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90-Day Relationship Attraction

Conditioning Program

By Glor ia MacDonald

Perfect Partners Relationship Search Inc. 2007


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Welcome to the 90-Day Relationship AttractionConditioning Program

Weve created this program to support you in creating new thought patterns tohelp you attract your ideal mate. In order for any of us to reprogram ourthinking, its been shown that we need to create new habits. Old habits arentchanged overnight. Research shows that having a daily routine for a periodof at least 90 days is the most effective way to really create new patterns inour thinking.

The more consistent you can be with the program the more successful youll

be. Its that simple. We highly recommend you take just 10 minutes or lesseach day for a full 90 days for the simple exercises in this workbook. If youmiss a day, just pick up the program again with the next possible day youcan. Work through the program until youve completed all 90 days, even if ittakes you a few extra days. Dont give up if you find that youve missedseveral days, or even a week because youve been away, or had anincredibly busy period. Just pick up where you left off. Youll find that youbegin to think differently about things, and youll be more alert to your thinkingwhen you give yourself the time to do the daily reconditioning program.

Find a time each day that will work for you. We recommend first thing in the

morning, but if you find its easier for you to make a commitment to yourself totake 10 minutes just before you go to bed thats fine too. Just do it! We knowyoull see wonderful results when you do!

Enjoy the process, ask for what you want, believe in the law of attraction, trustin this law, and be completelyopen to receiving what you desire. Therereally are 3 simple steps:

Step 1. Ask

Step 2. Believe

Step 3. Receive

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Relationship Attraction Conditioning Program Instructions

Start off by writing the date at the top of the page in your workbook. Then

go through the Relationship Attraction Conditioning Process for that day.At first some of the statements you make may seem like just words to youwithout any real meaning or feeling. Continue with the process. Do notskip any steps. You will soon be creating a new reality for yourself insome areas and strengthening an already existing support system in otherareas. Remember that what you focus on expands, so make this apositive process throughout.

The following pages give you the Declarations and Success Attitudes youwill need to refer to on a daily basis.

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Daily Relationship Attraction Declarations

Place your hand on your heart and say the declarations out loud. Think

about each declaration as you say it and begin to really feel it as a realityfor you.

I attract the relationships in my life. I attract the exactrelationships I desire.

I attract love into my life.

I am loving, lovable and loved.

I am truly grateful for all of the love I have in my life now.

I am a loving giver and a worthy and open receiver.

I honor anyone Im in a relationship with.

I value relationships and sharing. Relationships make lifemore rewarding and fulfilling.

I deserve a wonderful, loving relationship because I am aunique and precious wonder of the universe!

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7 Attitudes of Highly Successful Daters

Att itude #1 Belief in the Possibili ty

Henry Ford said If you believe you can or you cant, youre right. Datingis no different. If you believe you will, or will not find a partner, youreright. The highly successful dater has a positive attitude about his or herability to find and have a wonderful, loving relationship. We attract whatwe focus on and what we think about expands in our experience. So ifyou catch yourself saying or thinking any of the following STOP. Reversethe thought.

There are no good men/women left.I really dont think this will ever work.Im no good at dating.I seem to always attract losers.My ex was such a jerk.Ill probably spend the rest of my life alone.I dont want to spend the rest of my life alone.

Att itude #2 - Open mindedness

We all have things we think were looking for in a mate. You may haveeven written up a list of characteristics, personality traits, and sharedinterests you feel are very important. One of the challenges is that findinga partner is not as simple as walking up and down the aisles of a grocerystore. Another challenge is that the list you come up with is what is goingon in your conscious mind. Its been shown through various researchstudies that what we are actually attracted to often is not the same as thislist that our conscious mind comes up with because attraction comes frompatterns formed in the subconscious, or unconscious, mind.

The most successful daters are those who are willing to remain open tomeeting a variety of people, even if those people dont necessarily meetall the criteria they thinktheyre looking for.

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Att itude #3 Suspending Judgment/The 3-Date Rule

As human beings we cant help but make instant assessments of peoplewe meet. Its something our subconscious minds just do automatically.

