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Your Pit Stop For InspirationA collection of quotes.

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Contents

Introduction Attitude/ Authenticity 1Bible/ Books 11Calling/ Character/ Communication 21Dream 37Excellence 41Failure/ Family 47God/ Greatness/ Growth 59Hard work/ Humility 77Integrity/ Intentional Living 87Leadership 97Perseverance 105Serving/ Success 109Time Management 121Vision 127Wisdom 131

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Introduction

Every day, we wake up searching for a reason to live. We yearn to find purpose and meaning in life. Discovering the “why” in life doesn’t happen through happenstance. Rather, it requires discernment and intentionality. In fact, this process can be described like embarking on a voyage in an unchartered territory. You simply can’t expect to reach your final destination in the absence of a compass or GPS that signals your true north.

For the last decade, I’ve been an avid collector of quotes. Quotes have been a source of inspiration that captured the wisdom and truth in a succinct way. What I love about a great quote is the power to cut through the fog and point at the truth. Here’s one of my all time favorites by C.S. Lewis: “I believe in Christianity as I believe the sun has risen: not only because I see it, but because by it I see everything else.” In hindsight, I realized many of these quotes served as a compass that directed me to my true north.

In the following book, I have curated and compiled 25 topics that will help you live a life of intentionality. As the book is appropriately entitled “He said, She said, and You?,” this is not your typical quote book where you just passively browse through the quotes. Rather, consider this as an active resource where you will discover and unleash your unique voice.

Throughout the book, you’ll find plenty of white spaces to help you jot down your unique thoughts and ideas in the book. I pray that you will grow more intentionally as you turn through the pages and discover your God-given purpose in life.

Best,Paul Sohn

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Attitude


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“Attitude, not aptitude, determines your altitude.” —Zig Ziglar

“It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.” —Dale Carnegie

“Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.” —Winston Churchill

“I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.” —Jimmy Dean

Blind but Happy

O what a happy soul am I! Although I cannot see, I am resolved that in this world contented I will be; how many blessings I enjoy that other people don’t! To weep and sigh because I’m blind, I cannot, and I won’t. —Donald Kauffman, Baker’s Pocket Treasury of Religious Verse

your sTory when? what? how?

Attitude 3

“Orveille Kelly was informed two years ago that he had terminal cancer. He and his wife went home to cry —to die. Should they keep it a secret?

They prayed. The answer was that they should play about it. So they decided to give a big party. They invited all their friends. During the festivities, Orville held up his hand to make an announcement:

“You may have wondered why I called you all together. This is a cancer party. I have been told I have a terminal cancer. Then my wife and I realised we were all terminal. We decided to start a new organisation. It is called the M.T.C —Make Today Count. You are all charter members.”

Since that time the organisation has grown across the country. Orville has been too busy to die, pointing out the way we Christians are to play into the jaws of death —singing, loving, not losing a minute from, “the joy the world cannot give nor take away.” —Dave Redding, Jesus Makes Me Laugh with Him

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“Words can never adequately convey the incredible impact of our attitude towards our life. The longer I live the more convinced I become that life is 10 percent what happens to us and 90 percent how we respond to it. I believe the single most significant decision I make on a day-to-day basis is my choice of attitude.

It is more important than my past, my education, my bankroll, my successes or failures, fame or pain, what other people think of me or say about me, my circum-stances, or my position.

Attitude keeps me going or cripples my progress. It alone fuels my fire or assaults my hope. When my attitude is right, there’s no barrier too high, no valley too deep, no dream too extreme, no challenge too great for me.” —Charles Swindoll, Strengthening Your Grip


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Authenticity


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“So many of us define ourselves by what we have, what we wear, what kind of house we live in and what kind of car we drive.

