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Preparing for Parenthood
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Why is it hard to be a good parent?
Children require much care in their first years. They are not able to give much in return.
No age requirement
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Deciding About Parenthood
Couples should discuss their feelings about parenthood before they marry.
Permanent choice A decision NOT to parent is NOT
permanent Couples may change their mind in time Young couples have at least 15 safe
childbearing years. Adoption is always an option
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Reasons for Choosing Parenthood
Want to share their love with a child Wouldn’t it be nice to have a cute
little baby? Our parents want grandchildren Our older child needs a brother or
sister A child can make us proud Others will see me as a stable,
reliable person A child will comfort us in our old age A child will make us love each other
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Reasons for Not Choosing Parenthood
6% of all couples plan to be childless permanently
We’re not ready for a child A baby costs a lot A child will tie us down A child will interfere with our careers Our child could be sick or have a
disability Our marriage could fail, and I don’t
want to be a single parent
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How Children Affect ParentsStage Timing of Stage Parenting Task
Image-making Before Birth •Prepare for changes in their lives.•Form images of what child will be like and their roles as parents.
Nurturing Birth to Age 2 •Try to balance their baby’s needs with their own.•Provide loving and consistent care to their baby.
Authority Age 2 to Ages 4-5 •Change role as the family’s authority figures.•Teach child rules of behavior through reasoning, rewards, and punishment.
Interpretive Ages 4-5 to Ages 12-13
•Share knowledge about the world with child.•Teach values and morals as the need arises.•Help child understand life isn’t always fair.
Interdependent
Teen Years •Cope with teen’s changing needs for closeness/distance.•Monitor teens behavior and give guidance.•Give teens more freedom with boundaries.
Departure Teen or Early Adult •Evaluate themselves as parents.•Allow child to make own decisions and provide guidance only when asked.
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Sharing Responsibilities
What role will each parent play in the family? Husband works and brings home
paycheck, wife cares for home and children.
Both husband and wife work, and children are in childcare.▪ Husband does more house tasks than
traditionally, however wife usually still does more.
Wife works and brings home paycheck, husband cares for home and children.
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Managing Finances
Expenses grow as the child grows. First baby is usually most expensive Additional children increase costs, however they
may reuse things from first baby. Indirect costs: Resources parents use to
meet child-related costs that could have been use to meet other goals. (not actual expenses)
Foregone income: Potential income lost by not being in the workforce (stay at home parent)
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Managing Careers
Maternity leave: a minimum of 6 weeks off. May be paid or unpaid time off
depending on employer Many mother return to work after 3
months off, some however take up to a year off.
A time for mother to regain her strength, rest and bond with baby
Paternity leave: father helps mother recover and bonds with baby.
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Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA): protects the rights of women and men to take unpaid maternity/paternity leave. Gives workers a total of 12 weeks unpaid
leave per year to provide care for family members in certain situations.
This law guarantees employees job will still be there when they return from leave.
Another law allows mother to take disability pay after childbirth.
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Family Planning
This happens when a couple decides how many children they want and when to have them.
Birth control methods help make family planning easier than it once was.
Women should see a doctor before becoming pregnant.
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Infertility and Sterility
About 88% of couples who try to conceive will do so within a year. Couples who do not are known as infertile. Some may need medical assistance.
Sterile: the couple will be permanently unable to conceive or the wife will be unable to carry their fully biological child. 1/3 of fertility problems come from the
female, 1/3 is also from the male, the other 1/3 are caused by both partners.
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What causes fertility problems? Reproductive diseases Diabetes Some prescription drugs
High blood pressure meds Exposure to drugs, chemicals, and
radiation STIs Smoking Overweight Excessive physical activity Aging
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Overcoming Infertility
Fertility counseling consists of determining the reasons for fertility problems and exploring treatment options. If a problem is found, hormones or drugs might
be given to stimulate ovulation or balance hormone levels.▪ This may increase females risk of cancers
If that doesn’t work, couples may try assisted reproductive technologies (ARTs), which are methods to help the couple conceive.
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3 Most Common ARTs:
Artificial insemination: sperm is introduced into the vagina or uterus by a medical procedure rather than sexual relations. Slight risk of infection Not always using husband’s sperm
In vitro fertilization (IVF): some of the mother’s eggs are surgically removed and fertilized with sperm in a laboratory dish. A few days later, the fertilized egg is implanted into the mother’s uterus. (test-tube babies) Risks of surgery Multiple births
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Gamete intrafallopian transfer (GIFT): a mixture of sperm and eggs are place in the woman’s fallopian tubes, where fertilization can occur. Because more than one egg is present,
conception is more likely, along with a multiple pregnancy.
If pregnancy still fails, couples may use sperm and eggs donated by other people.
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Surrogate mother: A woman who bears a child for a couple because female is not able to. She would carry the baby to full term
and deliver the baby and sign over parental rights.
All of these options are very expensive and sometimes they need to done multiple times with no guarantee or success.