyse or guess or leap
ahead.
My reward for doing this was then that
the face of a 3-year-old girl appeared,
her skin was blue, frozen with cold
perhaps, her lips were purple and I re-
alized with a shock that she was dead.
I could sense that she was lying down
but at the rst the image was too dark
to see anything else. So I simply took
what I was given and reected it back,
There is a girl, I see her face, her skin
is blue and frozen, shes lying down,
shes dead. At this point I began to feel
afraid. I hadnt yet come across an
internal part in therapy that was dead,
so I then paid attention to my core selfand reected those feelings of fear and
insecurity. Im afraid, I dont know what
to do, there is sweat prickling in my
armpits, I feel I cant reach her, I feel
the desperateness of that in my stom-
ach like a hollow rock, I dont know
what to do.
At this point I really didnt know what to
do, should I wait until I was in therapy
or continue tapping by myself? My
partner came into the room just then
and so I explained what was happen-
ing and asked her if she would tap with
me, and help me by repeating what I
said, so that I could hear it reected.
So we began with me describing
the image to her exactly as I saw it.
Theres a young girl, shes blue, shes
frozen, shes lying down, and her arm
is pointing upwards. Immediately she
asked, Whats the signicance of her
pointing arm? Do you want to move
her somewhere else? I was shocked
how brutal and disturbing these ques-
tions felt. They were dragging me intoa cognitive state of mind that I just
didnt want to be in, which just felt
completely wrong.
II told her that we just have to witness
what is happening, accepting all parts
of the image and the process, and
perhaps just ask some very simple
questions like, what is happening now?
I told her to ask questions that would
help her to see what Im seeing.
And this is what we must all remember
supportive of sabotage. I changed the
set up to reect that I was addressing a
part of me and I reframed the idea of
sabotage as protection. Even thought
theres a part of me that still wants to
protect me and this is the best way it
knows how, I deeply and completely
accept that part. Even though theres
a part of me thats keeping me awake
because its scared of what will happenif I succeed, I deeply and completely
accept all parts of myself.
Even though parts of me are in conict
about staying stuck and moving for-
ward I accept myself and this conict
and I wonder if its possible for those
parts to be in communication now.
After this round I felt a profound sense
of gratefulness to this part, or parts,
rather than anger and frustration. I
had an awareness that some very
important work was being carried out,that something signicant was begin
protected or I wouldnt be having a
serious symptom like insomnia. I there-
fore continued tapping while directly
addressing this part. Id like to say
thank you so much for protecting me, I
appreciate what you are doing for me, I
appreciate what you have done for me.
We have been through so much and I
wouldnt be here without you. I know
you are working so hard to protect me
and to keep me safe and Im acknowl-
edging that now. I really do love andappreciate and accept all parts of
myself and I honour them for the work
that they do. And Im here now just
to witness and listen to any part that
needs to be heard. Im here now and
I can share anything that needs to be
shared. And if you want, and if it feels
ok, I am also here to help.
At this point I just stopped talking and
continued to tap in silence, with no
expectations.
Just making the intention and con-nection to be with a part, and then
allowing a space is so important, both
for us and for our clients. An empty
space will invite the other to enter in.
And this is what happened for me. I
began to hear, or feel, these words
very faintly, So cold, so cold. This rst
offering from a part, or from someones
subconscious, is like a tiny thread that
may then lead to something more, so
we just take it as it presents itself and
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this great lion energy, warm, golden
and bounding around. We ended the
session here. After we were done
I yawned like I have never yawned
before and slept all the way through
the night for the rst time in 4 weeks.
What we can take from this example is
that working with the inner world and
inner selves using EFT, imagery and
metaphor is a gentle, yet powerfullytransformative technique that can bring
profound healing to all parts of our-
selves. And all that is required to work
in this way is the courage to be with
ourselves, or our clients, to accept,
acknowledge and allow their reality
as they experience it, and to use pure
and simple EFT to reect and give
back their exact words through the tap-
ping. Just as we need to be cautious
not to offer a re-frame too early on, we
should time our suggestion to bring in
resources carefully. In this examplemy partner didnt know that she could
suggest bringing in a resource but we
just kept on tapping and the resource
appeared. For people who have lived
through dark experiences their session
with us may be the rst and only time
they get to fully acknowledge the terror
and hopelessness of their emotions.