If you think of yourself as the woman in the Cartier watch and the Hermes scarf, a house fire will destroy not only your possessions but yourself.” —Linda Henley

“Great impressions can be made from a distance, but reality can only be tested up close.” —Howard G.Hendricks

“Be who you is, cause if you won’t who you is, then you is who you ain’t.” —Harry HeinnoTes/

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“Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.” —Oscar Wilde

“What lies ahead of you and what lies behind you is nothing compared to what lies within you.” —M.K.Ghandi

“You have to believe in yourself. The ones who believe in themselves the most are the ones who win.” —Florence Griffth-Joyner, Winner of Three Gold Medals at the 1988 Olympics

“You cannot be anything you want to be but you can be a lot more of who you already are.” —Tom Rath


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(The) Bible


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“I supposed I knew my Bible, reading piecemeal, hit or miss, now a bit of John or Matthew, now a snatch of Genesis, certain chapters of Isaiah, certain Psalms (the twenty third), twelfth of Romans, first of Proverbs? Yes, I thought I knew the Word! But I found that thorough reading was a different thing to do, and the way was unfamiliar when I read the Bible through. You who treat the Crown of Writings as you treat no other book, just a paragraph, disjointed, just a crude, impatient look. Try a worthier procedure, try a broad and steady view; you will kneel in very rapture when you read the Bible through.” —Amos R. Wells, quoted in John R. Rice, Poems that Preach

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“Your word is a lamp for my feet, a light on my path.” —The Bible, Psalm 119:105

“For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart.” —The Bible, Hebrews 4:12

“The vigor of our spiritual life will be in exact proportion to the place held by the Bible in your life and thoughts.” —George Müller

Books


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“Some books are to be tasted, others to be swallowed, and some few to be chewed and digested: that is, some books are to be read only in parts, others to be read, but not curiously, and some few to be read wholly, and with diligence and attention.” —Sir Francis Bacon

“You don’t have to burn books to destroy a culture. Just get people to stop reading them.” —Ray Bradbury

“The failure to read good books both enfeebles the vision and strengthens our most fatal tendency-- the belief that the here and now is all there is.” —Allan Bloom

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“Literature is a luxury; fiction is a necessity.” —G. K. Chesterton

“It is what you read when you don’t have to that determines what you will be when you can’t help it.” —Oscar Wilde

“Fairy tales are more than true; not because they tell us that dragons exist, but because they tell us that dragons can be beaten.” —G. K. Chesterton

“‘Classic.’ A book which people praise and don’t read.” —Mark Twain


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“A novel is never anything but philosophy put into images.” —Albert Camus

“The man who never reads will never be read; he who never quotes will never be quoted. He who will not use thoughts of other men’s brains proves he has no brain of his own. Brethen, what is true of ministers is true of all our people. You need to read.” —Charles H. Spurgeon

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most fatal tendencyno brain of his own

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Calling


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“The call of God only becomes clear as we obey, never as we weigh the pros and cons and try to reason it out. The call is God’s idea; and only on looking back over the path of obedience do we realise what God’s idea has been all along.” —Oswald Chambers

“The secret to success is consistency of purpose.” —Benjamin Disraeli

“Moses spent 40 years thinking he was a somebody; 40 years learning he was a nobody; and 40 years, discovering what God can do with a nobody.” —D.L. Moody

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“Make your life a mission not an intermission.” —Anonymous

“A ship in harbour is safe, but that is not what ships are built for.” —Williams Shedd

“The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you found out why.” —Mark Twain

“The place where God calls you to is the place where your deep gladness and the world’s deep hunger meet.” —Frederick Buechner

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“Calling is the truth that God calls us to himself so decisively that everything we are, everything we do, and everything we have is invested with a special devotion and dynamism lived out as a response to his summons and service.” —Os Guinness

“If you do not believe that God is in control and has formed you for a purpose, you will flounder on the high seas of purposeless-ness, drowning in the currents and drifting further into nothingness.” —William Lane Craig

“Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart.” —The Bible, Jeremiah 1:5

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“Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life [...] Therein he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated. Thus, everyone’s task is as unique as is his specific opportunity to implement it.” —Viktor Frankl

““For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”” —The Bible, Jeremiah 29:11

“For we are God’s workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.” —The Bible, Ephesians 2:10

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Character


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“D.L. Moody said, “Character is what you are in the dark.” Another commented,

“True character is what we are when nobody’s looking, in the secret chambers of the heart.”” —Charles R. Swindoll

