10 ways to get your students’ respect
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10 ways to get your students respectAUGUST 28, 2010
by wha ted sai d tags: classroom, Education, Learning, respect for teachers, teachers,
teaching
I loved the discussion that grew out of my 10 things teachers should UNlearn post. It was
inspired by the Yoda clip and I deliberately did not elaborate on each point, so as to provoke
thinking and responses. I have posted separately about most of the points on other occasions
anyway.
One of the points which raised problems for some people was my suggestion that students are
not obliged to respect teachers. I do think mutual respect between any human beings is
important. And I understand that there might be differing cultural expectations when it comes to
respecting teachers. But I still think it s important for teachers to think about whether and why
they deserve respect automatically.
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10 ways to get your students respect(for those who dont think it comes automatically)
1. Respect your students.
Dont talk down to students. Model mutual respect. Dont have double standards. Give what
youd like to get back. Know every childs story and treat each as an individual. Cater for
different learning preferences, strengths and weaknesses.
2. Have a class agreement, not top-down rules.
Ask what helps them learn a nd what hinders learning.Use that as a basis for establishing an
essential agreementas to how the class will run and what behaviours will be evident. Have
everyone sign it. Put it up on the wall. Refer to it constantly.
3. Be part of the learning community.
Dont be the boss of learning. Encourage kids to take ownership of their learning. Be an inquirer
too. Dont pretend to know all the answers. Learn with and from your students. Divide your
groups in a variety of random ways, so that everyone learns to work with different people.
4. Acknowledge their physical needs.
Allo w students to dr ink wate r and even to eat i f they hungry. Dont try and control when they go
to the toilet. (If your classes are engaging, they will only go when they need to.) Provide
opportunities for standing up and moving around during learning.
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5. Be fair and reasonable.
Dont show favoritism. Expect everyone to stick to the agreement. Dont allow put-downs
between stud ents . Accep t legit imate ex cuse s and ev en some that might no t be . If th e ho mework
comes a day late because they had something else to do, its not the end of the world.
6. Have a sense of humour.
Laugh with your students but never at them. Laugh at yourself. Show firm disapproval if they
laugh at each other. Dont take school too seriously. Take learning seriously. But make learning
fun too.
7. Provide a secure learning space.
Provide opportunities for risk-taking in learning. Create a safe environment where learners don t
fear failure. Be supportive of creative thinking and new ways of doing things. Make very student
feel validated.
8. Be sincere.
Talk to students in a normal tone, irrespective of their age. Students see through adults who
arent sincere very quickly. Dont pretend. Say what you mean. Mean what you say. Show that
yo u ca rebut only i f you d o. (If you dont, why are you a teacher?)
9. Be human.
Ack nowled ge whe n youre in the wrong. Apologise when you make a mistake. Admit youre
impatient because youre tired today.
10. Let go.
Dont be in charge of every situation. Ask yourself Is it important?before you react. Dont
make all the decisions. Provide opportunities for choice. Show that you value initiative above
compliance.
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enpsteacherPERMALINK
August 28, 2010 11:10 pm
I too loved the discussion that grew out of my 10 things teachers should
UNlearn post. I was a big contributor to that respect dialogueyo u
mentioned, as I cannot stress enough to new teachers how crucial respect
is.
A huge problem with new teachers is they mista ke respect wi th friendshi p.
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DO NOT BE A FRIEND TO YOUR STUDENTS! THEY HAVE ENOUGH
FRIENDS!
To illustrate this point, if my friend tells me to shut up, I might slug him
on the arm and tell HIM to shut up.However, if my student tells me to
shut up, he or she knows there will be immediate consequences for
disrespect.
Yes, follow all 10 bits of sage advice on the list above, but DO NOT blend the
lines of TEACHER/ student, or the necessary respect will be impossible to
maintain.
If you are interested in a more in-depth explanation or discussion of this
idea check out my post on the topic at http://wp.me/s11oWO-398
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enpsteacher PERMALINK
August 29, 2010 12:18 am
Thanks for taking the time to read my post and for your response found at
http://tinyurl.com/2alxuxn.
Just to clarify, by no means do I disagree with or dislike your list. I merely
meant my post as an addendum for new, young, idealistic teachers.
Thanks and keep up the good work!
