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    10 ways to get your students respectAUGUST 28, 2010

    by wha ted sai d tags: classroom, Education, Learning, respect for teachers, teachers,

    teaching

    I loved the discussion that grew out of my 10 things teachers should UNlearn post. It was

    inspired by the Yoda clip and I deliberately did not elaborate on each point, so as to provoke

    thinking and responses. I have posted separately about most of the points on other occasions

    anyway.

    One of the points which raised problems for some people was my suggestion that students are

    not obliged to respect teachers. I do think mutual respect between any human beings is

    important. And I understand that there might be differing cultural expectations when it comes to

    respecting teachers. But I still think it s important for teachers to think about whether and why

    they deserve respect automatically.

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    10 ways to get your students respect(for those who dont think it comes automatically)

    1. Respect your students.

    Dont talk down to students. Model mutual respect. Dont have double standards. Give what

    youd like to get back. Know every childs story and treat each as an individual. Cater for

    different learning preferences, strengths and weaknesses.

    2. Have a class agreement, not top-down rules.

    Ask what helps them learn a nd what hinders learning.Use that as a basis for establishing an

    essential agreementas to how the class will run and what behaviours will be evident. Have

    everyone sign it. Put it up on the wall. Refer to it constantly.

    3. Be part of the learning community.

    Dont be the boss of learning. Encourage kids to take ownership of their learning. Be an inquirer

    too. Dont pretend to know all the answers. Learn with and from your students. Divide your

    groups in a variety of random ways, so that everyone learns to work with different people.

    4. Acknowledge their physical needs.

    Allo w students to dr ink wate r and even to eat i f they hungry. Dont try and control when they go

    to the toilet. (If your classes are engaging, they will only go when they need to.) Provide

    opportunities for standing up and moving around during learning.

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    5. Be fair and reasonable.

    Dont show favoritism. Expect everyone to stick to the agreement. Dont allow put-downs

    between stud ents . Accep t legit imate ex cuse s and ev en some that might no t be . If th e ho mework

    comes a day late because they had something else to do, its not the end of the world.

    6. Have a sense of humour.

    Laugh with your students but never at them. Laugh at yourself. Show firm disapproval if they

    laugh at each other. Dont take school too seriously. Take learning seriously. But make learning

    fun too.

    7. Provide a secure learning space.

    Provide opportunities for risk-taking in learning. Create a safe environment where learners don t

    fear failure. Be supportive of creative thinking and new ways of doing things. Make very student

    feel validated.

    8. Be sincere.

    Talk to students in a normal tone, irrespective of their age. Students see through adults who

    arent sincere very quickly. Dont pretend. Say what you mean. Mean what you say. Show that

    yo u ca rebut only i f you d o. (If you dont, why are you a teacher?)

    9. Be human.

    Ack nowled ge whe n youre in the wrong. Apologise when you make a mistake. Admit youre

    impatient because youre tired today.

    10. Let go.

    Dont be in charge of every situation. Ask yourself Is it important?before you react. Dont

    make all the decisions. Provide opportunities for choice. Show that you value initiative above

    compliance.

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    enpsteacherPERMALINK

    August 28, 2010 11:10 pm

    I too loved the discussion that grew out of my 10 things teachers should

    UNlearn post. I was a big contributor to that respect dialogueyo u

    mentioned, as I cannot stress enough to new teachers how crucial respect

    is.

    A huge problem with new teachers is they mista ke respect wi th friendshi p.

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    DO NOT BE A FRIEND TO YOUR STUDENTS! THEY HAVE ENOUGH

    FRIENDS!

    To illustrate this point, if my friend tells me to shut up, I might slug him

    on the arm and tell HIM to shut up.However, if my student tells me to

    shut up, he or she knows there will be immediate consequences for

    disrespect.

    Yes, follow all 10 bits of sage advice on the list above, but DO NOT blend the

    lines of TEACHER/ student, or the necessary respect will be impossible to

    maintain.

    If you are interested in a more in-depth explanation or discussion of this

    idea check out my post on the topic at http://wp.me/s11oWO-398

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    enpsteacher PERMALINK

    August 29, 2010 12:18 am

    Thanks for taking the time to read my post and for your response found at

    http://tinyurl.com/2alxuxn.

    Just to clarify, by no means do I disagree with or dislike your list. I merely

    meant my post as an addendum for new, young, idealistic teachers.

    Thanks and keep up the good work!