“You teach what you know; you reproduce what you are.” —Leif Hetland

“Nothing stands the test like solid character. You can handle the blast (of adversity) like a steer in a blizzard. The ice may form on your horns, but you keep standing against the wind and the howling, raging storm because Christ is at work in your spirit. Character will always win the day. As Horace Greeley wrote: “Fame is a vapour, popularity an accident, riches take wing, and only character endures.”” —Charles R. Swindoll

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“If I take care of my character, my reputation will take care of itself.” —D.L. Moody

“All children must look after their own upbringing. Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person’s character lies in their own hands.” —John Bartlett

“It is no use walking anywhere to preach unless our walking is our preaching.” —St. Francis

“Character in a saint means the disposition of Jesus Christ persistently manifested.” —Oswald Chambers


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“The primary danger of the television screen lies not so much in the behaviour it produces but the behaviour it prevents.” —Christian Medical Society Journal

“Promises must be kept, deadlines met, commitments honoured, not for the sake of morality, but because we become what we do or fail to do. Character is the sum of all that.” —Howard Sparks

“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.” —Martin Luther King, Jr.

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Communication


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“It takes two to speak the truth. One to speak and another to listen.” —Henry Thoreau

“The difference between the right word and the almost right word is the difference between lightning and the lightning bug.” —Mark Twain

“The most important thing in a communica-tion is hearing what isn’t said.” —Peter Drucker

“Blessed is the man who having nothing to say, abstains from giving wordy evidence of the fact.” —George Eiliot

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“Be amusing: never tell unkind stories; above all, never tell long ones.” —Benjamin Disraeli

“Electronic communication will never be a substitute for the face of someone who with their soul encourages another person to be brave and true.” —Charles Dickens

“The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention [...] A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect than the most well-intentioned words.” —Rachel Naomi Remen

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Dream


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“Dreams are illustration [...] from the book your soul is writing about you.” —Marsha Norman

“All men dream; but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recesses of their minds wake in the day to find that it was vanity: but the dreamer of the day are dangerous men, for they may act their dream with open eyes and make it possible.” —T. E. Lawrence

“If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. Now put foundations under them.” —Henry David ThoreaunoTes/

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“The best thing about dreams is that fleeting moment, when you are between asleep and awake, when you don’t know the difference between reality and fantasy, when for just that one moment you feel with your entire soul that the dream is reality, and it really happened.” —James Arthur Baldwin

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” —Eleanor Roosevelt

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” —H. Jackson Brown Jr.

your dreams what? why? how?

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Excellence


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“Good, better, best, never let it rest—until your good is better and your better is your best!” —Daisy Hepburn

“Excellence is a better teacher than medi-ocrity. The lessons of the ordinary are everywhere. Truly profound and original insights are to be found only in studying the exemplary.” —Warren G. Bennis

“If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as a Michaelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, “Here lived a great street sweeper who did this job well.”” —Martin Luther King Jr.

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“Excellence is to do a common thing in an uncommon way.” —Booker T. Washington

“When I miss a week in practice, my audience knows it. When I miss a day, I know it.” —Paderewski

“Leonardo Da Vinci was once at work for a long period of time on a great master-piece. He had laboured long to create this work of art and it was near completion. Standing near him was a young student who spent much of his time with his mouth open, amazed at the master with the brush. Just before finishing the painting, Da Vinci turned to the young student and gave him the brush and said, “Now, you finish it.” The student protested and backed away, but Da Vinci, said, “Will not what I have done inspire you to do the best.”” —Anonymous


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“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” —Aristotle

“The will to win, the desire to succeed, the urge to reach your full potential[...] these are the keys that will unlock the door to personal excellence.” —Confucius

“If you are going to achieve excellence in big things, you develop the habit in little matters. Excellence is not an exception, it is a prevailing attitude.” —Charles R. Swindoll

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Family


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“A family is a place where principles are hammered and hone on the anvil of every-day living.” —Charles R.Swindoll

“Two families from the state of New York were studied very carefully. One was the Max Jukes family and the other the Jona-than Edwards family. The thing that they discovered in this study is remarkable: like begets like.