We need to allow them the space and
time to do this safely, if we rush in
to x things too soon, we will deny
them this crucial healing experience
and the opportunity for true emotionalalchemy. We need to separate from
our own beliefs and prejudices in order
to work in this way and we need to be
able to practice non-attachment to any
one particular protocol, procedure or
technique. When working with people
who have suffered complex trauma
we need to have an awareness and
understanding of just how complicated,
fragmented and disturbing their inner
world and inner selves or voices might
be. We need to be prepared to work
at a snails pace, to keep putting the
brakes on, to use protective distanc-
ing, to chop and change technique, or
to drop all technique. We need to work
responsively and responsibly.
I have been so fortunate to nd an
EFT practitioner who is fearless in
working with me through my issues
and accompanying me through this
challenging landscape. We still have
some work to do but now that my
internal system knows I am listen-
age and a lovely sensation of warmth.
I saw long black hair belonging to a
young Native American woman, who
was bringing this incredible feeling of
warmth with her. So I began describ-
ing this while continuing to tap, She
feels warm, shes warming everything,
theres more light everywhere. And
then there was a sensation of incred-
ible pain in my back. It was so intensethat I was doubled up in pain.
This was unsettling for both of us but
my partner had the courage to stick to
the simple instructions I had given her
and continued asking gentle ques-
tions about what was happening in the
image. She asked, What is happen-
ing now? What else do you notice?
I realized that the woman could help
me and replied in delight, She warms
things; shes warming my back and
its healing the pain. Then the snow
began to melt.
And then, the most extraordinary, won-
derful thing happened. A tiny, shy girl,
peeked around the woman to show
herself to me, she was radiantly beau-
tiful, almost too beautiful to look at, her
arm was resting on a big cat, a lion or
a tiger. The blue, frozen corpse had
transformed into this golden child. The
child still felt unreachable, at no point
did it feel right to reach out for her let
alone to tap on her, but somehow that
felt right. By now the whole landscapehad become dry and warm, I was
aware of sandy ground and big rocks,
there was a whole group of women
now, standing to one side. The stark,
dark grieving landscape had become a
safe, healing nurturing place.
I moved out of mindfulness momen-
tarily and started to worry about the
process, shouldnt I be thinking about
integration or something right now? I
neednt have worried because I was
continuing to tap, and just with thatthought the tiny golden girl appeared
to be moving towards me and as she
walked I observed her growing older
and older. As she moved closer I could
feel the big catness, it was a lion, I
could feel its fur, its warmth and its
strength. And when it joined me I felt
whole and knew that its energy had
integrated with mine with no need
for pressure or outward encourage-
ment. I found myself looking into the
future and saw myself there lled with
The courage to be presenting and knows that I have learnt how
to help, it has quietened right down. I
feel balanced and calm and present, I
can experience joy and love and hope
again. For me, as is the case for many
others, my mental health challenges
were a direct result of experiencing that
which could not be digested by my self.
My being was constantly seeking to
digest and to make sense and mean-ing out of what had happened to me, at
the same time as trying to protect me
from ever knowing that anything bad
had happened. The resulting chaos
became my symptoms.
What I would like to leave you with is
a renewed picture of the effectiveness
of simply being mindfully present with
yourself or another, listening deeply
and without judgement, and tapping.
We have been told never to go where
we dont belong but I would ask us
to reconsider where we do belong. Ifmental health is a continuum and all
experiences are human experiences,
then surely we can nd a relation and
relationship to every sort of experi-
ence that any human has, even if at
rst those experiences appear strange,
alien or frightening. Soteria House
was an experimental project led by Dr
Loren Mosher in the US, which aimed
to provide an alternative therapeu-
tic environment for people who had
been diagnosed with schizophrenia.
The people who helped in the house
werent trained mental health profes-
sionals but ordinary students who sim-
ply sought to provide a normalizing and
nurturing environment for the residents
Their priority was not to medicate or
analyse but to build relationship. This
project was extremely successful and
its model has since been replicated in
other countries. It provides an evidence
base that neither experts nor medi-
cation are needed to help someone
through a psychotic crisis.If simply having the courage to be
present with someone who is in acute
mental or emotional distress can pro-
foundly help them, imagine what can
be achieved if we had the courage to
tap with them as well?
