a wedding i have attended

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A Wedding I Have Attended

Last year, I went to Taiping to attend my cousins wedding. She, unlike most of my family

members, is a Christian. So, this was the first time I have been to a Christian wedding. Her

wedding was held in the Chinese Methodist Church. The wedding had two receptions in two

different places, one in Taiping and another in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia.

This marriage was traditionally done every step of the way. The marriage and betrothals were

made a year ago by both bride and bridegroom. During the engagement, the bride and groom

exchanged rings as symbol that they have tied a knot together. I could see the look on my

cousins face that day, something that I cannot describe in words. She was grinning from ear

to ear and I could tell she was really happy and also anxious at the same time. The

engagement was held at the brides in Kuala Lumpur. Although it was just an engagement, it

was held grandly because my cousin was the last one to get married in her family. All of my

family members came all the way to Kuala Lumpur to see her get engaged. On the exact

same day, the couple announced that their wedding will be held on the month of September.

The reason they chose this date is because they believe that the safest season to get married isbetween the month of harvest and the month of Christmas, when food is plenteous.

On the wedding day, the bridegroom was smartly dressed in a tuxedo. On the other hand, the

bride looked stunning wearing a picturesque white gown and her face covered with a veil.

Everyone was seated in the church with the groom and his best man, waiting for the bride.

After a few minutes of waiting, the bride finally arrived. She was walk down the aisle by her

father. This is one of the traditions of a Christian wedding. This indirectly shows that, when

her father gives his daughter away, he is giving his blessing to the couple and acknowledging

that her family approves of her choice. As she walked through the hallway of the church were

the groom awaits, she was escorted by two flower girls, two pageboys and a few bridesmaids.

The flower girls, who were looking very pleasant, threw flower petals on the floor. The

pageboys on the other hand, were carrying a ring each. The bridesmaids consists of my

cousins close friends were just overlooking the scenario.

As soon as the bride was on the stage, where the bridegrooms was, my uncle handed over his

daughter to the groom. Then, both of the bride and bridegroom kneeled down in front of the

priest. The priest asked them the usual questions that are always asked in a Christian

wedding. After both of them said I do, the bride and the groom exchanged rings. The priest

pronounced them husband and wife, and his last word to the groom was you may kiss the

bride indicates to the groom to kiss the bride and indirectly telling them that they are legally

together as husband and wife. After that, my newly wedded cousin and her husband walkdown the aisle again as husband and wife. Outside, a red Ferrari was waiting for them to take

them to a fancy restaurant where the wedding reception is held. Me and all my family

members followed their car from behind giving the newlyweds


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Malay weddings are grand affairs where the couple is treated as royalty. Weddings are usually

spread out over several days, starting with the Henna-staining followed by the Nikah ceremony and

ending with the Bersanding, which is the actual wedding day.

Engagement

As soon as a man announces his wish to marry, an engagement date will be set when families of the

couple meet to discuss the wedding plans.

Henna-staining ceremony

The excitement begins three days before the wedding. On this day, the bride-to-be shows off her

trousseau, changing five to six times throughout the day, as a sign of good luck. Her friends and

relatives are invited to view her wardrobe. A day after this, the wedding ceremony proper starts

with the henna-staining ceremony. During this ceremony, yellowish oil, extracted from henna leaves

is applied on the fingertips of the couple by friends and relatives. It announces their forthcoming

unity.


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Nikah ceremony

Religious solemnisation of the marriage takes place on the wedding eve. Known as the Nikah

ceremony rite is required by both the Islamic law and the civic law to legalise a Malay wedding.

Bersanding

The actual wedding day is the Bersanding. This literally means the "sitting together of the bride and

bridegroom on the bridal couch". Known as the Pelamin, this couch is the centrepiece of the whole

ceremony, and two pelamins are equired - one in the bride's house and the other in the

bridegroom's. As the Bersanding ceremony customarily takes place in the afternoon, the bridegroom

entertains guests at his own house in the morning. At the agreed time, he is escorted in a procession

with a hadrah or kompang band (male music group) to his bride's house. An astakona, a tiered

pedestalled tray, is also placed in front of the pelamin. Each tier contains a mound of cooked yellow

rice studded all over with red-dyed eggs. This tray will later be presented to the emak pengantin (a

close friend or relative chosen to be the matron of honour for the marriage) as an act of

appreciation for her help during the ceremonies.The groom then sits with the bride on the pelamin.After this the couple eturns to the bridegroom's house in a procession. They are normally

accompanied by the hadrah band, with men beating a rhythm on their timbrels and reading verses

from the Koran. The music proclaims their marriage to the world. At the bridegroom's house, the

Bersanding ceremony is repeated for the benefit of the bridegroom's kinfolk. This is followed by

feasting and merry-making, called the kenduri. The wedding celebrations come to an end when the

bridal pair returns home to the bride's house to

pay respect to her family.

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