Max Jukes was an unbelieving man and he married a woman of like character who lacked principle. And among the known descendants, over 1,200 were studied. Three hundred and ten became profes-sional vagrants; 440 physically wrecked their lives by debauched lifestyle; 130 were sent to the pen for an average of thirteen years each, 7 of them for murder. There were over 100 who became alcoholics; 60 became habitual thieves; 190 public prosti-tutes. Of the 20 who learned a trade, 10 of them learned the trade in a state prison. It cost the state about $1,500,000 and they made no contribution whatever to society.

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In about the same era the family of Jonathan Edwards came on the scene. He was a man of God, who married a woman of like character. The study yielded the following concerning Jonathan Edward’s descendants: three hundred became clergymen, missionaries, and theologi-cal professors; over 100 became college professors; over 100 became attorneys; 30 of them judges; 60 of them became physicians; over 60 became authors of good classics; 14 became presidents of universities. There were numerous giants in American industry that emerged from this family. Three became United State Congressmen and one became the Vice President of the United States.” —Oswald Sanders, A Spirit Clinic


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“Thirty-eight percent of all first marriages fail, 79% of those will remarry, and 44 percent of those will divorce again. As many as four out of ten children born in the 1970s will spend part of their childhood in a single-parent family, usually with the mother as head of the household. Seventeen percent of all children under 18 are now living in single-parent families.

One of the most distressing developments in the family structure is the high tide of illegitimacy. Fifteen percent of all births are illegitimate, and more than half of all out-of-wedlock babies are born to teenagers. Illegitimacy was particularly high among black women in 1976 —50.3% more illegiti-mate children. These illegitimate children, both black and white, are the most likely to be impoverished, dependent on welfare, deprived of educational opportunities, and destines to repeat the cycle with illegitimate children of their own.” —”Saving the Family,” Newsweek, May 15, 1978

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Failure


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“Failure is the condiment that gives success its flavour.” —Truman Capte

“The secret of life, though, is to fall seven times and to get up eight times.” —Paulo Coelho

“An assistant of Thomas A.Edison once tried to console the inventor over the failure to achieve in a series of experiments what he had set out to find: “It’s too bad,” he said,

“to do all that work without results”, “Oh,” said Mr. Edison, “we have lots of results. We know seven hundred things that don’t work.”” —Peter MarshallnoTes/

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“God uses enlarged trials to produce enlarged saints so He can put them in enlarged places.” —Anonymous

“‘Failing Forward’ is the ability to get back up after you’ve been knocked down, learn from your mistake, and move forward in a better direction.” —John Maxwell

“C.S. Lewis, in the Screwtape Letters, vividly describes Satan’s strategy: He gets Chris-tians to become preoccupied with their failures; from then on, the battle is won.” —Erwin Lutzer, Failure, The Back Door to Success

your sTory what? when? why?

Failure 55

“If you are going through hell, keep going.” —Winston Churchill

“Do not be emotional archaeologists that dig into the past but rather prophetic architects that design the future.” —Anonymous

“I can’t give you a surefire formula for success, but I can give you a formula for failure: try to please everybody all the time.” —Herbert Sergie

“I would rather fail in a cause that will ultimately succeed than to succeed in a cause that will ultimately fail.” —Woodrow Wilson

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preoccupied with their failuresdesign the future

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God


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“Expect great things from God; attempt great things for God.” —William Carey

“We need to find God, and He cannot be found in noise and restlessness. God is the friend of silence. See how nature —trees, flowers, grass —grows in silence; see the others, the moon and the sun, how they move in silence. We need silence to be able to touch souls.” —Mother Teresa

“Having the answers is not essential to living. What is essential is the sense of God’s pres-ence during dark seasons of questioning.” —Ravi ZachariasnoTes/

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“Not only do we not know God except through Jesus Christ; we do not even know ourselves except through Jesus Christ.” —Blaise Pascal

“Seek to be made holier every day; pray, strive, wrestle for the spirit, to make you like God. Be as much you can with God. I declare to you that I had rather be one hour with God than a thousand with the sweetest society on earth or in Heaven. All other joys are but streams; God is the fountain.” —Robert Murray McCheyne

“God is like the sun; you cannot look at it, but without it you cannot look at anything else.” —G.K. Chesterton

your god what? why? when?