To listen to the talk, visit the site below.
www.more-freedom.co.uk
Jessica Mr
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MEA
edicine META - Medicine is a revolut ionaryapproach to understanding the root
cause and meaning of illness. It works
by using the bodys biological survival
programming and scientifcally maps
physical symptoms, via the brain, to
their primal cause.According to Meta Medicine, there is not only
a mind-body connection, but actually a very
precise organ-mind-brain-social connection.
Each brain area corresponds to a type of
experience i.e. brain stem and all the organs
directed by the brain stem are usually associ-
ated with information processing associated
with survival. E.g. Where a brain relay within
a brain area corresponds to a specifc organ
and a specifc conict or trauma and an envi-ronmental-social experience.
This knowledge is absolutely revolutionary be-
cause it allows us to understand specifcally
how a disease process is /was caused, thereby
helping us to heal it.
Using the brain
to uncover the
cause of illnessAAMET Life magazines deputy
editor, Jane Unsworthnds out
more about this revolutionary
approach from META-Medicine
Master Trainer and author ofWhy am I sick, Richard Flook.
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The 2-Phases of Disease
META-Medicine recognises that there
are twophases to disease and this is
broken up into 9-stages:
1. The norm
2. A conict shock occurs (UDIN)
3. The body goes into stress which can
be identied by cold extremities, inter-
rupted sleep patterns, an issue plays
round in the head. Mostly we feel okaybut there are some diseases such as
panic attacks and depression that show
up at this stage.
4. The Reversal Point is when some-
thing occurs to alleviate the original
shock and the mind/body system feels
relief
5. Most physical symptoms arrive, suchas pain, feeling tired, fever, infection and
this is when we go to see the doctor
6. The symptoms reach a height of
intensity called the Healing Crisis (HC).This can be quite scary depending on
the presenting symptoms but can range
anywhere from a headache to a full-
blown heart attack (as an example)
MEA-Medicine:An interview with Richard Flook
THE ORIGINS
Dr Ryke Geerd Hamer
developed the foundations of
META-Medicine (MM) back
in the 1970s, building on a
model started by Peneld
in the 1950-60s where a
link between the brain and
organs was established. And a
student of Hamers, Johannes
Fisslinger expanded his work
to add energ to the model
and was the rst to coined the
phrase META-Medicine.
Richard Flook, came across
Hamers work in the early
1990s while in search of his
own answers as to why his
mother died of Breast Cancer
when Richard was only 11, as
his mother had left the family
home to move hundreds of
miles away 5-yrs earlier. AndHamers work started to pro-
vide some clarity.
THE BLUEPRINT
At that stage Hamer had
mapped the brain based on
the Embryology model that
Western Medicine teaches to
all doctors but is mainly used
by those specialising in prema-
ture births.
Hamers model shows that
every organ, muscle, bone
and tissue has a specic
embryonic-layer and location
in the brain that provides the
specic information needed
when it comes to unravelling
causation.
You can imagine the implica-
tions for new-biology prac-
titioners and how it enables
lasting healing and learning for
the client.
ichard Flook has been a practitioner for 20-yrs and has been involved in the develop-
ment of META-Medicine since it started in 2004, hes one of a handful of MM Mas-
ter Trainers as well as an NLP Trainer and Master Practitioner. He has a long his-
tory of training others worldwide and he trained to Practitioner Level in EFT. He is
one of 8-board members for the IMMA (International META-Medicine Association)
which comprises doctors, PhD scientists, alternative and complementary practi-tioners. In 2009 he wrote the book Why Am I Sick and founded his company of the same
name. Richards application of META-Medicine is strongly inuenced by his NLP back-
ground. In this regard hes made a unique contribution to the META-Medicine
model by including the emotional, social and environmental aspects of disease
His work demonstrates the disease process in some of the following examples:
- Demonstrating how pain comes and goes
- How itching can be increased or decreased in a condition like eczema
- Showing how depression and mania re off in two different brain hemispheres
Its remarkable in its application and clients are astounded when you hit the mark,
which is a joy to see. In the book Richard walks through the effects that impact dis -ease on a number of levels. By explaining the behavioural changes a person goesthrough and how these affect our environment (which often changes as the result of
disease) goes a long way to illustrating a range of factors that are vital to aid lasting
recovery. Richards contribution to the MM model allows the practitioner a really in -
telligent diagnostic tool providing a strong pre-empt to any therapeutic intervention
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7. On the other side of the HC the symptoms start torelease and much nurturing is required
8. Of course the therapeutic interventions can be ap-
plied at any stage throughout
the model. But if a condition is the sort of chronic
condition that comes and goes, it will continue to recur
until its been identied and ousted
9. Return to normThis system allows the practitioner to ascertain
whereabouts in the disease process a client is, be-
cause each symptom can be explained as to why it is
there. And likewise a laypersoncan glean insight and learn how
to deal with their issues through
greater conscious awareness.
