7 Habitsof Highly Effective

TeensThe Ultimate Teenage Success

Guide

Activity

Re-read the poem and determine what it is.

Do NOT call out or share your answer.

Write your answer and show only your teacher.

Who am I?

I am your constant companion. I am

your greatest helper or heaviest burden.

I will push you onward or drag you down

to failure. I am completely at your command.

Half the things I do you might just as well

turn over to me and I will be able to do them quickly and correctly.

I am easily managed – you must merely

be firm with me. Show me exactly how you

want something done and after a few

lessons I will do it automatically. I am the

servant of all great individuals and, alas, of

all failures, as well. Those who are great, I

have made great. Those who are failures,

I have made failures.

I am not a machine, though I work

with all the precision of a machine plus

the intelligence of a human. You may run

me for a profit or run me for ruin – it

makes no difference to me.

Take me, train me, be firm with me,

and I will place the world at your feet. Be

easy with me and I will destroy you.

Who am I?

Click here to replay the poem

Life

Life is a jungle for everyone out of kindergarten and it helps to have a compass, or tool, that helps move us in the right direction.

Emotional Roller Coaster

What are some of the situations that you have to deal with in real life?

[Somebody, please take notes!]

Life is going to happen.

Would it help to have a set of tools for you to deal with these types of issues?

Would it hurt?

Re-look at the class list of situations and next to each one write one or two words that describe what you could do to deal with the problem.

Example:

“There’s too much to do and not enough time.” -- prioritize

-- So --What do all of the things that you have

identified have in common?

Most of them are probably habits.

What is a habit?

Habits are things we do repeatedly.

Most of the time we are hardly aware that we have them.

They’re on autopilot.

Good Habits

What are some good habits? [Make a list]

Did you include:

exercising regularly

planning ahead

showing respect for others

Bad Habits

Now, list some of the not so good habits.

[You have to write these too!]

Did you include:

thinking negatively

feeling inferior

blaming others

Not Good – Not Bad

Some habits don’t go on either list. They are just things that we do that don’t have a positive or a negative impact.

Example:

taking showers every night

eating yogurt with a fork

reading magazines from back to front

Let’s see if our class list matches

7 Effective Habits• Begin with the End in Mind (mission/goals)

• Be Proactive (be responsible for your life)

• Sharpen the Saw (renew yourself)

• Put First Things First (Prioritize)

• Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood (listen to people)

• Think Win-Win (everyone can win attitude)

• Synergize (work together to achieve more)

ORDER ?

Let’s classify the 7 Habits and give them some order.

There are three (3) that are “private.” They require self-mastery. Self is always first.

Then there are three (3) that are “public.” These require you to work with someone else – teamwork. After self, then you can work with others.

Wait!

There are seven (7). What about the last one. Where does it go?

The last habit is one that feeds the other six habits.

So, put them in order and let’s see how you do.

Private Victory Habits

These habits deal with

self-mastery.

Private Victory Habits #1

Private Victory Habit #2

Proactive

Private Victory Habit #3

Proactive End in Mind

Private Victory Habits

#1: Be Proactive –

take responsibility for your life

Private Victory Habits

#2: Begin with the End in Mind

Define your mission and goals in life.

Private Victory Habits

#3 Put First Things First

Prioritize, and do the most important things first.

Public Victory Habits

These are habits that deal with relationships and teamwork.

Public Victory Habit #4

Public Victory Habit #5Think Win-Win

Public Victory Habit #6Think Win-Win

Seek First to Understand

Synergize

Sharpen the Saw

Public Victory Habit

#4 – Think Win-Win

Have an everyone-can-win attitude

Public Victory Habit

#5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood

-Listen to people sincerely

Synergize – (The ultimate teamwork)

Work together to achieve more.

That Only Leaves One

Habit 7

The habit of renewal

Feeds the Others

#7: Sharpen the Saw

Renew yourself regularly.

Habits

They can make or break you.

Luckily, you are stronger than your habits.

You can change them.

Want to see? Stand up and fold your arms.

