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7 Reasons Why Talented, Spiritual Women Make Little Money and Minimum Impact

This has to change. This CAN CHANGE!

By Rachael Jayne Groover Author of the best‐selling book Powerful and Feminine

Creator of Art of Feminine Presence™.

© Groover Seminars, Inc.

Spiritually centered women frequently talk about how much they want to make an impact, but few actually do. All my work is with women who’ve been on a personal and spiritual development path for quite some time and really want to awaken their impact, inspire change, and create wealth doing meaningful work. It’s heart‐breaking to see some of the most loving, creative, conscious, beautiful women you could ever meet

find it very hard to make the impact they want to make, as well as keep a passionate love relationship alive, and keep their health and happiness intact. If you are tired of seeing less conscious, less ‘in integrity,’ and less talented people making more of an impact than you… If you feel you are sitting on a goldmine of love and wisdom, but too scared to put it ‘out there’… If you spend a lot of time on self‐development but your primary relationship or health are suffering… I can relate. I’ve been there. For those of you that don’t know me that well, I’ve been broke, overweight, overwhelmed, and not making the impact that I wanted. Now my husband and I have a multi‐million dollar per year company teaching spirituality, psychology, leadership, and conscious entrepreneurship. I have been dedicated to my spiritual growth for decades, and have studied just about everything there is to study in that realm. However, none of that made a big difference in my impact or my bank account. I know what it takes to make that change from envious, fearful, and confused to living my career and life dreams.


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How to Use this Report for Maximum Growth and Awareness This special report was written with the intention to help you look at what keeps you playing smaller than necessary. Talented spiritual women often fall into these 7 traps and have specific ‘blind spots’ that keep them in a place where they say “I want to make some big changes, and step up and make a difference,” but not a significant amount of change actually occurs. As you read each of the 7 reasons, notice if you have an immediate sense that you fall into any of these traps, or if you quickly dismiss a trap by saying “no that’s not me,” or have a strong emotional reaction. We call them ‘blind spots’ for a reason. I am predicting that there will be at least one of these points that you dismiss as not you — but it really is you. I recommend you share this report with a friend and ask them for candid feedback about whether they see you demonstrating any of these in your life.

Shadow Work You’ll see me use the term ‘Shadow’ or ‘Shadow Parts’ in this report, and if you are unfamiliar with these terms here is a brief definition: There are certain parts of us that we accept and comfortably express and other parts we reject and suppress. We suppress certain parts of ourselves because at one time or another we received the message that they were not ok, or they were 'bad.' These parts are referred to as our ‘Shadow Parts’. We are ALL of it! We are independent and dependent; love and fear; aggressive and passive; defensive and open; patient and impatient. We all have access to both ends of these spectrums. If we don't acknowledge all parts of us, then those parts we have hidden away in dark corners will create a sense that the ‘handbrake is on’ in our life.

Connect with me I would love to hear your thoughts, feelings, and aha’s once you have read through this report. You can send me an email any time at [email protected]


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Reason #1: Spiritual women defend against being seen as superior, arrogant, bossy, or authoritative. They feel it’s not okay to be that type of person, after all: “We are all one,” “We are all equal,” “I don’t know more than you, I’m just here as a guide.” For many women I have worked with, it’s practically impossible for them to ‘own’ and declare that “I am the most important person in the room at this moment.” Deep in their psyche, it’s not okay for them to assert their confidence as the authority. The problem is when these ‘Shadow parts’ are not integrated, other people won’t trust you as a leader, or someone they can follow. We all want strong leadership whether we admit it or not, because leadership allows us to relax and be guided by someone who is more expert in a particular field. Spiritual women need to make peace with saying, “I’m in charge. I know more. I have something important to share, now listen up.” To determine whether these are shadow parts for you, imagine if someone called you any of these things – superior, arrogant, bossy, or authoritative. Would that give you an ‘emotional charge’ of anger, shame, embarrassment, or complete denial?