And the reason is because:
Every pimple, cold, epidemic,
headache, pain and serious
disease has a reason and leavesclues as to its innate cause.
Most diseases are chronic and
this model interrupts that pattern
which is how it manages to deliver
an informed outcome.
The UDINmoment
The conict shock is dened thus:
U=Unexpected D=Dramatic
I=Isolating
N=No coping strategy
As a UDIN occurs (the phrase was coined byRichard) at stage 2 (of the 2-phase model) it
starts the disease process and is where the
therapists detective skills are brought into play.
In identifying what created a clients original issue (and
there may be many associations that trigger off their
disease/issue from their history) it reduces the timeneeded to make a signicant change for the client,
and avoids being led down blind alleys.
MM makes this important distinction because as a
shock affects an organ the whole bodys energy net-
work takes a hit, and the stronger the hit the deeper
the impact. And the deeper the impact the more hor-
rible the disease.
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But what happens as the body goes into stress is
that a persons whole life-landscape can change
dramatically, where they become downward spiralling
instead of upwardly so.
They may no longer want to bother with people, work
or hobbies that inspired them previously. Social and
environmental interests can take a complete u-turn
as an effect of the stress-phase. Even their sexual-
ity can change. And of course, as practitioners, weknow only too well the ramications these symptoms
inict.
Brain CT Scans
The brain/organ links have been qualied through
the application of Brain CTs (computer tomography)which is a more revealing and complex x-ray for the
purposes of MM. Although mostly unnecessary when
treating clients, they serve to back up the theory be-
hind META-Medicine and can be called into play for
serious or terminal disease.
The evidence is found where the infected organ area
leaves an energetic imprint that shows up as a ring
on the x-ray. And x-rays resonate at the same fre-
quency as emotions so what are seen on CT-scans
are trapped emotional conicts. A similar shaped ringis duplicated on the corresponding diseased body
organ scan, proving the mind/body connection. TheMM CT-scan reader is able to determine the age of a
conict, its stage of activity and the number of previ-
ous associations of time a client has triggered off the
UDIN moment making the issue chronic. As you canimagine this provides excellent information for practi-
tioners and medical staff alike. And medical doctors
are starting to take notice and some have, others are
training in META-Medicine.
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When I trained in EFT 3-yrsago someone had been in-
vited along to give a talk to the
group about MM and although
I listened it just seemed too
simplistic.
Then I took a Psych-K courselater that year and someone
recommended the DVD series
of META-Medicine using Matrix
Reimprinting with EFT that Ri-
chard recorded with Karl Daw-
son. A variety of EFT students
(who have gone from strength
to strength with their own EFTpractices) can be seen on that
weekends introductory course.
And again it was some timebefore I started watching them.
We all know that one!
By the time I started the META-
Medicine course in late 2010 I
was well and truly ready for the
learning. And it hasnt disap-
pointed, as Ive quickly beenable to apply it to myself as
well. As practitioners we have
to work on ourselves dont we,
and this is a great tool for rais-ing self-awareness in the body/
mind connection. I dont think
Im alone in saying I nd it much
easier to motivate myself when
working with others.
But this is my missing piece,
without being too corny, and
Richard would be the rst tosay there are bound to be other
tools out there waiting in the
wings. But for now I feel this appli-
cation is a phenomenal add-on.
One of the downsides is that theinformation is new and we need
more of it. But this will come from
practitioners qualifying and contrib-
uting their ndings from within their
specialist areas. So it provides
great opportunities for those whowant to take it deeper.
The book which is a worthy read at
www.whyamisick.comalthough
initially I found it frustrating on a
number of levels. Firstly the gram-
mar needs further editing, and the
paragraphs are squished together
without the usual extra line space,
so I nd the wording quite dense
and Id like to see the next edition
improve on these aspects.But this oversight may in part be
due to Richards contagious en-
thusiasm in his desire to get it out
there and inform - which makes him
a generous teacher. Although the
book translates itself through meta-
phorical stories, there were times
when it fell short in terms of imme-
diate access to the information as a
reference.