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    Robyn PERMALINK

    August 29, 2010 8:43 am

    Great list but I dont see anything there about learning. Teachers who

    engage their students through embedding learning in contexts that are

    authentic to them, have meaningful and hopefully applicable outcomes and

    require deep learning and higher order thinking, combined with the belief

    that each and very students can achieve, will earn life-long (or even longer)

    respect. I still hear my 85 year old Dad talk about teachers he respected

    and why he respected them

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    whatedsaid PERMALINK

    August 29, 2010 10:20 am

    Thanks for the comment! Youre right of course, I totally agree with

    everything you say. I write so much about learning that I didnt even

    notice! In my head, all my posts stand together I forget that there might

    be p eople who just read one post and so they dont see it in the context ofeverything else I write.

    #11. See Robyns comment above!

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    Jeremy M. PERMALINK

    August 29, 2010 4:51 pm

    A lot o f it depe nds on what example you s et. Yes, we n eed to s how respect

    for students if we expect it in return, but we also need to show how we as

    teachers respect other teachers. This can be done I a number of ways. As

    professionals we dont always get along with our colleagues but we should

    show some level of respect. Students will pick up on snyde remarks or a

    rolling of the eyes, or any other form of disapproval/disrespect. We cant

    expect students to be respectful in anothers classroom if you yourself

    do nt show any respect for that teacher. I think that it also teaches another

    important messageyo u dont have to like everyone, but you can

    certainly get along with (most) everyone. Respect, at least for me, is

    something has to be modeled. I learned respect from watching how my dad

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    and mom treated others. I learned respect from teachers that treated me as

    a person and not a subordinate. We can talk all we want to the kids

    (especially younger grades) about what respect looks like, but it means

    very lit tle unti l t hey actually see it.

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    Akevy Green blatt PERMALINK

    August 29, 2010 5:05 pm

    I loved the list and I think you were dead on in many of the things you

    mentioned. Too often teachers get into a power struggle with his/her

    students because after all they are the teacher. They may win that battle

    but they have lost the war beca use they have lost the re spect of that

    student and possibly the class for a long time. another things teachers

    forget and sometimes students as well is that the teacher needs to be fair

    but fair doesn t always mean equal.

    I would also agree with Jeremys comment that one important factor in the

    issue of respect is that teachers need to be role models and model respect

    for their students by the way they interact with others.

    Thanks for the post

    Ak ev y

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    Robyn Fox PERMALINK

    August 29, 2010 6:01 pm

    Great list, Edna. Thank you so much for everything you post. Jeremy wrote

    that he learned respect from watching how my (his) dad and mom treated

    others. That makes me think of my dad who always said you are no

    bett er than a nyone else and nobod y else is be tter than you. This is a great

    creed to live by, when thinking about respect..both in terms of respecting

    students, peers and ourselves.

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    Sarah PERMALINK

    August 30, 2010 1:43 am

    Ver y n ice lis t. All true. And al l are easy things to do.

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    Judith PERMALINK

    August 30, 2010 9:57 am

    What a fantast ic post. I think all teachers should read t his every day just to

    remind themselves of their responsibilities to children.

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    Miss B PERMALINK

    August 30, 2010 2:27 pm

    Great post.

    Even though reading these I thought, yes I knew that, its so good to read

    these from time to time, its easy to forget some of these tips when you get

    bogged down in t he middle of term, with reports and programs etc etc.

    Thanks for reminding me!

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    wow, nice artic le.. than ks fo r sharing.. ^_^v

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    Elena Sacks PERMALINK

    September 1, 2010 11:29 pm

    I loved this post. As Judith commented- we do need to be reminded of

    these points as teachers from time to time. My how schooling has changed

    from my days as a student. I just hope children today realize how

    wond erful their learning environments can be co mpared to rigid an d

    stringent ways of the past.

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    ktenkely PERMALINK

    September 4, 2010 6:50 am

    So right on Edna. I am in the camp that teachers should automatically

    assume that a child will respect them because they said so. Im not sure

    that can even be called respect, more likely it is fear. True respect is mutual

    between both parti es who care a bout each other and feel safe in that

    respectful relationship. Great 10 list!

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    Morgan PERMALINK

    September 12, 2010 8:15 am

    Great post. My favorite is #9. I try to be as real and human as possible.

    The other day during circle time, one of my K students told me, I feel

    mad. I eventually got the reason- he was mad because he wanted to stay

    home that day with his mom. I told him, You know Alan , I was mad this

    morning too. I wanted to stay home with my dog. But here we are. His face

    lit up. I told the truth and may have hooked him for the year!

    #9 Be human. Never be perfect. Kids hate perfect. Perfect creates

    anxiety, not respect.

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    Sam Rangel PERMALINK

    November 18, 2010 3:53 pm

    Excellent! Without respect, there is no way you will be able to reach your

    students. All the training in the world won t help you if your kids dont

    respect you. This is great advice for new teachers and veteran teachersalike. Ive made it o ne the P ower Post s on my s ite.

    Thank you,

    Sam

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