We cant turn that instant first impression instinct off. What we can dohowever, is consciously decide that were going to withhold judgment ofthe person were meeting until after we get to know them a little better. Allof us have had situations in life where our first impression of a personwasnt necessarily accurate, not just in a dating situation. Dont limityourself by cutting off your options because your first impression ofsomeone didnt sweep you off your feet. We highly, highlyrecommendyou live by the 3-Date Rule. Tell yourself youre going to suspend

judgment on the person until youve been out with them at least threetimes. Youll be amazed at how far off base some of your first impressionsmay be.

Att itude #4 Honoring

A commitment to honoring our fellow human beings is a key factor to thehighly successful dater. The truly successful dater has a code of honor fordating. Just like the military, or any truly successful team of people, acode of honor is critical to success. A code of honor puts mission first,team second, and the individual third. If your mission is to find a mate,your actions may need to follow a do whatever it takes mentality to getthe job done. This means honoring your mission enough to step out ofyour comfort zone, doing something new and different to meet that specialperson. The successful dater always puts team above individual, orthemselves. This means honoring the other person, the person youreabout to meet or just met. You have a code of honor that you holdyourself to which enables you to honor the other person in the way youwould want to be honored. This includes refusing to be critical,

judgmental, or nasty. Even if youve just had what you think was the worstblind date of your life, you honor and appreciate the good in your teammember. Youre willing to see that we are each a wonder of unchartedterritory in the universe. We will never fully know the depths and beauty ofanother person, in fact, we will never truly know ourselves completely.Lastly, you honor yourself. You dont rehash every second of theconversation and berate yourself for everything you said or did. Yourefuse to think of yourself as inadequate or undeserving. You holdyourself as a wonder of uncharted territory in the universe, and do notallow yourself to take rejection personally.

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Att itude #5 Enjoyment and Celebration!

The highly successful dater doesnt take dating on as a huge serious,grueling, arduous job. Instead, they have an attitude of enjoyment.They

are every bit as serious about wanting to find a life partner, but they makea conscious decision to enjoy the process of meeting new people. Theyare able to celebrate all of their dating successes. No matter how smallthe success is, even if its just that for a woman they got a phone call froma man (but didnt meet him), or for a man, saw an attractive woman whosmiled at them . They are even able to celebrate rejection, and perhapslaugh at their dating failures. After all, every time you meet someonewho isnt the right match for you youre one step closer to finding the rightone! These successful daters are always able to find something to enjoyand celebrate in the situation. Maybe it wasnt the most stimulatingconversation theyve ever had, but the food was excellent. This isnt an

issue of Pollyanna optimism, but its a matter of conditioning the brain forsuccess. Professional athletes spend hours and hours on psychologicalcoaching. They work at programming the brain for success. The smartdater does the same thing to condition themselves for success.

Att itude #6 Patience

The highly successful dater is able to remain patient with the process, andunderstands that sometimes it really is a process. Once youve made thecommitment to finding a mate sometimes everything falls into placequickly and you soon meet Mr. or Ms. Right. Other times there still mightbe some learning and growing that will help you along the way. Thesuccessful dater doesnt throw their hands in the air after theyve met twoor three people and say this will just never work for me. The highlysuccessful dater takes each experience as an opportunity for learning andremains open to ways in which they might continue to develop. They arewilling to listen and take feedback in the spirit of constructive input. Theyare willing to think about what part they are playing in the level of successtheyre having as a dater, and make changes where appropriate.

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Att itude #7 Acceptance

The ability to accept love whenever and however its given is a criticalfactor for the highly successful dater. The highly successful dater sees

themselves as loving, lovable and loved. They know that in order to beable to give love they have to be able to accept love. Love is a full-on giveand take sport. This means they are able to accept love in all forms, fromall sources. They can accept a compliment from someone they dontknow without down-playing it. They can accept an invitation for a date asrecognition and acknowledgment of their own positive qualities, even ifthey cant, or dont want to accept the invitation. They can accept thegenerosity of a total stranger on a blind date buying them a cup ofcoffee, no matter how inexpensive, as a sign of the other person honoringthem as a valuable human being. They can accept with grace thatsomeone is attracted to them, even if they dont feel the same attraction.

With this acceptance they can experience similar grace when the tablesare turned and they are attracted to someone, but the attraction isntmutual. This highly successful dater actually experiences that all mankindis loving, lovable, and loved.

The dater who fully embraces these7 Attitudes of Highly SuccessfulDaters cant help but have a life full of rich, loving and rewardingrelationships, including a wonderful relationship with that incrediblyspecial partner.