However, Ive started applyingthe tools with clients and working
on pain is a quick way of letting
clients recognise what is actu-
ally causing it. The exciting thingabout using Richards MM model is
demonstrating it to clients quickly
by bringing the pain back and tak-
ing it away again once you nd their
trigger.
This way both the practitioner but
more importantly the client gets tosee it right there and then before
their very eyes.
You may have caught on by nowthat Im fast becoming an una-
bashed fan of the tool. But this is
because Im experiencing it as a
practitioner and seeing the clarity it
brings. It has the ability to take youwhere you need to go to catch the
cheeky chappies that cause the
My Experience
by Jane Unsworth
therapy review
Institute of HeartMath
Following a meeting with Rollin McCa-
rthy of the HeartMath Institute, Richard
gleaned enough insight to feel hed found
the missing piece of the jigsaw and be-gan integrating some of their ndings into
his own work.
Whenever a UDIN conict shock occurs
it sends a wave of information through
the body. The master organ responsible
for this is the heart and the HeartMath
Institute have proven this. Theyve meas-
ured the wave from a persons heart as
much as 25m away from the body. This
provides powerful information for energy
workers, and many people reading this
already incorporate such learning intotheir own practice.
Richard has found that as a UDIN conict
shock occurs it affects a certain location
in the brain, and its corresponding organ,
but also ties in with how the heart imprints
the blood with each heartbeat. Its been
found that every organ transmits a wave
of information back out into the world, but
the heart sends out more information than
any other organ in the body. His further
realisation was that the energy created by
a UDIN moment changes the energy and
how we interact with other people andthe world. The social and environmental
implications are vast but clearly it also
determines a persons worldview.
Richard found this vital piece of informa-
tion was his missing link because it goes
on to explain how the waves of informa-
tion, caused by the UDIN help to attract
different people towards us like a magnet.
And by putting us into different environ-
ments (with different people) we have an
opportunity to resolve the shocks weve
gone through.
The Reticular Activating System is situ-
ated in the brains Thalamus and plays
its part in the Law of Attraction, which
ties in seamlessly with the HeartMath
and META-Medicine philosophys. The
hearts blood-print is constantly charging
and changing the human body eld with
information. EFT Tapping interrupts an
old pattern telling the heart to send out a
new one.
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energetic glitch in the system.
And the potential to have clients helped even
quicker than they are right now is very ap-
pealing. This isnt to say its all singing alldancing, but it has a greater intelligence that
sets the therapist on the right path before
properly applying the interventions. And Im
nding that to be a powerful asset.
META-Healing
Richard has developed a new tool from his
experience of a myriad of techniques; such as
META-Medicine, NLP, EFT, Hypnosis, Heart-
Math, Time Line Therapy and many others.
META-Healing has enabled him to culminate
the above into a process that enables prac-
titioners to take clients step-by-step through
their own healing in a non-intrusive manner.The client is partially led through the eyes-
closed process enabling deep shifts that
ignite their own healing throughout.
During his long and evolving practice Richard
has found clients get the deepest shifts where
there is less practitioner involvement. Andthis process has combined his vast range of
tools and techniques to deliver something
which has been honed into a simple re-
integrative process that anyone can learn to
apply.
Finally
Richard Flook is a very enthusiastic trainer
and co-traveller on the META-Medicine trail, who loves sharing both his information and the joy of your discov-
ering it for the rst time.
Maybe like me youd like to begin by dipping your toe in the water and nding out some more about what I think
is a fascinating tool and its application.
And youll nd a range of information, depending on where you want to start at Richard Flooks website
www.whyamisick.com
Why am I sick Richard Flook
The DVD series META-Medicine using Matrix Reimprinting & EFT with Karl Dawson
The Diploma (an introductory series of CD recordings and PDFs)
The META-Medicine Certication Training course where you can sign up for the online training that takes
place weekly over a 16-wk period and regular practice sessions to work with other students
If youd like to learn more about any of this Id be more
than happy to have a chat with you.
Jane Unsworth
EFT, NLP and Matrix Practit ioner
www.abcsimpleas.co.uk
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DOSSIER
SPRING - CLEAN
Your LieContents
Are you in Cause or
Effect?Highlighting the benets ofbeing in a state of cause
Is 4-yr old you stil l
running your li fe?How early family beliefs
are still affecting you right
now.
