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Elder Family MediationElder Family MediationElder and Disability Law ForumElder and Disability Law Forum
May 30, 2012May 30, 2012
Charlie RobinsonClearwater, FL
Family Dispute ResolutionFamily Dispute Resolution
Family disputes can impair or destroy the professional’s ability to provide workable client solutions.
Failure to resolve these disputes can result in
Lifetime of hard feelings Litigation Problem may
never be solved
WhenWhen Any serious family issue that needs a family
decision may lend itself to elder family mediation and strategic planning.
The threat of litigation is not necessary but a need to feel the family can and should resolve the issue is necessary.
Everyone in the family will be heard and understand and hopefully support the resolution of the problem.
WhyWhyElder Family Mediation may keep the family together and arrive at a sensible consensus resolution to the dispute.
AdvantagesAdvantages Less costly than
◦ litigation ◦ no decision at all
Family long range strategic plan
Not family counseling
ResultsResultsThe consensus solution should be better than any individual proposals initially presented
Examples:Examples:
Kids from first marriage complaining about Medicaid planning
Fights about personal property among kids◦ with a will or not◦ tchotchkes (trinkets) ◦ not cash or even the house
HealthHealth Physical, emotional, or mental decline Health and safety concerns Independence and self-determination versus
safety including driving.
CareCare
Disputes over placement and cost of care for failing parent
Residence and long term care decisions
Caregiver issues How to compensate the
caregiver child
DecisionsDecisions Advance directives
who makes what decisions Medical treatment decisions End of life decisions
FinancesFinances How to handle parents’ investment portfolio
and choice of financial advisor Financial concerns and tax issues Consider selling the house and other
valuable assets
DeathDeath Death of spouse Burial disputes Inheritance disputes
The Rescuer The Rescuer Swooping - flying in from out of town and
trying to resolve many issues in a short period of time.
Often runs over the sibling who has provided hands on care for some time.
Any family situation that is not resolved that needs resolution
Every professional serving elders and their families can identify with the examples illustrated here. If the decisions to be made are important to the family, the elder family mediation process may make the family stronger than it was before the need for mediation and at the same time allow the professional to do a better job where all clients are pulling together and in the same direction.
Professional Serving Elders Professional Serving Elders Decisions important to the familyProcess may make the family strongerAllow the professional to do a better job Everyone pulling together for shared goal
The Darling Family StoryThe Darling Family Story
Putting the pieces together
The ProcessThe Process Each family has a unique, often tacit
understanding of how decisions are made and conflicts resolved known as their “dispute system.”
Mediation is a good way to review and reconsider this dispute system
Consensus building model process:◦ Convening◦ Conflict assessment◦ Agenda building
IntakeIntake
Understand the issues.
The mediator asks each family member to provide a summary of the issues and where they stands on each of the issues the family is facing.
Private SessionsPrivate Sessions
The mediator will often meet privately in person or on the telephone to listen to each person’s story and gain perspective on each family member’s perspective.
Family Meeting(s)Family Meeting(s) Help resolve the issues Meeting summary and follow up
Everybody is HeardEverybody is Heard
GoalGoal
Work toward long term solutionsSatisfied constituencies
Avoid taking a vote and thus creating a discontented minority
Periodic ConsensusPeriodic Consensus Wholeheartedly agree –
Good idea Will support –
Can live with this Have reservations –
Want to talk Have serious concerns –
Must talk Cannot be part of this –
Must block it
ResultsResults Happy Family Best Care of Senior Financial Security Defined Goals Plan of Action
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