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“Not only do we know God through Jesus Christ we only know ourselves through Jesus Christ.” —Blaise Pascal

“If God is dead, somebody is going to have to take his place. It will be megalomania or erotomania, the drive for power or the drive for pleasure, the clenched fist or the phallus, Hitler or Hugh Heffner.” —Malcolm Muggeridge

“I love to think of nature as an unlimited broadcasting station, through which God speaks to us every hour, if we will only tune in.” —George Washington Carver

“A man can no more diminish God’s glory by refusing to worship Him than a lunatic can put out the sun by scribbling the word, ‘darkness’ on the walls of his cell.” —C.S. Lewis

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Greatness


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“Good is the enemy of great.” —Jim Collins

“The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra.” —Jimmy Johnson

“As human beings, our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the world

—that is the myth of the atomic age —as in being able to remake ourselves.” —Mahatma Gandhi

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“Genius is the ability to reduce the compli-cated to the simple.” —C.W. Ceran

“Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.” —Eleanor Roosevelt

“Greatness is not a function of circum-stance. Greatness, it turns out, is largely a matter of conscious choice, and discipline.” —Jim Collins

your definiTion what? why? how?

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“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of the deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.” —Theodore Roosevelt

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Growth


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“As long as you’re green, you’re growing. As soon as you’re ripe, you start to rot.” —Ray Kroc

“Successful and unsuccessful people do not vary greatly in their abilities. They vary in their desires to reach their potential.” —John Maxwell

“I have no special talents. I am only passion-ately curious.” —Albert Einstein

“Experience is a good teacher, but her fees are very high.” —W.R. LagenoTes/

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“The more seriously you take your growth, the more seriously your people will take you.” —John Maxwell

“If a man empties his purse into his head, no one can take away from him. An investment in knowledge always pays the best interest.” —Benjamin Franklin

“We do not grow absolutely, chronologically. We grow sometimes in one dimension, and not in another; unevenly. We grow partially. We are relative. We are mature in one realm, childish in another. The past, present, and future mingle and pull us backward, forward, or fix us in the present. We are made up of layers, cells, constellations.” —Anais Nin


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“Confront your inadequacies and push your personal boundaries: it’s the surest way to grow, improve and expand the scope of your influence.” —John Maxwell

“Exert your talents, and distinguish yourself, and don’t think of retiring from the world, until the world will be sorry that you retire.” —Samuel Johnson

“Ever since I was a child I have had this instinctive urge for expansion and growth. To me, the function and duty of a quality human being is the sincere and honest development of one’s potential.” —Bruce Lee

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but her fees are very highknowledge always pays

passionately curious you start to rot

“Every day do something that will inch you closer to a better tomorrow.” —Doug Firebaugh

“Those people who develop the ability to continuously acquire new and better forms of knowledge that they can apply to their work and to their lives will be the movers and shakers in our society for the indefinite future.” —Brian Tracy

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Hard work


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“Luck is the dividend of sweat. The more you sweat the luckier you get.” —Ray Kroc

“Hard work is a prison cell only if the work has no meaning.” —Malcolm Gladwell

“Inspiration exists but it has to find you working.” —Pablo Picasso

“Hard work beats talent when talent doesn’t work hard.” —Tim Notke

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“There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.” —Colin Powell

“I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times.” —Bruce Lee

“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games 26 times. I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” —Michael Jordan

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Humility


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“A man is like a fraction whose numerator is what he is and whose denominator is what he thinks of himself. The larger the denominator, the smaller the fraction.” —Leo Tolstoy

“The only hope of decreasing self is an increasing Christ.” —F.B. Meyer

“I heard about the pastor who was voted the most humble pastor in America, and the congregation gave him a medal that said, “To the most humble pastor in America.” Then they took it away from him on Sunday because he wore it.” —Charles R.Swindoll

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“[Humility is:] Greatness in plain clothes.” —Spencer W.Kimball