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Eradicating SHAMEA practitioners guide to
understanding shame
with loads of tools to
help you work withclients to erradicate it
from their lives
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A Dossier filledwith techniques
and strategiesto help you toemotionally
spring clean yourlie.
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DOSSIERSPRING-CLEAN YOUR LIFE
by Bennie Naud
the PractitionersguideSHAME
e use language like Shame on you
when someone does something bad
and e.g. in South Africa Ag shame is
meant as Poor you, as in pitying some-one. Seemingly a taboo subject in many
ways, I hope that this article will help shine some
light on what shame is, where it comes from, how
to identify it and most importantly, effective ways
of healing it. If youre wondering if you can heal
shame then, quoting Leo Buscaglia totally out of
context, Yes you can! Whether you work with
people that experience shame or you are working
through your own,the main purpose of this article
is to convey the message that with appropriate
awareness and skill and using energy psychology
techniques, even toxic shame can be lifted to al-
low people to freely express themselves and their
creativity.How do I know? Because Ive done it and Ive
helped clients to do it. Everything I present in this
dossier is based on my own experience except
where indicated otherwise.
Shame has played a signicant part in my life thus
far and despite having shifted metaphorical tons
of it, it is something that I remain passionate and
vigilant about as it still trips me up and shuts me
down from time to time.
Shame is something that is not talked about much in our society in the truesense o the word.
eradicating
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SHAMEis a painful emotion causedby a strong sense of embarrass-
ment, unworthiness, or disgrace.
Not that most of us need a diction-
ary denition to remind us of theunmistakable experience of shame!
Lets start by differentiating be-
tween shame and guilt: guilt is a
feeling we get when we think that
we did something bad, whereas
shame is a feeling we get that
we simply are bad; that is, before
weve even said or done anything
we just are bad; inherently bad to
the core. Fact of life. Fait accomp-
lis. Just the way it is and nothing tobe done about it.
Have you ever wondered how it
possible that fairly intelligent peo-
ple, even those with ample proof
that they are loved and liked, eventhose who are successful and with
a true sense of passion and pur-
pose in life, even people that must
know deep down that they are in-
herently good people, can drop into
shame and shut down in an instant
- with a single thought or memory,
or a word or a look from someone
else?
How can shame, ranked by numer-
ous models as a low energy feel-
ing, stop mature and emotionally
literate people dead in their tracksand shut their creativity and self-
expression down in the blink of an
eye?
John Bradshaw writes in Healingthe Shame that Binds You I used
to drink to solve the problems
caused by drinking. The more I
drank to relieve my shame-based
loneliness and hurt the more I felt
ashamed. Shame begets shameI came to see that shame is one of
the major destructive forces in hu-
man life.
When I rst read this book in
2007 it touched me deeply; it felt
that nally someone understoodmy internal world and life experi-
ence - through the lens of shame.
He articulated with one hundredpercent accuracy the difculties inmy day-to-day activities that others
seemed to perform with ease and
comfort like walking into a room
full of people, going on a date or
even asking a friend for a favour(all of which could be torture for
shame based people.)
Bradshaw differentiates between
healthy and toxic shame and sug-
gests that healthy shame is there tokeeps us humble, to remind us thatwere human and that we some-
times need help and to keep us
open to learning (as opposed to ar-
rogantly thinking that we should beable to do everything by ourselves
and that we know it all).
He postulates that unless healthy
shame gets processed or released
it turns to toxic shame which be-
comes a self-perpetuating down-
wards shame spiral; see diagram
on next page.
Drawing from my own experi-
ence I agree with Bradshaw that
unhealthy thinking is the biggest
causes of shame-bound spirals.
Unhealthy thinking causes shame,which causes more unhealthy
thinking which causes more
shame, and so on. It is therefore
also in the area of changing our
thoughts that we nd the mosteffective solutions to heal shame;
more about that later.
It seems to me that Bradshaw
suggests that the journey to heal
shame is by default a painful and
long one, and if my interpretation
is correct in this regard I speculate
that Emotional Freedom Tech-
niques would change his view.
I think this book is essential read-
ing for all practitioners for two
reasons:
1. if you are someone who experi-
ences severe shame I believe this
book will provide valuable context
for your life experience and a
much deeper understanding of the
shame dynamic; I believe that we
absolutely have to continue clear-
ing our own issues when we work
with clients.
