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A Life Free of Compromises

Written by Sen on May 19th, 2012

The difference between someone who leads a reactive life and someone who is conscious of his/her

ability to attract reality (their potential for creation) is that the former lives in compromises while the

latter always stands true to his/her hearts choice. I am using heart as a metaphor here, by hearts choice

I mean the choice/desire that truly resonates with your inner being. To stand true to your hearts choice is

not an idealistic way of living, its a very scientific, and reality based, way of living. Whether you know

it or not, the universe is purely responding to your inner choices, it scientifically cant do otherwise

because your choices define what you believe, and you can only see what you believe so when you

make a choice to live a life of compromises, thats exactly the life you will see in your reality and when

you make a choice to live a life free of compromises thats exactly the way your reality will shape out, its

very precise and there is no getting around your responsibility of making this choice.

Standing true to your hearts choice is an attitude, it can either be developed through an understanding of

the science of life (as it happened in my case) or it can happen unconsciously due to an upbringing that

encouraged healthy self-love. The bottom-line is that when you make a commitment to stand true to your

hearts desire/choice, the universe unequivocally responds to this signal from you and yields, in essence,

whatever your hearts desired reality is. Very few people actually make this commitment because its far

easier to just give in to the outside pressure, to just mold yourself to fit in with your familys/societys

expectation of you, to numb your inner voice in the name of practicality. The truth is that you only need

to make/show this commitment initially (just enough to make your stand clear to the universe), after that

your life will start shaping around this choice and then you dont have to keep making this choice, it just

becomes your natural state living in alignment or living out of alignment are both are a matter of choice.

Seeing through the belief system of compromised living

The initial commitment is usually the toughest. You may be in a reality thats highly incongruent with

your hearts desire, and the pressure of survival causes you to hold on to this reality and keep making

compromises. Your mind will tell you that your compromises are essential for your survival and convince

you that compromises is what life is about simply because thats the model of life you see the majority

of people around you living. The cost of living in compromises is that at best you end up with a mediocre

life which lacks any form of real love or passion. We also buy into the mindset of compromises from

early childhood under the influence of several adages handed over to us, such as

- A bird in hand is better than two in the bushes

- Its not about getting what you love, its about loving what you get

- The grass always seems greener on the other side (so basically compromise with what you have going)

There are many other adages along these lines, that seem innocuous on the face value but have the

capacity to create severely limiting belief systems in the mind a belief in a compromised life. We are

also often told Nothing in life is perfect, so learn to compromise. The truth is that what your heart

desires is perfect for you, and if your choice is to always stand true to your hearts desire/choice/instinct

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you will always move towards a life thats perfect/congruent for you so there is such a thing called

perfection in life, its just that very few have the courage to follow their heart and would rather take

refuge in an attitude of compromise. There is no such thing as a standard of perfection in this universe,

but there is such a thing as what is perfect for you and you can always live the life thats perfect for you,

if you make a choice to do so. Bring some awareness to your mind and you can see how you may be

unconsciously buying its arguments/beliefs/ideologies towards living a compromised life and believing it

to be true you never question these beliefs because you think thats the normal way to live, simply

because most people around you are doing that.

An inner commitment towards a compromise free life

The first step towards making a choice towards a compromise free life is to see through you minds

arguments towards compromise. You have to be clear within yourself that you dont want a life of

compromises, that you want to stand true to your heart from here on this choice is not a feeble one,

its a highly significant and life changing one, and it will create ripples in your present reality, it will

create cracks and changes in its fiber towards the creation of a new reality. Its true that your physical

reality cannot change immediately and for a while you may have to live in your old reality (created

through a compromising mindset), what important is to stay true to inner choice of desiring a compromisefree life this inner choice is what makes the difference towards shifting your reality.

