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7 Responses for RapportPREVIEW
by Tung
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The Most Important Social Skill You Can Learn
Learning how to build rapport at will is one of the most rewarding skills you can learn.
When you learn this one little secret (of many more I have in my bag) you will have the power
to create real friendships at will. Friendships that rival the strength of the bond between
you and your best friend.
No longer will you be left wondering who you can trust and whos actually talking behind your
back.
When you are building rapport at will, you will make others feel as if they had accomplished
one of their lifelong goals. Make them feel as if everything theyre presently doing with their
life is correct, and how they would be dumb if they were living their life any other way. You
will be able to make ANYONE truly feel like they are on top of the world, and everything will
be ok...
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If you do not take the time to learn what I am about to teach you, not only will you create un-
necessary animosity with your current friends, but with EVERY new person you meet as well...
without even knowing it! Read - awkward moments caused by you!
Once you grasp even the gist of this report, you will start to feel a load lift off your shoulders.
You will once again become excited about conversing with people. You will look forward to
each and every forthcoming conversation you will have, instead of being nervous as hell.
And if you dont take the time to learn this vital life skill, you will remain in the clouds when-
ever you need to meet someone, never quite knowing how your interactions will turn out, leav-
ing them completely to chance... and quite often fail miserably.
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The Great Secret of Conversation
Whenever words leave a persons mouth, unless they are asking a question, or issuing a
salutation, they are ALWAYS, 100% of the time, subconsciously seeking a sign of
understanding from the one they spoke to. An understanding of their total body
expression including their body language, voice tone, and words.
I discovered this principle while observing ALL of my naturally gifted socializing friends.
I witnessed them talking with experts they had never met before, about things which they
had zero experience with, and EVERY TIME they would come out of the conversationlooking like they knew even more about the subject than the expert! And not in a snooty,
Im better than youtype way but instead in the, Wow, youre someone who actually
understandswhy I do what I dotype way (which automatically gets them perceived as
anyones best friend!)
The last part of the discovery was the most fascinating.
How many times have you demonstrated that you know more than someone else, only torun into feelings of jealousy, denial or hatred toward you? Everyones been there.
But this is where I discovered how to do that AND be loved like a best friend!
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The 3 Simple Steps to Rapport
So youre in a conversation with someone and you want to build rapport with them.
All there is to it is the following:
1. Listen to what the other person is trying to express by observing their body language, toneof voice, and then nally their words.
2. Gather the total message of what they were trying to express and ask yourself, Whatwere they trying to get me to understand?
3. Respond accordingly making sure you demonstrate that you not only heard what theysaid, but understood it from their perspective as well.
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For example:
Youre a guy talking to a girl you want to get to know better, and she brings up the oh soheated topic of politics. You gure out she leans towards the opposite end of the spectrum in
terms of who she supports. And then she opens her mouth and says:
Her:I hate Obama, I dont trust the guy. The only reason he won is because he was Black.
He isnt going to follow through on any of the things he says hes gonna do! Our country is
doomed.
Now lets say you are Obamas biggest fan. Pay attention. Even though every ber of your
body wants to put this girl in her place, that is not your goal at this moment.
Your goal is to build rapport with this girl, not to try to reverse her political views.
* Remember, this report and advice is for when you WANT to build rapport. Chances are, you
wouldnt want to build rapport with someone who so greatly disagrees with your own personal views.
But Im using this as an extreme example to demonstrate how even this scenario can be worked out.
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Using just one of my7 Responses for Rapport - stating an ANALOGY to what she said -
you can seamlessly build rapport without sounding like youre just agreeing with her to get
her to like you:
You:Yeah, itd be nice if the presidential race wasnt so much like a student council elec-
tion. A popularity contest. Obama realistically could have had one of his policies as Mon-
keys will take over and run our banking institution from now on, and still won. People who
voted for him wouldve been like, Monkeys? Thats a good idea, why didnt I think of that!
Rapport built. Youve demonstrated that you not only heard what she said, but also clearly
understood what she was trying to say.
Also, you gave enough evidence backing up what you said in order to not sound like you were
just agreeing with her. On top of that, you didnt even state who you personally supported. Its
still up in the air. Most of the time, the girl wont even ask you who you voted for in this
situation because shes content with you understanding why she thinks the things she does.
Even if it does come up and you tell her you voted for Obama, she will be more open to
hearing why you did, since you took the time to understand why she voted for the other guy.
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Five Days to Discovering Your Hidden Social Skills
Heres what I want you to do for the next 5 days to implement this report, so you can see for
yourself the power of not blatantly breaking rapport.
1. Call up a friend, get together with someone for a drink, or start a conversation at work witha co-worker (at least once a day) strictly for the purpose of you trying out what youve learned
here in this report.
2.Bring up a controversial topic, like politics, sports, religion, work, life, family, friends,
relationships etc.