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Robyn PERMALINK
August 29, 2010 8:43 am
Great list but I dont see anything there about learning. Teachers who
engage their students through embedding learning in contexts that are
authentic to them, have meaningful and hopefully applicable outcomes and
require deep learning and higher order thinking, combined with the belief
that each and very students can achieve, will earn life-long (or even longer)
respect. I still hear my 85 year old Dad talk about teachers he respected
and why he respected them
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whatedsaid PERMALINK
August 29, 2010 10:20 am
Thanks for the comment! Youre right of course, I totally agree with
everything you say. I write so much about learning that I didnt even
notice! In my head, all my posts stand together I forget that there might
be p eople who just read one post and so they dont see it in the context ofeverything else I write.
#11. See Robyns comment above!
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Jeremy M. PERMALINK
August 29, 2010 4:51 pm
A lot o f it depe nds on what example you s et. Yes, we n eed to s how respect
for students if we expect it in return, but we also need to show how we as
teachers respect other teachers. This can be done I a number of ways. As
professionals we dont always get along with our colleagues but we should
show some level of respect. Students will pick up on snyde remarks or a
rolling of the eyes, or any other form of disapproval/disrespect. We cant
expect students to be respectful in anothers classroom if you yourself
do nt show any respect for that teacher. I think that it also teaches another
important messageyo u dont have to like everyone, but you can
certainly get along with (most) everyone. Respect, at least for me, is
something has to be modeled. I learned respect from watching how my dad
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and mom treated others. I learned respect from teachers that treated me as
a person and not a subordinate. We can talk all we want to the kids
(especially younger grades) about what respect looks like, but it means
very lit tle unti l t hey actually see it.
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Akevy Green blatt PERMALINK
August 29, 2010 5:05 pm
I loved the list and I think you were dead on in many of the things you
mentioned. Too often teachers get into a power struggle with his/her
students because after all they are the teacher. They may win that battle
but they have lost the war beca use they have lost the re spect of that
student and possibly the class for a long time. another things teachers
forget and sometimes students as well is that the teacher needs to be fair
but fair doesn t always mean equal.
I would also agree with Jeremys comment that one important factor in the
issue of respect is that teachers need to be role models and model respect
for their students by the way they interact with others.
Thanks for the post
Ak ev y
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Robyn Fox PERMALINK
August 29, 2010 6:01 pm
Great list, Edna. Thank you so much for everything you post. Jeremy wrote
that he learned respect from watching how my (his) dad and mom treated
others. That makes me think of my dad who always said you are no
bett er than a nyone else and nobod y else is be tter than you. This is a great
creed to live by, when thinking about respect..both in terms of respecting
students, peers and ourselves.
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Sarah PERMALINK
August 30, 2010 1:43 am
Ver y n ice lis t. All true. And al l are easy things to do.
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Judith PERMALINK
August 30, 2010 9:57 am
What a fantast ic post. I think all teachers should read t his every day just to
remind themselves of their responsibilities to children.
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Miss B PERMALINK
August 30, 2010 2:27 pm
Great post.
Even though reading these I thought, yes I knew that, its so good to read
these from time to time, its easy to forget some of these tips when you get
bogged down in t he middle of term, with reports and programs etc etc.
Thanks for reminding me!
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wow, nice artic le.. than ks fo r sharing.. ^_^v
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Elena Sacks PERMALINK
September 1, 2010 11:29 pm
I loved this post. As Judith commented- we do need to be reminded of
these points as teachers from time to time. My how schooling has changed
from my days as a student. I just hope children today realize how
wond erful their learning environments can be co mpared to rigid an d
stringent ways of the past.
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ktenkely PERMALINK
September 4, 2010 6:50 am
So right on Edna. I am in the camp that teachers should automatically
assume that a child will respect them because they said so. Im not sure
that can even be called respect, more likely it is fear. True respect is mutual
between both parti es who care a bout each other and feel safe in that
respectful relationship. Great 10 list!
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Morgan PERMALINK
September 12, 2010 8:15 am
Great post. My favorite is #9. I try to be as real and human as possible.
The other day during circle time, one of my K students told me, I feel
mad. I eventually got the reason- he was mad because he wanted to stay
home that day with his mom. I told him, You know Alan , I was mad this
morning too. I wanted to stay home with my dog. But here we are. His face
lit up. I told the truth and may have hooked him for the year!
#9 Be human. Never be perfect. Kids hate perfect. Perfect creates
anxiety, not respect.
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Sam Rangel PERMALINK
November 18, 2010 3:53 pm
Excellent! Without respect, there is no way you will be able to reach your
students. All the training in the world won t help you if your kids dont
respect you. This is great advice for new teachers and veteran teachersalike. Ive made it o ne the P ower Post s on my s ite.
Thank you,
Sam
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