When you make this inner choice clear, with time (may be in a few days or a week or so), you will see

some evidence/opportunity/event that happens that calls forth for you to take a physical action towards

this choice a lot of people back off when this challenge arise because now you have to make your

choice evident to the outside. For example, you may have a project at your job that your heart is not into,

it comes to your desk and the management is asking you to do it, this is the challenge which can open

the door for you towards a new reality depending on how you react to it if you stand by your choice of

staying true to your hearts desire, you will say no to the project (you will not compromise) and the

consequences will be in the direction of this choice, possibly you may get fired, and you retain your innerchoice (you dont panic by believing your minds projections of doom). Getting fired may seem like a

negative to the mind, but this was the crack needed to move you into your desired reality, and your

staying true to your commitment of following your hearts desire/instinct allowed you to move through

this crack and hence you step into the welcome mat of your desired reality (you may not see it yet, but

youve taken a significant step towards it and set the energy into motion towards the unfolding of your

desired reality).

As you can see, its not easy to make the initial commitment when its required in action, mostly

because the action is like a solid step, its basically like burning the bridges behind you it either requires

a blind trust in life or an understanding-based trust in life, it doesnt matter as long as you have this trust.A lot of people fail to make their commitment clear, when the universe presently them with an

opportunity to do so, through their action. Opportunities will keep coming but you may back off every

time because you dont yet have the courage to trust life, to trust that your hearts desire is important to

your life-stream and it has the intelligence to make it manifest. Your mind cannot trust your life-streams

intelligence because it does not get an immediate assurance about the future, but if you can understand

that your life-streams intelligence is far superior to your minds limited/conditioned intelligence you will

learn to respect it more than trusting your minds fear-based arguments.

Some people live through blind faith, some people need to acquire a faith in life I dont have a blind

faith in life, I developed this faith/trust through a scientific understanding of how creation works in life; infact I would not even say that I sit in trust, or faith, towards life, I actually stay in a knowing of my

life-streams intelligence, a knowing developed through a scientific observation of life, it started with a

quest to understand reality of life as it is without wanting to believe anything on blind faith, but thats


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just me.

A compromise free life is not difficult

On the contrary, once you settle into a reality of a compromise free life you realize the sense of

effortless existence, where things seem to keep falling in place without requiring any struggle from you.

Its only the initial choice/commitment which feels difficult and challenging because it requires you to

make your stand clear to the outside (and thus to the universe), and that requires some courage. A lot ofpeople want to live a compromise free life, but when life provides them with an opportunity to make their

choice evident to the outside, they always back off because they dont trust life enough to make the choice

they fear that they would get abandoned and be alone if they did not continue with their compromising

attitude.

None of this is a pep talk, this is actually the life I live, or rather the life that I choose to live. Its

definitely not the way I lived in the past, back when I was just moving in an unconscious daze of reactive

living. It was not easy to make this choice initially, there were a lot of fears in the mind, and the first step

for me was to reduce the mind momentumand release the past accumulation of negativityin the body, but

even this was a choice it required me to make a choice towards letting go of holding on to the mindsfears internally. There were several times when I had to stand true to my inner choice, to follow my heart,

against what seemed like an intense outside pressure to comply I kept making this choice by not giving

in to the fears of the mind, I would be kidding myself if I say it was easy, it wasnt, sometimes it was

starkly scary to do so, its something you are alone with. What helped was that I had acquired a

scientific knowing of how creation works in life, and this understanding allowed me to stand true to my

choice of following my hearts desire/instinct. With time, reality started shaping into complying with my

choice and now its just a forward momentum towards a compromise free life. Now, this choice feels

natural to me and there is hardly any outside pressure that I feel, its like Ive settled into a different

reality, a reality free of compromises, and this reality is gaining momentum, feels like a new life.

I would possibly be writing about my personal experiences, with this journey towards a compromise free

life, in a greater detail, in some future posts, with examples from my life, if anything so that it can serve

as an evidence of the practicality, and reality, of this way of living. Frankly, Ive barely been on this

journey for a year and Ive seen huge positive changes in my reality, they feel highly significant to me,

most of them are very personal in fact, I can hardly identify with the person I was when I was living life

in an unconscious manner, neither can I identify with the reality I was living back then. The reality I live

now is starkly opposite to the reality I was living when I had the mindset of living with compromises, and

the momentum of this new reality has just begun for me, it will grow to significant proportions in the

coming years.