3. Get the other person to input a big opinion about the topic by either asking them whatthey think, or stating your own strong views on the subject at hand.
4. Run through the 3 steps to rapport as weve gone through them above:
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Listen to what the other person is trying to express by observing their body language, tone of
voice, and then nally their words.
Gather the total message of what they were trying to express and ask yourself, What were
they trying to get me to understand?
Respond accordingly making sure you demonstrate that you not only heard what they said,
but understood it from their perspective.
Side Note:
I personally have 7 specic ways in which I would respond. Everything that I say that builds rap-
port falls into one of these 7 categories of responses. One of them Ive already showed you, the
ANALOGY. In fact, I sandwiched together 2 MORE types of responses in the example above to
increase the effectiveness. To learn what those are, in addition to several more ways, you might
want to grab a copy of my book The 7 Rapport Responses here.
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The Easiest Way To Start A Conversation
The last thing I want to have happen is for you to walk away from reading this report and NOT
EVEN seeing yourself what I am describing here.
So, if youre having trouble getting into a conversation with someone, you can see this
principle in action just by making off handed comments towards people you pass by.
People dont need to speak words in order to express something. We as humans are ALWAYS,
100% of the time, expressing SOMETHING. Just because Im not talking, doesnt mean I stop
thinking. Notice, for example:
Someone watching the news with a facial expression of disagreement
Someone trying to wave down a bartender with a frustrated look on their face
Someone with a blank expression on their face while watching a stand-up comedian
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You can practice the principle of this report by shooting a comment towards these people.
For the one watching the news:This world is crazy, isnt it... I dont think well be seeing the day everything runs smoothly
for a while.
For the one waving down the bartender:
They expect you to tip them, but are slow as hell. What do they want from us?
For the one watching the not-so-funny comic:
I think he made a last minute change where he decided to recite a eulogy instead.
These all fall into the principle of people just wanting to be understood. Wanting to feel that
their thoughts and feelings are in fact, valid.
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To know if youre on the right track, the responses you get will be along the lines of:
A smile Laughter
Them nodding their head in agreement
Them ring up a conversation with you
If you are not doing this correctly, you will simply get:
A blank stare
A weird look
Ignorance
Them ring up a conversation with you about how youre wrong
The last one is even potentially good! So you really have nothing to lose and everything to
gain when you try this out!
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The Benets You Will Reap
Once you get the hang of building rapport at will, you will start to notice how everyone you
meet warms up to you faster than ever. Not only that, but they start to treat you like their
best friend, within minutes of talking with them! You are going to get invites out to places
youve never even heard of. Not only will people stay out of your way, they will open doors
for you. You will begin to truly see why its who you know, rather than what you know.
Where and When To Apply Your New Skill
You can start to apply this report into your life, whenever you run into someone you talk to.
Whatever the conversation youre having is, 10% of it will be business, and the other 90% is
all uff. Use what youve learned and apply it in that 90% of uff.
Even if youre walking into your boss ofce to ask for a raise, you dont walk in there with
Hey boss, give me a raise.
No. You walk in there and say, Hey Boss, hows it goin? Any plans for the summer yet?
Then you run through the 3 steps to Rapport weve gone through already after you gather
his/her answer.
It really is this simple!
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When To Hold Back
I want to take a minute here to mention where the advice in this report does not apply.
If youre interacting with someone who you do not have any interest in getting to know, and
they are extremely rude, dont worry about building rapport with them.
If youre talking to someone who isnt listening to anything youre saying anyway, using
these techniques would be a waste. Blatantly disagree with such a person to snap them out
of their own head.
What All This Means
Which brings me to my last point, is that theres no use in talking with someone who does
not listen to you. The whole goal of being a good conversationalist is to be heard. The prep
work for making the other person open to being inuenced by what you have to say far
outweighs the time you need in order to speak to them. Most of the time, you wont even feelthe need to exercise your level of inuence on somebody, simply because, you dont need
everyone to listen to what you have to say.
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If I had to sum up what the whole picture looks like, think of meeting people like you would
a soccer game - yes, the main goal of the game is to score more goals than the other team.
And to be fair, that is the only measure of the success of a given team. But even knowingthat, when any given player on the team gets the ball, do they automatically make a bee-line
toward the opposing net and try to score?
Absolutely not. They prep to get the BEST shot possible. They pass it around, make runs,
and create faints.
Take this analogy one step further, and rewind to before the game. While the players are
in the gym or on the eld practicing, they are doing this ALL to prepare for that ONE MO-
MENT where ONE of the players will shoot the ball on net and score.
You see how preparation strongly out-weighs the moment of success?
Take this analogy with you the next time you are speaking to a member of the opposite sex.
The moment youre in with them will rarely be a moment which determines the fate of your
relationship with them. So relax, and make them feel amazing about themselves. For when
the time comes for you to take it to the next level, they will be prepared for it.
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Tung is the author of7 Responses for Rapport, being released in April 2009, containing
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