“I remember what Corrie Ten boom shared when asked if it was difficult remaining humble while hearing so much acclaim about her testimonies of God’s grace in her Nazi concentration camp experiences. She replied immediately. “Young man, when Jesus Christ rode into Jerusalem on Palm Sunday on the back of a donkey, and everyone was waving palm branches and throwing garments in the road and singing praises, do you think that for one moment it ever entered the head of that donkey that any of that was for him?” She continued, “If I can be the donkey on which Jesus Christ rides in His glory, I give Him all the praise and all the honour.” —Corrie Ten


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“Humility is not about thinking less of your-self but thinking of yourself less.” —C.S.Lewis

“If I appear to be great in their eyes, the Lord is most graciously helping me to see how absolutely nothing I am without Him and helping me to keep little in my own eyes. He does use me. But I’m so concerned that He uses me and that it is not of me the work is done. The axe cannot boast of the trees it has cut down. It could do nothing but for the woodsman. He made it, he sharpened it, he used it. The moment he throws it aside it becomes only old iron. Oh, that I may never lose sight of this. The spiritual leader of today is in all probability one who yesterday expressed his humility by working gladly and faithfully in second place.” —Samuel Logan Brengle

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Integrity


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“The world needs men and women [...] who cannot be bought; whose word is their bond; who put character above wealth; who possess opinions and a strong will; who are larger than their vocations; who do not hesitate to take risks; who will not lose their individuality in a crowd; who will be as honest in small affairs as in greater; who make no compromise with wrong; whose ambitions are not confined to their own selfish desires; who will not say they do it “because everybody else does it;” who are true to their friends through good and bad, in adversity as well as prosperity; who do not believe that shrewdness, cunning, and hardheadedness are the best qualities for winning success; who are not ashamed or afraid to stand for the truth when it is unpopular; who can say “no” with emphasis, although all the rest of the world says “yes”. —Ted Engstrom, The Making of a Christian Leader

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character above wealthnot confined to their own

not ashamed or afraidstand for the truth

your sTory what could you improve? how?

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IntentionalLiving


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“And in the end, it’s not the years in the life that counts. It’s the life in the years.” —Abraham Lincoln

“What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others.” —Pericles

“When I stand before God at the end of my life. I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left, and could say, “I used everything you gave me.”” —Erma Bombeck

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“I have fought the good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith.” —The Bible, 2 Timothy 4:7

“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.” —Oscar Wilde

“If we would only give the same amount of reflection to what we want out of life that we give to the question of what to do with two week’s vacation, we would be startled at our false standards and the aimless procession of our days.” —Dorothy Canfield Fisher


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“Life can only be understood backwards, but it must be lived forwards.” —Soren Kierkegaard

“I wanted to live deep and suck out all the marrow of life.” —Henry David Thoreau

“You can do little about the length of your life, but you can do much about its width and depth.” —H.L. Mencken

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i used everythingkeep the faith


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Leadership


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“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” —John Quincy Adams

“Great leaders are almost always great simplifiers, who can cut through argument, debate, and doubt to offer a solution everybody can understand.” —General Colin Powell

“Leadership is the art of getting someone else to do something you want done because he wants to do it.” —Dwight D.Eisenhower

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“The first responsibility of a leader is to define realty; the last is to say thank you. In between, the leader is a servant.” —Max Depree

“My own definition of leadership is this: the capacity and the will to rally men and women to a common purpose and the character which inspires confidence.” —General Montgomery

“If I have seen farther than others, it is because I was standing on the shoulder of giants.” —Isaac Newton


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“We must be silent before we can listen. We must listen before we can learn. We must learn before we can prepare. We must prepare before we can serve. We must serve before we can lead.” —William Arthur Ward

“Management is efficiency in climbing the ladder of success; leadership determines whether the ladder is leading against the right wall.” —Stephen Covey

“The task of leadership is not to put greatness into people, but to elicit it, for the greatness is there already.” —John Buchan

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“Personal leadership is the process of keeping your vision and values before you and aligning your life to be congruent with them.” —Stephen Covey

“A leader is a dealer in hope.” —Napoleon Bonaparte

“There comes a time when one must take the position that is neither safe nor politic nor popular, but he must do it because his conscience tells him it is right [...] Ulti-mately, a genuine leader is not a searcher for consensus, but a molder of consensus. I would rather be a man of conviction than a man of conformity.” —Martin Luther King Jr. your

sTory when? what? how?