I can assure you, once you go beyond the initial stage of making the choice, towards a compromise free

life, and staying committed to this choice, in your actions, whenever called for, you will soon settle into

the momentum of the new reality, after that your reality starts building on itself making the choice

internally, and staying true to it initially, is the significant step. I made this choice after gaining a scientific

understanding of life and a lot of introspection, it was not a choice made in blind faith, though there are

many who do make this choice on blind faith and their lives are always a living testimony of how

effortless, abundant and creative a human life can be. Whether you make this choice on blind faith, or

after gaining a scientific understanding of life, or a mixture of both, it doesnt matter as long as you make

the choice.

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18 comments

Rosssays:May 19, 2012 at 2:09 pm

Amazing, just amazing ! I am coming to grips with putting trust in life, but i to feel i need to gain a

more scientfic understanding before i can do so fully. Sen, do you have any tips to gain more of this

scientific understanding?

Thank you so much !

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Sensays:May 21, 2012 at 3:38 pm

Ross, several posts on this blog are related to providing a scientific, as well as perceptive,

understanding of the movement of life-energy, especially under sections like the mystery of

life and effortless creation

Joysays:

May 19, 2012 at 3:40 pm

Thank you Sen for sharing this at this moment. I was in similar thoughts today. It took me a while

to get close to desires, I needed to come very close to my natural settings and value them deeply inorder to be clear and true. Just today I felt as I finally have taste of destination to go, and that makes

travel much easier. It means as I have one road to go, not standing on crossroads all the time in

questioning.

I am one that never dreamed about my own future, my present was filled with imagination as it was

part of my work, and I was also poisoned with past. It does feel as relief, and it is clear how

compromises would just be work against and not with and aligned. This also makes desire deeply

rooted and not as some flying possibility or thought. Great post as usual

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Stellasays:May 19, 2012 at 4:17 pm

Not all about me this time ( a first)


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Sen, I am sure you must have been asked this before- apologies if you have.

If the truth of the universe ( the law) is as described in today`s article- why is it a law which

seemingly does not always hold true?

We have 925 million people on this planet who are starving ( I looked up world poverty and hunger

statistics) 1 in every 7 people!

It would take far longer than this space allows to debate the reasons why this is so but I suppose

my question is- it seems impossible for millions of people to ever be able to get themselves out of

the situation into which they have been born-( ie without even the basic necessities of life) no

matter how much they dream and hope and believe they never get a chance to enjoy the physical

life- so is the law inconsistent- in your opinion ?

Thanks Sen- I am genuinely interested in what you have to say- and am not trying to be

confrontational .

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Sensays:

May 19, 2012 at 5:57 pm

Stella, a good majority of the human population is living in poverty at present and thats

the reality that has been created by humans for themselves on Earth we as humans are

life-energy and hence creators, and we have a free will to create our reality, and basically

this is the reality we have managed create at present, collectively speaking. It did not start

this way, its mostly the imbalanced state instigated from a place of fear-based/hate-based

living, through not being conscious of oneness of life, a lack of inner connection, a lack of

the understanding of how creation works, and thus living in a mindset of

separation/discrimination/lack/fear, leading to exploitation and suppression in the name of

power and survival humans have created this reality for themselves, through their own

unconscious choices and that has been the history of humanity till now, actually its all part of

evolution of human consciousness. In the post A Non-physical Perspective Ive

mentioned why consciousness intends to go into an imbalance to have a conscious realization

of what balance/wholeness (its natural state) is by consciously returning back to balance. So

this imbalance was quite natural as part of evolution of human consciousness, and the way I

see it, its moving towards a balance now with more and more humans becoming conscious

I call this the age of awakening, and you can see that there is a huge difference in the

consciousness levels of humans, the very fact that a blog like this even has an audience is an

evidence of that.

