“Without change, everything will worse, not better.”

Stevan Hobfoll, PhD

“Your career won't take care of you. It won't call you back or introduce you to its parents. It will forget your birthday and wreck up your car. Your career will never marry you...treat you career like a bad boyfriend. That way, if your career takes a turn, you can always sleep with somebody else.

Amy Poehler

“Being a working mother can be fraught with tension at certain times. I definitely relate to the frantic fear that you’re screwing up — of doing the wrong thing despite the best of intentions. I get up very early and get a lot of things done before my kids get up. And I compartmentalize...

Julia Louis-Dreyfus

“Don't forget about your family in your 20s. Because honestly, you're gonna need them to baby-sit your kids when you're in your 30s, and if you've ignored them or been a bitch to them, they're not going to want to help you when you really need it. And you will need it. Because it's free.

Judy Greer

“I wasn’t going to give up who I was before I had the baby. It’s important to stay true to that as an example — also for my son to find out what his goals are, what he’s passionate about doing...It’s a tough thing. I had a moment leaving him today to get ready for tonight of missing him, but every working mom goes through it. They know what it feels like.

Christina Aguilera

“I think [balancing work and family] is something that most women in this country can relate to. It’s a tough balance, trying to be the best mom. And obviously my family is my priority. And then also, I love what I do, and I love that I get to have a job that I enjoy so much and gives me the freedom to spend a lot of time with my daughter, frankly, and travel and everything else. But it is hard not to spend every second with her.

Jessica Alba

“I was surrounded by plenty of working moms. I was brought up to believe I could do anything I wanted professional ly and, of course, be a mother at the same time. But I’m finding out that it’s complicated. It requires a lot of thought and planning...

Maggie Gyllenhaal

“I think it’s a false trade-off to say quality time vs. quantity – you have to have both. So if you have long work hours like I did, how do you get rid of things in your life you don’t need in order to put that extra time into your children?

Hillary Clinton

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“I'll take all tasks that can be done remotely, like paying bills.

Alex Conrad

Sure! I'll take care of stuffs that needed to be done in person.”

Parker Conrad “

Be explicit in defining each others' roles. And do it in advance! It will keep things from falling through the cracks.

DefineYour Rules

“Marriages require a lot of attention and feeding.

Trae Vassallo You've got to make sure that the relationship is healthy before you worry about other things.

Steve Vassallo

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Many working couples take their relationships for granted. This should not be the case.

When you are with your spouse, be fully present even if you have an important meeting tomorrow morning.

Relationships First

“By having logistical things taken care of on the home front, I feel like we’re able to spend real quality time with our kids.

Trae Vassallo

Consider hiring a nanny that can take care of the kids and handle routine tasks like shopping and child-chauffeuring.

No Time? Outsource!

No Time? Outsource!

With errands out of the way, you can spend whatever little time you have in building your family relationships.

“If the laundry isn't folded properly, it's no big deal!”

Alex Conrad

There are no perfect marriages. If you expect perfection, you'll end up stressed and disappointed. Lower you “Martha Stewart” standards and don't hold each other accountable for having a perfect life.

Don’t expectPerfection

“While we were dating, we took long walks together to talk about issues and our relationship.

Lindsey Scrase

Now that we are married, we are still doing it.

Theresa Hagel “

Whatever your habits are - eating dinner together or watching movies- make time. It's a great way to decompress a n d e n j o y e a c h o t h e r ' s company.

KeepRituals & Habits

You’ve got to define what is important to you as a family, and you’ve got to stick to it.

Theresa Hagel “

As a couple, set limits and define what's best for your family. For instance, if the husband travels a lot, the wife should choose a job that doesn't require too much travel.

Set Boundaries

I guarantee there are a bunch of [men] in this room who say, ‘I really want to marry someone who is a brilliant [career person],’ but then when they get married, they also want their spouse to have kids and be a supermom.

Steve Vassallo

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Before marriage, have an open dialogue about your expectations of each other. Be realistic. Be clear.

Be Realistic

Do you really want to use your family, do you really ever want to look at your spouse and your kid, and see your jailers?

Great friend, great spouse, great parent, great career. Is that not a package? Is that not who you are? How can you be one without the other?

CONCLUSIONA great career

Healthy family relationshipWork-life balance

If you choose to do so, you can ALWAYS have it all!

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