2. it will help you get inside the
heads and worlds of those whodo and who may come to you for
help and enable you to meet them
where they are, in their model of
the world.
WHY IS SHAME A PROBLEM?The reason shame is a problem is
because it kills; it kills relationships
spontaneity, creativity and it kills
through suicides, depression and
addictions.
Its a problem because unless the
cycle is broken it gets passed on
from generation to generation.
Its a problem because its all-per-
vasive yet often sublimely subtle.
Its a problem because unless you
deal with it, it will deal with you.
WHAT IS SHAME?erradicating shame
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WHERE DOES SHAME
ORIGINATE FROM?I believe that toxic shame as
Bradshaw denes it results from(well-intended or not well intended)
authority gures like parents,
teachers, older siblings or thechurch that do not allow the child
to express and reframe shaming
experiences. If a child is allowedto express shame (because they
believe that the way they perceive,
think, feel, imagine or desire iswrong) and they are helped to re-
frame the experience (e.g. a parent
apologising for losing their temper
and shouting at them or a teacher
explaining that the child had misun-
derstood them and that they didnot mean to suggest that the way
the child thought was wrong) then
the child has the opportunity to
learn from the event and release
the shame, and life goes on.
If however, during and after
shameful experiences children are
not assured and allowed to release
and reframe the situation then they
are likely to internalise those feel-
ings where it often turns into toxicshame and severe self-limiting
beliefs of the Im bad variety.
[Side note: I do not subscribe to
theories that suggest we can shame
someone or make someone angry,
or sad; I nd it more empowering to
believe that people simply experience
certain emotions when others act in
a certain way. When Person A does
something, Person B may experience
the event as funny, Person C may feelsevere shame and Person D may feel
sad; it does seem accurate to me to
suggest then that Person A made the
other parties laugh, feel ashamed or
sad respectively. I choose therefore
to stay clear from blaming and victim
language and in this case would argue
that Person B interpreted the event
as funny, Person C as shaming and
person D as sad.]
Bradshaw lists seven dysfunctional
family rules and a host of other
causes of shame with numerous
practical, real life examples. The
one that stands for to me is one he
labels the denial of ve freedoms:suggesting that the way children
perceive, think, feel, desire or im-
agine is wrong will almost certainly
lead to them taking on shame; if
this is perpetuated over time it islikely to turn into toxic shame andthey will almost inevitably start
believing that they are bad.
Children who are abandoned or
abused usually start believing
that they somehow caused and/
or deserved the abuse and that
they do not deserve anything other
than the abuse or abandonment;
the painful memories also often
becomes their only connection withtheir abuser and unconsciously
they may not want to let it go
because it would be disloyal to the
abuser and/or theyd rather have
some connection than no connec-
tion with the perpetrator.
Unless they resolve this dynamic
they will very likely carry this intoadulthood and continue to re-enact
the same program.
Cliff Barry, the founder of Shadow-
Work (www.shadowwork.com)says that we are hotwired to love
our parents; we really have no
choice! So the only way we can
make sense of our own abuse orneglect as children is by justifying
our parents actions in some way
and blaming ourselves.
HOW TO IDENTIFY SHAMEClients dont usually come to us
saying Id like to work on shame.
Instead they ask us to help themwith the symptoms of shame with-
out necessarily attributing those
symptoms to shame as the cause.These symptoms could literally
be anything, ranging from being
depressed, being unable to get
ahead in their careers or nail biting.
Lets take a look at some common
road signs (or ags) that may pointtowards shame; remember that
these presenting issues may also
be caused by something other than
shame (although Im beginning
to think that the vast majority ofpresenting problems can be boiled
down to shame, preventing self-
acceptance).
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Bradshaw talks about striving forpower and control and quotes
Terry Kellogg as saying that he
had always lived on-guard so that
hed not be caught off guard; pow-
er hungry clients or clients who
are constantly fending off threats,
rejections and failures, who have
strong tendencies to want to con-
trol (including your sessions with
them!) are often driven by shame.Control equates to power and
they need power to compensate
for their lack of self-worth and to
make sure that no-one nds out
about their badness.
Bradshaw also states that rage isprobably the most naturally oc-
curring cover-up for shame and it
protects in two ways
1. It keeps others (the world) away