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Reason #2: Spiritual women think their

focus on balance and harmony is serving them (and those they’re in contact with), and that maintaining that balance is a sign of spiritual evolution. That is a very slippery slope. Many women mistake and substitute ease, balance and comfort for the deeper fulfillment and doing meaningful work that asks for a lot of inspired action. You must watch whether you are falling into the trap of rationalizing with yourself that you are content with how things are, because deep down you are terrified of losing a sense of balance and being uncomfortable. Therein lies the problem. Making an impact, and ‘putting yourself out there’ is uncomfortable. People will judge you, people will create conflict with you, and people might not like you. An example of this I see a lot with the women I work with, is that they are scared they will be overwhelmed by others, or things will too hard. When they try to focus on their priorities and the things that are significant to them, they suddenly find themselves wanting to go for a walk in nature, or organize the house, or take a bath – in order to get back to a ‘harmonious place.’ It’s a great escape.

Not that taking bath at the end of the day is not a wonderful thing; I personally love it. Just don’t mistake balance and a kind of ‘Pseudo‐Harmony’ for the true self‐worth and fulfillment that comes when you are working diligently towards something you love and that you are good at, and you are consistently growing outside your comfort zone. The ‘Shadow Part’ in this instance that should be integrated is:

“I am lazy.”

Ask yourself how hard it is to push yourself to take action on the things you want to accomplish and stay with even when it gets hard? If you have been experiencing depression recently, Reason #2 could be one of the factors that has made it easy for you to slip into that state.


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Reason #3: Many spiritually centered women over‐give. Why? I believe there are several different

reasons for this: Sometimes it’s driven by wanting to be seen as a giver, and/or genuinely want to be a generous giver, not a taker. Sometimes it comes from low self‐worth that may stem from how much unconditional love and safe attention that we got when we were children. Attention is like food and water for the feminine, so if you feel this dynamic you need to put yourself in situations that feed you with loving attention by others. Our Art of Feminine Presence™ intensives are all built on this premise and are extremely healing for women.

Sometimes it comes from a belief that if I just give enough, I will finally receive something back. This can happen when the spiritual principle of ‘Give and you will receive’ has not been taken in the right context. You can give and give and give until you bleed yourself dry. The only way you can give without the ‘need’ to get something in return is when you are in an abundant state – a state where your cup is overflowing. Sometimes it’s the belief that “I absolutely need to give to someone who is in need. I have to give and help, no matter what the consequences are for me.” For the conscious business owners I work with this creates huge challenges, because business is built on helping others who are in need of something, but somewhere inside they feel they should give it all away if someone is truly in need, without getting financially compensated for it.

If over‐giving is an issue for you, the ‘Shadow Parts’ to work with are:

“I am selfish.”

“I am a taker.”

“I am insecure.”


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Reason #4: Spiritual women often say “we shouldn’t be competitive; instead let’s be

collaborative.” That is great on one hand, given the world has an unhealthy fixation with competition. On the other hand, many women have disowned the power of being competitive. They shy away from the limelight, their drive to be the best at something, their desire to win, and the yang energy that propels them forward. The belief has been implanted that “It’s not feminine or spiritual to be competitive. It’s the “patriarchal way of doing things.”

Why is it good and helpful for a woman to be competitive? This has been a hard one for me in the past to wrestle with because being competitive was a huge ‘Shadow.’ I said I wasn’t competitive, but then I would secretly want to ‘better’ than everyone else in the room. I said I wasn’t competitive, but I would constantly compare myself to other women. First of all, we can agree that this is a waste of time, but secondly think of all the people who are amazing at something – those who are playing at the top of their game. A big part of them is competitive. Primarily they are competitive with themselves and with how much they can improve. If it’s being harnessed in a healthy way, being competitive is great. If you want to be a woman who makes an impact, there is a lot of competition in your way. It’s a noisy world, so you need to do your ‘Shadow Work’ around being a competitive woman.


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Reason #5: Many spiritual women who have their own business or are looking to move up the

ladder in their workplace don’t understand the mechanics and psychology of marketing and sales. In some cases they don’t see the importance of it. With others it’s judgment or fear of it.

I often hear from my business coaching clients that in some way they feel like they are taking from someone if they sell to them, or they feel like they’re trying to ‘push’ something on them. I see many spiritual women invest more in spiritual workshops versus trainings on finance, sales, marketing, and business success. They get stuck in the ‘personal development trap,’ and play toward their strength versus realizing that all the women who are making a huge impact in a positive,

spiritual way have been great marketers and sales women (Oprah, Marianne Williamson, Adrianna Huffington, and even Mother Teresa — among many others). The year I finally crossed over the 6‐figure mark in business was the year that I quadrupled my focus on being a great marketer. I was able to come up with ideas of how I could stay authentic with the way I communicated my value, so people would easily pay me for my coaching and workshops. How many times have you judged someone else for being all about ‘selling’ or all about ‘marketing?’ The ‘Shadow parts’ that you need to work on if this trap is resonating with you are:

”I am Pushy.”