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“Leadership is lifting a person’s vision to high sights, the raising of a person’s performance to a higher standard, the building of a per-sonality beyond its normal limitations.” —Peter Drucker

“A quality which is prominent is a strongly developed sense of dominant purpose and direction of life. He is one who knows with greater than average strength of conviction what he wants to get done and where he wants to go. The world stands aside to let pass the man who knows where he is going.” —Ordway Tead, The Art of Leadership

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to serve before we leadvision to high sights

beyond its normalstrength of conviction

your sTory what could you improve? reflect upon?

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Perseverance


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“I’ve dreamed many dreams that never came true. I’ve seen them vanish at dawn. But I’ve realised enough of my dreams thank the Lord, to make me want to dream on.

I’ve prayed many prayers when no answer came, though I’ve waited patient and long. But answers have come to enough of my prayers to make me keep praying on.

I’ve trusted many a friend that failed, and left me to weep alone. But I’ve found enough of my friends that are really true, that will make me keep trusting on.

I’ve sown many seeds that have fallen by the way, for the birds to feed upon. But I’ve held enough golden sheaves in my hand, to make me keep sowing on.

I’ve drunk from the cup of disappointment and pain, I’ve gone many days with song. But I’ve sipped enough nectar from the Roses of Life to make me keep living on!” —Charles Allen, The Secret of Abundant Living

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Serving


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“The high destiny of the individual is to serve rather than to rule.” —Albert Einstein

“True heroism is remarkably sober, very undramatic. It is not the urge to surpass all others at whatever cost, but the urge to serve others at whatever cost.” —Arthur Ashe

“True heroism is remarkably sober, very undramatic. It is not the urge to surpass all others at whatever cost, but the urge to serve others at whatever cost.” —Arthur Ashe

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“Everyone can be great, because everyone can serve.” —Martin Luther King Jr.

“Life’s most persistent and urgent question is, what are you doing for others?” —Martin Luther King Jr.

“If you want happiness for an hour, take a nap. If you want happiness for a day, go fishing. If you want happiness for a month, get married. If you want happiness for year, inherit a fortune. If you want happiness for a lifetime, serve others.” —Chinese Proverb


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“Bruce Thielemann, pastor of First Presbyte-rian Church in Pittsburgh, told of a conver-sation with a member of his flock who said,

“You preachers talk a lot about ‘do unto others,’ but when you get right down to it, it comes down to basin theology.”

Thielemann asked, “Basin theology? What’s that?”

The layman said, “Remember what Pilate did when he had the chance to acquit Jesus? He called for a basin and washed his hands of the whole thing. But Jesus, the night before His death, called for a basin and proceeded to wash the feet of the disciples. It all comes down to basin theology: Which one will you use?”” —Craig Larson

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at whatever costserve others


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Success


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“Success is final, failure is not fatal; it is the courage to continue that counts.” —Winston Churchill

“God may allow His servant to succeed when He has disciplined him to a point where he does not need to succeed to be happy. The man who is elated by success and is cast down by failure is still a carnal man. At best his fruit will have a worm in it.” —A.W. Tozer

“I can give you a six-word formula for suc-cess: Think things through —then follow through.” —EV Rickenbacker, Top of Form

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“The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with people.” —Teddy Roosevelt

“Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and your plans will succeed.” —The Bible, Proverbs 16:3

“I learned this, at least, by my experiment: that if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavours to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.” —Henry David Thoreau, Walden: Or, Life in the Woods


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“Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” —Winston Churchill

“To laugh often and much to win the respect of intelligent people and affec-tion of children; to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child a garden patch or redeemed social condi-tion; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson

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get along with peoplefollow through


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Time Management


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“The bad news is time flies. The good news is you’re the pilot.” —Michael Altshuler

