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ways to be an ally
Nikki Stevens @drnikki
100(and/or lay the foundation for allyship)
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An ally is "someone who advocates for and supports members of a community other than their own; reaching across
differences to achieve mutual goals."
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"Each and every one of us has the capacity to be an oppressor”
- Laverne Cox
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when i mess up
tell me. we can learn, i’ll update my notes and we’ll all be better.
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1Acknowledge your own
privileges.
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2Understand your own privileges.
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3Work intersectionally
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4Acknowledge “systemic racism”
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5Acknowledge “systemic sexism”
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6Acknowledge “systemic abelism”
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7Understand “systemic racism”
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8Understand “systemic sexism”
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9Understand “systemic classism”
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10Understand “systemic abelism”
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11Get a grip on white fragility.
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12Look at the intersections of
oppression.
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13Read The New Jim Crow.
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15Think about the school to prison
pipeline.
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16Develop a new litmus test.
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17Put your bodies on the line.
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18Stop telling white “innocence”
narratives.
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19Read An Indigenous Peoples' History of the United States
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“The history of the United States is a history of settler colonialism—the founding of a state based on the
ideology of white supremacy, the widespread practice of African slavery, and a policy of genocide
and land theft.” ― Roxanne Dunbar-Ortiz, An Indigenous Peoples'
History of the United States
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20Follow people of color on twitter.
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21Cite scholars who are POC/
LGBTQIA
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22Talk to your inner circle.
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23Say hi to new people.
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24Think honestly about the kind of
person you are.
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25Stop objectifying people.
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26Call out your peers.
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27Mentor someone (and teach them
how to mentor others)
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28Look at the storyteller.
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29Read books written by people not
like you.
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30Watch movies written/directed by
people not like you.
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31Consume comedy by people not
like you.
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32Look critically at the comedy
made by people like you.
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33Examine your own oppression.
(and get angry about it)(and put it into context)
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34Break away from the savior
complex.
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35Say: “my words and actions
make a difference.”
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36Learn how to apologize.
(and then move on)
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37Remember that allyship is a verb.
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38Do not police oppression.
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39Do not disqualify experience.
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40You don’t have to understand to
respect.
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41No fat-shaming.
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42No slut-shaming.
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43No kink-shaming.
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44No hobby-shaming.
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46Amplify others’ voices.
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47See gender, race, ability, sexual
orientation.
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48Take responsibility for your own
education.
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49Do not tokenize.
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50Don’t use the accessible
bathroom.
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53Respect the words people want.
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54Stop man-splaining.
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55Stop white-splaining.
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56Stop able-splaining.
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57Refer to people cautiously.
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58“Knowledge multi-level
marketing”- Tim Plunkett
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61Donate services.
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62Do not out anyone. Ever.
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63Support gender-neutral
restrooms.
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64Don’t offer “tips” or
“compliments.”
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65Stop cultural appropriation.
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66Learn about microaggressions.
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67Listen and follow the model of
others.
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68No inspiration porn.
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69Assume nothing about a person’s
life.
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70Educate your clients about
access.
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71Make your websites
accessible.
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72Make your events
accessible.
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73Do not police disability.
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74Remember, disability isn’t always
visible.
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75Avoid ableist language.
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What many label “political correctness” is in fact a minimally difficult effort at using language that shows respect and
engagement with communities that are not the predominant wielders of power in the United States.
- Christopher Keelty
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76Don’t offer advice to “solve” other
people’s “problems”
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77Understand cross-racial
identification.
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78Look at how algorithms encode
existing bias.
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79Locate yourself on the ally
spectrum.
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80Understand your own limits
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81Push past them when you can.
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82Call your congresspeople.
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83Stop saying “We are all immigrants.”
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84Don’t get defensive
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85Honor your own story
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86Honor others’ stories
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87Don’t speak for people.
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88Foster cross-domain empathy.
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89Be flexible with your worldview.
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90Read bell hooks and Angela Y Davis and Ibrim X Kendi and Kiesha
Blain, and Gloria E. Anzaldúa and Rosemarie Garland-Thomson and Simi Linton and Judith Butler and Michel Foucault and
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91Remember gender isn’t enough.
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92Use yourself as a shield.
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93Don’t mock activists around you.
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94Help others move across the ally
spectrum.
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95Talk about your feelings.
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96Examine your own _____-
phobias.
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97Consider your relationship with
capitalism.
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98Look at the margins.
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99_______ can be allies too.
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100Join the Drupal Diversity &
Inclusion Group.
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1go to sprints!!
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