“I am manipulative.”


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Reason #6: Many spiritually centered women hold the belief that “Money is not spiritual.” It’s

material, so it should not be high on the priority list. Sometimes it goes so far as the belief that ‘money is the root of all evil.’ However, it should be high on the priority list, because money is what allows us to live our values in a grander way. If you want to make an impact through philanthropy, you can make that impact bigger with greater financial resources. If you want to make an impact through volunteering in a 3rd world country, money allows you to take the time off. If you want to make an impact through your own business, the more money you have the more people you can reach.

It’s plain and simple ‐ the more money you make the more impact you can have. I am clear now that the only reason my husband and I can impact hundreds of people at one time is because we have the money to put on the powerful trainings we run, and have a highly qualified team that supports us. Sticking with our theme of ‘Shadow Work’ I want you to ask yourself this question:

What would happen if I were the wealthiest person I know? ___________________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________________ Some spiritual women are worried about the judgment people will have if they are rich. They don’t want to be seen as someone who lives life like “it’s all about the money.” The Shadows to work on for this trap are:

“I am Greedy.”

“I am Ruthless.”


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Reason #7: This final reason is not something that I actually hear from the women I work with, but I can feel it running underneath the surface. It’s an internal, or maybe subconscious conversation that says, “I’ve done so much spiritual work. I’m doing the right thing, in the right way, and given that it, success should come to me.” Money or impact doesn’t choose good people. It doesn’t choose evil people. It chooses people who focus on it and take consistent action to ‘make things happen.’

In my work I see a lot of spiritual women doing a ‘Spiritual Bypass’ that looks like positive thinking: “I’m great, and everything is going to happen; it’s just a matter of time.” Often I coach them around their business and can clearly see they are not doing the specific actions needed to create that thing they want. They stay positive and excited and ‘knowing’ that it will happen. But it never does. Entitlement is a word that has been thrown around a lot relating to the younger generations. They think everything will just come to them. I believe talented, spiritual women need to watch this too. It’s keeping them in a place of making little money and minimum impact.


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This report is not meant to swing you completely the other way. It’s not meant to make you a materially focused, workaholic, competitive control freak. It’s about integrating those ‘Shadow Parts’ and allowing more diversity of thoughts and more inspired action towards things that will get you

tangible results.

If you know you suffer from 2 or more of these 7 traps, I highly recommend you attend this

FREE LIVE MASTER CLASS: The TRUTH about what it takes to be visible and well compensated as a FEMININE LEADER

You are already registered for this 3‐hour live class on Tuesday, Feb 9 at 3pm US PT/6pm US ET.

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I’m going to guide you through an honest re‐assessment about why you are so evolved but your life and bank account do not fully reflect that. It’s Live – direct from our office to your home – and it’s FREE! Show up for these 3 powerful hours, filled with my best training on how to increase your courage and visibility. PLUS, behind the scenes secrets of what it really takes to make an impact, inspire change and stay overwhelmingly happy and healthy in the process. During this master class I’m going to help you

● Get clear on what is really stopping you from stepping fully into your feminine leadership and doing meaningful work. Hint: It’s not fear, confusion, or your mindset. There are ‘deeper roots’ that we need to pull out and shine some light on.

● Implement the 6 things you can change in your communication style that will have people pay attention to what you say and want to follow you.

● Amplify your ‘feminine energy’ to bring more ‘spark’ to your relationships and your life.


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Some critical pieces are out of alignment if your financial, relationship, and fulfillment results do not equal the knowledge and wisdom you have accumulated. We are going to change that. It’s time to get honest about the skeletons in your closet and the personal pitfalls that keep you from being the woman you want to be. I have a unique viewpoint on feminine leadership or creating wealth through doing something you really love. It’s not about being ‘salesy,’ or inauthentic, out of integrity, or pushy. It’s about staying true to your values, your consciousness work, and ‘working’ with the dynamics that keep most spiritually centered women making little money and minimum impact. Put the dates on the calendar IMMEDIATELY. We’ll see you there! Much love,


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