2015 02-14 making the right choice

Pop Quiz

1.Love at first sight is possible between some people.2.Premarital sex is acceptable when a couple cares a lot about each other.3.When real love hits you will know it.4.When a couple truly love each other, they will not fight.5.It is easy to tell the difference between real love and infatuation.

6.It is quite normal for someone to be in love with several persons at the same time.7.When you are really in love, you lose interest in other people, things, and activities.

1.Love at first sight is possible between some people.2.Premarital sex is acceptable when a couple cares a lot about each other.3.When real love hits you will know it.4.When a couple truly love each other, they will not fight.

5.It is easy to tell the difference between real love and infatuation.6.It is quite normal for someone to be in love with several persons at the same time.7.When you are really in love, you lose interest in other people, things, and activities.


5.It is easy to tell the difference between real love and infatuation.6.It is quite normal for someone to be in love with several persons at the same time.7.When you are really in love, you lose interest in other people, things, and activities.8.When you fall head-over-heels-in-love with someone, you will know by your feelings if it is the real thing.9.Once a couple find true love they should marry as soon as possible.10.The average young person, before becoming a mature adult, will have been in love several times with several different persons.



11.Love is something you cannot study or prepare for, since it is an emotional response.12.When you are really in love, you will see only the good in the other person.13.It isn’t very important whether family and friends approve of your love relationship – it is of concern only to the two of you.




14.Absence makes the heart grow fonder.15.Frequent quarrels, arguments and misunderstandings will not be present when you are really in love.16.It is better to marry the wrong person than to remain single.17.When you are in love, you can overcome all obstacles regardless of the differences between you.




14.Absence makes the heart grow fonder.15.Frequent quarrels, arguments and misunderstandings will not be present when you are really in love.16.It is better to marry the wrong person than to remain single.17.When you are in love, you can overcome all obstacles regardless of the differences between you.

18.When you are in love, you will spend a good bit of time daydreaming.19.When you are in love, you will work harder, produce more, plan better, and function at a higher level than eve before.20.God has created and chosen one special person for me, and through prayer and searching I will be guided to this person.

If those who are contemplating marriage would not have miserable, unhappy reflections after marriage, they must make it a subject of serious, earnest reflection now.

No one can so effectually ruin a woman’s happiness and usefulness, and make life a heartsickening burden, as her own husband; and no one can do one hundredth part as much to chill the hopes and aspirations of a man, to paralyze his energies and ruin his influence and prospects, as his own wife.

The step you are about to take is one of the most important in your life, and should not be taken hastily. While you may love, do not love blindly.

Let the questions be raised, 1.Will this union help me heavenward?

2.Will it increase my love for God? 3.And will it enlarge my sphere of usefulness in this life?

If these reflections present no drawback, then in the fear of God move forward. {AH 45.2}

Being unequally yoked.

On choosing a wife…

Let a young man seek one to stand by his side who is fitted to bear her share of life’s burdens, one whose influence will ennoble and refine him, and who will make

him happy in her love. Proverbs 31:10…

Will the one you marry bring happiness to your home?

1. Is [she] an economist, or will she, if married, not only use all her own earnings, but all of yours to gratify a vanity, a love of appearance? Are her principles correct in this direction? Has she anything now to depend upon? . . .

2. In your choice of a wife study her character. Will she be one who will be patient and painstaking? Or will she cease to care for your mother and father at the very time when they need a strong son to lean upon? And will she withdraw him from their society to carry out her plans and to suit her own pleasure, and leave the father and mother who, instead of gaining an affectionate daughter, will have lost a son?



2. In your choice of a wife study her character. Will she be one who will be patient and painstaking? Or will she cease to care for your parents… And will she withdraw him from their society to carry out her plans and to suit her own pleasure, and leave the father and mother who, instead of gaining an affectionate daughter, will have lost a son?



2. In your choice of a wife study her character. Will she be one who will be patient and painstaking? Or will she cease to care for your parents… And will she withdraw him from their society to carry out her plans and to suit her own pleasure, and leave the father and mother who, instead of gaining an affectionate daughter, will have lost a son?

3. Is she trustworthy both in the home chores and of your love?

On choosing a husband…

Every woman should inquire whether he with whom she is about to unite her destiny is worthy. 1. What has been his past

record? Is his life pure? Is the love which he expresses of a noble, elevated character, or is it a mere emotional fondness? Has he the traits of character that will make her happy? Can she find true peace and joy in his affection?

2. Will she be allowed to preserve her individuality, or must her judgment and conscience be surrendered to the control of her husband? . . . Can she honor the Saviour's claims as supreme? Will body and soul, thoughts and purposes, be preserved pure and holy? These questions have a vital bearing upon the well-being of every woman who enters the marriage relation. {AH 47.1}

Let the woman who desires a peaceful, happy union, who would escape future misery and sorrow, inquire before she yields her affections, Has my lover a mother? What is the stamp of her character? Does he recognize his obligations to her? Is he mindful of her wishes and happiness? If he does not respect and honor his mother, will he manifest respect and love, kindness and attention, toward his wife? When the novelty of marriage is over, will he love me still? Will he be patient with my mistakes, or will he be critical, overbearing, and dictatorial? True affection will overlook many mistakes; love will not discern them.



2. Will she be allowed to preserve her individuality, or must her judgment and conscience be surrendered to the control of her husband? . . . Can she honor the Savior’s claims as supreme? Will body and soul, thoughts and purposes, be preserved pure and holy?

3. Has my lover a mother? What is the stamp of her character? Does he recognize his obligations to her? Is he mindful of her wishes and happiness? If he does not respect and honor his mother, will he manifest respect and love, kindness and attention, toward his wife? When the novelty of marriage is over, will he love me still? Will he be patient with my mistakes, or will he be critical, overbearing, and dictatorial? True affection will overlook many mistakes; love will not discern them.




3. Has my lover a mother? What is the stamp of her character? Does he recognize his obligations to her? Is he mindful of her wishes and happiness? If he does not respect and honor his mother, will he manifest respect and love, kindness and attention, toward his wife [who has never been a relative]?

4. When the novelty of marriage is over, will he love me still? Will he be patient with my mistakes, or will he be critical, overbearing, and dictatorial?

5. True affection will overlook many mistakes; love will not discern them.




3. Has my lover a mother? What is the stamp of her character? Does he recognize his obligations to her? Is he mindful of her wishes and happiness? If he does not respect and honor his mother, will he manifest respect and love, kindness and attention, toward his wife?

4. When the novelty of marriage is over, will he love me still? Will he be patient with my mistakes, or will he be critical, overbearing, and dictatorial?

5. True affection will overlook many mistakes; love will not discern them.

Accept Only Pure, Manly Traits.--Let a young woman accept as a life companion only one who possesses pure, manly traits of character, one who is diligent, aspiring, and honest, one who loves and fears God. {AH 47.3} Shun those who are irreverent. Shun one who is a lover of idleness; shun the one who is a scoffer of hallowed things. Avoid the society of one who uses profane language, or is addicted to the use of even one glass of liquor. Listen not to the proposals of a man who has no realization of his responsibility to God.