1. Understand why you care so much about other’s opinions of you. Understand what you “need” from others and check out whether you really need these things to be successful. By knowing this you can put a stop to some of the irrational assumptions you make.

2. Stop the mind reading. Be aware when you begin to engage in mind reading (worrying about what others think) and refocus on the current shot or play. Do a reality check. How do you know what others are truly thinking about you? Test your assumptions and ask a good friend what he thinks about you game when you play well or poorly.

3. Know who you are on the inside. Know your own self – called self-concept – and believe in who you are on the inside. Keep in mind that it should not matter what others think if you play for yourself. It’s very important you play for yourself first.

4. Have self-respect not-other respect. Stop searching for respect or admiration from other people. You won’t need it if you have self-respect and give yourself the stamp of approval!

5. Separate self-esteem from your sports success. You are more than a score. Keep in mind that sport is only one aspect of who you are and not the thing that defines who you are. Keep in mind you are a person that just happens to be a good athlete, not vice versa.

© 2011 John R. Ellsworth, Mental Toughness Coach • Protex Sport (www.protexsports.com)

5 Tips To Stop Worrying About What Others Think