What can the 7 Habits help with?Get control of your life Get more done in less

time

Make smarter decisions

Be happy

Get along with your parents

Find balance between school, work, friends

Define your values and what matters most to you

Overcome addiction

The Next Step

Top 10 All-Time Stupid Quotes

You are going to hear a list of statements made many years ago by experts.

At the time, they sounded intelligent.

How do they sound to you today?

WOW!

Your turn.

Write three statements that you feel are valid in your life.

Volunteers to read a few?

Let’s see

Now you will hear some statements that real teens just like you have made.

They are just as ridiculous as the list above.

What will happen to your list in ten years?

What do they have in common?

First – perceptions about the way things are.

Second – all inaccurate or incomplete, even though the people were convinced they were true

Another word for perceptions is

paradigms

[pronoun: pair-a-dimes]

It is the way you see something, your point of view, frame of reference, or belief.

Like glasses

When you have incomplete paradigms about yourself or life in general, it’s like wearing glasses with the wrong prescription.

They affect everything in your life.

We have paradigms about ourselves, other people, and

life in general.

SELF

Are your paradigms helping or hindering you?

Negative self-paradigms can put limitations on you.

Positive self-paradigms can bring out the best in you.

Others

Seeing from different point of view can help us understand why other people act they way they do.

How do you react to class mates that are moody or difficult?

Why? And why do they act like that?

LifeYou can usually tell what your paradigm is

by asking yourself the following questions.

“What is the driving force of my life?”

“What do I spend my time thinking about?”

“Who or what is my obsession?”

Whatever is important to you will become your paradigm, or your > > > > > >

life-center

Some are:friends, stuff, boyfriend/girlfriend,

school, parents, sports/hobbies, heroes, enemies, self, and work

Friend-Centered

It’s great to belong to a group!

Friends can be fickle, fake, talk behind your back, find new friends, forget about you.

They can cause you to compromise your standards to accommodate them.

Life Happens

People change

People move

People get married, have children

Paradigms Change“Make as many friends as you can, but

don’t build your life on them. It’s an unstable foundation.”

Stuff

We live in a material world.

We want to have the shiniest, fastest, nicest “things” possible.

Nothing wrong with accomplishing and enjoying our “stuff.”

But, never center your life on things.

Boyfriend/Girlfriend

The easiest trap

If you center your life on your bf/gf what would happen if…..

They make a rude comment about you?

They flirt with your (bff) best friend?

They say, “I think we should date other people.”

IronyThe more you center your life on someone,

the more unattractive you become to that person.

1-If you are centered on that other person, you are no longer hard to get.

2 – It’s irritating when someone builds their entire emotional life around you.

Independence is more attractive than dependence.

Centering your life on another does not show that you love them, only that you are dependent on them.

School-Centered

Education is vital to your future.

But don’t let it be your only priority. Don’t let dean’s list, GPAs, and AP classes take over your life.

You can do well in school and maintain a healthy balance in life.

Parent-Centered

They are your greatest source of love and guidance.

If you center your whole life on them, or them on you, it can end up to be a real nightmare.

Other Centers

Don’t build everything around being the “greatest” athlete.

Don’t live around a movie or rock star – they will disappoint you in some way.

If you hate a group, person, or idea – you are warping your center of existance.

Workaholism is a compulsion to have more “stuff.”

Principle-Centered

Principles aren’t religious.

They are not American or Chinese.

They are not mine or yours.

They are not up for discussion.

They apply equaly to everyone – rich or poor – king or peasant – male, or female

They can not be bought or sold.

Principle-Centered

If you live by them –

you will excel.

If you break them –

you will fail.

Principle-CenteredHere are some:

Honesty Service Hard work Respect Gratitude, moderation, fairness,

integrity, loyalty, responsibility

Principles Never Fail

It takes faith to live by principles

What does a lier get?

What does a disloyal friend get?

To grasp why principles always work, imagine living a life based on their opposites. What would you be like?

Baby Steps

Small, powerful tools to help you ahieve your larger goals.

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