“It’s not enough to be busy, so are the ants. The question is, what are we busy about?” —Henry David Thoreau

“Yesterday is a cashed check; tomorrow is a promissory note. Today is cash in hand so use it —invest it.” —John Haggai, How to Win over Worry

“You cannot kill time without injuring eternity.” —Henry David Thoreau

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“I read of an old Norwegian who had kept very careful notes of his life in a series he kept on the shelf of his busi-ness. On his eightieth birthday he went to the store and pulled the books form the shelf and began to compute his life. He was surprised to find that he had spent five of his eighty years waiting for people. He had spent six months tying neckties, three months scolding children eight days telling dogs to lie down and be quiet.

I don’t know if the old fellow was a Christian or not, but if he had been, in his eighty years, he would probably have spent about six thousand hours (one hundred hours a year, based on forty-minute sermons) attending Sunday morning and evening church services and some midweek services and some Bible conferences.” —Anonymous


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“Time is significant because it is so rare. It is completely irretrievable. You can never repeat it or relive it. There is no such thing as a literal instant replay. That appears only on film. It travels alongside us every day, yet it has eternity wrapped up in it. Although this is true, time often seems relative, doesn’t it?

For example two weeks on a vacation is not at all like two weeks on a diet. Also, some people can stay longer in an hour than others can in a week! Ben Franklin said of time, “...that is the stuff life is made of.” Time forms life’s building blocks. The philosopher William James once said, “The great use of life is to spend it for something that will outlast it.”” —Lloyd CarynoTes/

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“Vision is essential for survival. It is spawned by faith, sustained by hope, sparked by imagination, and strength-ened by enthusiasm. It is greater than sight, deeper than a dream, broader than an idea. Vision encompasses vast vistas outside the realm of the predicable, the safe, the expected. No wonder we perish without it.” —Charles R.Swindoll, Make Your Dream Come True

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your passion what is your vision? why? what can you do today?

Wisdom


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“Wisdom is more precious than rubies. Noth-ing else you could ever want is as valuable.” —The Bible, Proverbs 8:1

“Wisdom is the God-given ability to see life with rare objectivity and to handle life with rare stability.” —Charles R.Swindoll

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“Getting wisdom is the most important thing you can do.” —The Bible, Proverbs 4:7

“May not the inadequacy of much our spiritual experience be traced back to our habit of skipping through the corridors of the Kingdom like children through the mar-ketplace, chattering about everything but pausing to learn the true value of nothing?” —A.W. Tozer


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Wisdom

When I have ceased to break my wingsagainst the faultless of things,and learned that compromises waitbehind each hardly opened gates,when I can look life in the eyes,grown calm and very coldly wise,life will have given me the Truth,and taken in exchange --my youth. —Sarah Teasdale

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more precious than rubiesto handle life with rare stability

the true value of nothingget wisdom

your Wisdom where do you need wisdom in right now?

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“This collection of quotes will make you think, reflect, inspire, and motivate you to do something positive with your life. This book is the pit stop for inspiration and wisdom to guide you to live a more purposeful and intentional life.” —Celina Lee, Author of Live Your Dream

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About Paul Sohn

Paul Sohn is an organizational development consultant, intentional leader, and Kingdom-minded world changer. He currently serves at The BoeingCompany in the Lean function, providing expertise in process improvement, change management, and employee engagement. He also serves as an organizational consultant and Board Director at thePortland Leadership Foundation and Men’s Empowerment Network.

Paul is an active writer and blogger at Salt+Light (www.paulsohn.org) who writes on the topics of intentional living, personal growth, leadership, and the Christian life. He is writing his forthcoming book on How to live intentionally as a twenty-something. Paul obtained his Bachelor of Commerce degree at University of British Columbia.

Born in South Korea, Paul was raised in Korea, Canada, and the United States. Paul’s vision is to turn the world upside down by equipping, connecting, and transforming millions of Christian leaders and organizations into kingdom-minded influencers of this world.

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This book was typeset using Neutra Text and Baskerville..

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Baskerville is a transitional serif typeface designed in 1757 by John Baskerville in Birmingham, England. This book was designed by Esther Chung.April, 2014.

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