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Sharp Pencils
Faith Johnson CrumblyEditor, LEAD Magazine
Review and Herald Publishing Association
Rev. May 2008
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Activity 1
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Addressing OvertalkersThe task is to just shut them up.
The skill is to:
• Bring them into discussion appropriately and productively without brutalizing their self-worth.
• Enable the rest of the group to get the advantage of their gifts and skills--and vice versa.
We can consider several strategies.
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First: Look at possible needs1. To belong. If talking is the way “in,” I’ll
talk.2. To be heard. Minorities are rarely
heard—that include minorities in religious persuasion. I’m “home” or I’m with “family.” People should listen.
3. To help out. Nobody else is talking.4. To learn. Some people learn what they
think as they talk. Aha!
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It’s OK to interrupt
Overtalkers actually expect interruptions. This is the only way they have conversations.
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Be curious rather than commanding
• Make eye contact as the other person talks.• Relax your body and, if you are standing, allow your weight to roll forward onto the balls of your feet. This gives the overall impression that your whole energy is now forward and focused on what the speaker is saying.
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Listen carefully
Then you will better respond to the situation and redirect the
conversation in the presence of overtalkers.
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Never Assume
Ask:
• “What do you mean, exactly?
• Follow up this powerful question with open-ended questions.
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ParaphraseTo clearly demonstrate that:• You are genuinely paying attention• You are making every effort to
understand thoughts and feelings as well as words.
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Conversational Mosaics
• Move from one subject to the next. But don’t let poor listening leave incomplete ideas hanging.
• Intervene to keep on a subject long enough so that participants fully express themselves. This increases connections between members.
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Validate the speaker
Then ask input from someone else. Amazing, Jonah! I didn't realize you were so tuned in to the stock market. What you’re saying reminds me of how important investments are to us all. In fact, it makes me think about you, Margie, having recently started your own business. Can you see any correlation to that investment and the spiritual investment the lesson speaks about/reflects?
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Good Listening Skills
• Builds trust in your class participants.• Builds self-esteem in class members
—including over-talkers.• Builds your self-discipline, character,
and personality.
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Stay focused
The mind can process 500-600 words words per minute.The mouthcan produce about 150 words per minute. It takes a concentrated effort to focus on another person’s words.
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Sweat Equity[S + K x [E + A] = G + O]
Skills and Effort and Goals andKnowledge Approach ObjectivesTo make a change on the right side of the equation, you must make a lasting change on the left side. The work—sweat equity—is in the middle.
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Class Facilitators
In well-facilitated conversations, people will know they’ve enjoyed themselves but may not know why.
Ssh! There’s no need to tell them.
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Activity 2