The law of creation is simple you create what you focus on, you attract your dominant

vibration, like attracts like, a focus on negativity attracts negativity, a focus on fear attracts

fear, a focus on lack attracts lack, a focus on abundance attracts abundance this is true for

an individuals reality and this is true for a collective reality. And you can look at any human

life and see this law working precisely. If you see lack in a human life, you will see that a

person/community is focused on lack and are thus creating lack for themselves of course,

you can say that they were born into lack and had no choice, but the law is working

precisely, its not a sympathetic law its just a law of creation, like law of gravity, its

neutral. Its not a law of generosity its a law of attraction. When the collective humanity

becomes conscious enough to bring a balance to itself, you will see it reflecting in the

external reality where poverty starts declining, the external imbalance in the collective reality

is just a manifestation of the inner imbalance in collective humans. I can suggest that humans

are totally responsible for the reality they have created for themselves, but when one is


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unconscious there is hardly a choice its all a part of evolution of human consciousness

from unconscious imbalance towards a conscious balance.

If 70% of human population is in poverty, its created through a collective mindset of

lack/fear/separation/negativity and basically the only way you can even make a difference is

if you as an individual can step out of this mindset for me the strongest pointer is be the

change you want to see around you. Crying about suffering is not going to end suffering, the

pioneers who bring a change in human consciousness are not the ones who sat complainingabout the suffering but the ones who find their own inner balance and thus create expressions

that came from this place of balance thus bringing balance to the outside. You may want to

ask yourself, if the motivation of you searching for poverty statistics is to find evidence to

feel miserable, and support your feeling of misery or if its an conscious movement

towards wanting to see the reality of human consciousness at present and see how the

mindset of negativity has created this world for us, thus make a commitment within to be free

of negativity to bring about a positive change in your own life and thus into the collective.

The law is precise imbalance attracts imbalance, balance attracts balance.

Jimsays:May 21, 2012 at 6:48 am

Stella, I too share your curiosity re: the law of creation. Im sure these starving people are

focusing on food.

I also have my own question re: the law what about hypochondriacs Sen? I know several

who have focused obsessively on having cancer their whole lives and are still living as

healthy as ever well into their 80s cancer free. Can you clear up this confusion thanks.

Sensays:

May 21, 2012 at 8:08 am

Jim, basically there are just two types of focuses possible 1. Negative 2. Positive. Negative

focus is along the lines of lack, fear, hatred, imbalance. Positive focus is along the lines of

abundance, joy, love, wholeness. What you focus on creates your experience of life. Is it not

obvious that when you focus on fear your experience of life is fearful your personal

experience is what your reality is. You will also notice that people who focus on fear seem

to constantly attract situations/people/data around them that keeps amplifying their fears thus

keeps increasing their fearful experience of reality, this is part of attraction, fear attracts

fear. It takes awareness to break out of a loop of negativity else we unconsciously keep

fueling it in a cyclic manner.

Your question is starving/poverty-stricken people are focused on food or money so

why dont they attract an abundance of food and money? The simple reason is that they are

focused on the lack of food or lack of money the focus is negative and hence the reality

it attracts is negative. The bottom line is the focus on lack attracts lack as a personal

experience even a millionaire can have a personal experience of lack of money, when his

outlook is based on lack, I am sure you realize that there are many millionaires who are

depressed about not having enough money just as much as financially poor people are. As I

mentioned above, there are just two focuses on each subject negative or positive. Food is a

subject, you can focus on it negatively or positively. Money is a subject, you can focus on itnegatively or positively. Your focus attracts your experience of that particular subject. I am

not suggesting that the people who are focusing negatively on a subject are doing so because

of a fault of theirs, the only reason we end up focusing negatively on a subject is because


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we get conditioned to do so, or we are unconscious of the impact of our thinking on our

reality someone who is unconsciously focused on negative cannot be blamed for their

focus. But just because they are unconscious of their focus doesnt mean that their focus will

not attract a reality, its not a law of sympathy but a law of attraction that creation is based on

in this universe its just pure physics of energy.

There are many examples of people who are severely depressed, or highly fearful, but who

dont attract physical disorders they attract negativity in other forms in their life, but theirhealth remains unaffected. The reason for this is that their cellular intelligence (or the

intelligence of the living cells in their body) is of higher which overrides the negative

influence of the brains thoughts, whats also called a body with higher immunity or higher

tolerance. Different bodies react differently to resistance/stress created by negativity your

bodies genetic makeup determines the diseases that it can contract or the disease that it has a

higher tolerance to. So a body that has a genetic makeup that has a high tolerance to cancer

will not contract cancer until the resistance is so severe that it breaks through this tolerance.