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The Relationship Attraction Conditioning Program

Day 1

Date: ___________________

1. Attraction Declarations (Say these out loud with your hand on your heart. Feel them. Believethem to be true for you.)

2. Clear Intention for Relationship Attraction:Write out a simple clear intention for something you want to attract into your life. Include atimeline for when you want to have this in your life. (EXAMPLE: I am dating a wonderful man

by _______.) Repeat this intention out loud at least 3 times.

3. Describe how you will feel when what you want to attract into your life is a reality.

4. Success Attitude #1 Belief in the PossibilityRead Success Attitude #1 on page 4. Write down why you believe having what you want in yourlife is a possibility for you.


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Day 2

Date: ___________________


2. Importance of a Relationship:Write a list of 5-10 specific reasons why having a relationship is important to you.

3. Choose one of the reasons above and expand on it. Describe how it makes you feel.

4. Success Attitude #2 Open-mindednessRead Success Attitude #2 on page 4. Write down 3-5 ways in which you can remain open-minded in your dating/relationship experience.


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Day 3

Date: ___________________


2. Visualization:Take a few minutes and write out a visualization. Visualize yourself being in the relationship

you desire. What do you see? What do you hear? How do you feel? What do you smell? What

can you touch? After youve written this out close your eyes and walk yourself through it.

3. Success Attitude #3 Suspending Judgment/The 3-Date RuleRead Success Attitude #3 on page 5. Write down 3-5 reasons why you believe this is importantto your dating/relationship success.


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Day 4

Date: ___________________


2. Fill in the following statements in the 1st, 2nd, and 3rdperson. Write out the same thing you wishto attract for each statement. Then repeat each one out loud at least 3 times.

I, ____________, attract ___________________________________________(your name) (Whatever you want to attract, ie: healthy, happy relationships.)

You, ___________, attract _________________________________________

___________ attracts _____________________________________________

3. Valuing Yourself in a Relationship:Describe how you bring value to a relationship. What do you have to offer? How do you make

your partner feel?

4. Success Attitude #4 HonoringRead Success Attitude #4 on page 5. Write down at least 5 ways in which you can, and will,honor others in your dating/relationship experiences.


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Day 5

Date: ___________________


2. Make a list of at least 10 qualities, characteristics, or traits youre looking for in a partner.These must be expressed in the form ofpositive statements.

3. Ability to Attract and Deserving to Attract:Make a list of at least 5 reasons why you are able to attract, and deserve to attract, the type of

relationship into your life you want.

4. Success Attitude #5 Enjoyment and Celebration!Read Success Attitude #5 on page 6. Write down at least 5 things you have to celebrate in your

dating/relationship experience.


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Day 6

Date: ___________________


2. Comfort Zone: Think about something that you can, and maybe need to do, to move you out ofyour comfort zone in your process of finding an idea mate. It may be something as simple as

practicing how to flirt by making eye contact and smiling at a stranger. It may be calling or

emailing someone who you met and would like to see again. It may be joining a dating service,

or online service.

Write down the action you are going to take today to move you forward, despite the fact that this

will mean acting outside of your comfort zone and probably breaking through some fear.

3. When youve completed the action, write down how you feel now that youve done it. How hasthis made you grow? What fear have you broken through?

4. Success Attitude #6 PatienceRead Success Attitude #6 on page 6. Write down at least 3 examples of when and how you can

remain patient and calm in your dating/relationship experience. (Example: I will remain calm

when Im hoping to hear back from someone after weve met for the first time.)


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Day 7

Date: ___________________


2. Big Desire:Write down a very specific desire you have for a relationship. Make it in the form of a positive

statement. (Example: I am married to a wonderful man/woman.) With your hand on your heart

repeat this statement at least 10 times out loud.

3. Gratitude:Make a list of at least 10 people who you truly appreciate and are grateful for.

4. Choose one person and write down why you are grateful for this person. Describe how theymake you feel.

5. Success Attitude #7 AcceptanceRead Success Attitude #7on page 7. Write down at least 5 ways in which you accept love inyour life. How are you good at this?


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2. Clear Intention for Relationship Attraction:Write out a simple clear intention for something you want to attract into your life. Include a

timeline for when you want to have this in your life. (EXAMPLE: I am dating a wonderful man





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