In a body with better immunity (due to genetics) the intelligence of the cells overrides the

negativity of the brains thought, however there is a tolerance limit after which the cells can

start breaking down in immunity. The hypochondriacs you mentioned may have a goodimmunity in their body, but their obsession with cancer would have attracted scenarios of

cancer all around them in some way or the other, they would keep seeing cancer situations in

their surroundings, in their circle of interaction this is how an obsession attracts the subject

of obsession into their reality, its just that their body had an immunity (cellular intelligence)

high enough to have a higher tolerance to cancer, when the immunity breakdowns their

minds fear can take hold on the cellular memory. The impact of negativity in the mind is that

it attracts a negative experience of life, the forms in which it attracts negativity will vary

depending of various factors like physical makeup.

abetsays:May 19, 2012 at 4:51 pm

so amazing,

I was just wondering over this in my mind , it feels like you are speaking to me personally..

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rossanasays:

May 19, 2012 at 4:53 pm

sen but i have a question about this, what if the compromise is helping you beat urges likequitting cigarette, etc.. wont the addiction last forever if we dont excursive some will power/

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Sensays:

May 21, 2012 at 3:33 pm

Rossana, the reason one is naturally motivated to quit a habit/urges that feels harmful

within is owing to drive that follows when one is no longer willing to compromise on ones

health/well-being. A lot of people fail to quit their addiction when they try to use force, or

they have a highly uncomfortable experience whereas when one spends time coming to aspace of inner wholeness there is a natural movement away from any habit thats not

conducive to well-being, or any habit rooted in imbalance, the quitting happens without any

real force/struggle.


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Stellasays:

May 19, 2012 at 7:48 pm

Thank-you for such a detailed response.

You are kind and very patient .

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Stellasays:May 19, 2012 at 9:27 pm

P.S it is a lot to grasp- I suppose these questions on the meaning of life have perplexed many

people down the ages.

Oh no ! I was not intentionally being negative- I just thought if this is possible for me to live in

alignment- (and I am most encouraged you said I was at stage 3)- then what about the rest of the

world ?

Its a kind of childish hope for , if not utopia- then at least a world where people have food and

drink- when there is plenty to go around- that`s what I was trying to fathom out- with reference to

the article.

I think you speak the truth when you say my concern should be to live an aligned life myself.

I can`t pretend I totally understand all this article, but I absolutely appreciate your sincerity in

explaining to me. One day- when I am a little better than I am at the moment, I`m sure I will

understand , and not feel so despondent.

Thanks so much Sen- I do appreciate.

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Samirsays:

May 20, 2012 at 3:56 pm

Great post Sen.

I think it may be useful to add that once the momentum of awakening from the hazy, fear-based

state has been set forth, its basically not really a choice anymore to live without compromises.

Returning to your example, if you know that you are not interested in a task given to you by your

boss, and you take it on, you may end up doing a terrible job at it because your heart is not in it.

Eventually, youll end up doing it often enough that youll either get fired or leave yourself out of

boredom.

So basically, one only has to choose to be free of compromises, the rest kind of falls into place evendespite the mind trying to hang on. The power of life is such that as soon as it has any advantage

vis-a-vis the grip of fear, it is unstoppable.

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Sensays:

May 21, 2012 at 3:28 pm

Samir, Thats true, once we become aligned with the pull of our life-stream living without

compromises becomes the natural state of being.

Ehsan M.says:

May 22, 2012 at 7:58 am

Dear Sen,


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It feels very pleasant to read your posts again. I havent visited this space for several days.

My question is; how does the Heart communicate? How can you tell the difference between your

minds and hearts communication?

Namaste

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Sensays:

May 24, 2012 at 7:59 pm

Ehsan, you can read this post Moving towards a heart-centric life

Ehsan M.says:

May 25, 2012 at 6:51 am

Thank you

Martinsays:August 5, 2012 at 7:36 am

thank you for sharing this. thank you.

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