Building rapport and establishing close relat ionship with

Adventurers

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Developmental Tasks Of Adventurers (age 6-9)

1. Having an increasing sense of belonging through family activities and friendships with peers

2. Beginning to master his impulses and to conform to others’ expectations

3. Developing healthy emotional expressions for a wide variety of experiences e.g. stress feelings, frustration and anger

4. Decreasing dependency on family through increasing self reliance

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Developmental Tasks Of Adventurers (age 6-9)

5. Learning to communicate effectively and realistically with an increasing number of others

6. Developing the ability to handle potentially dangerous situations

7. Laying the foundations for understanding the meanings of life, self and the world

8. Becoming more affectionate9. Identification made with one's

gender 10.Establishing a conscience and

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Developmental Tasks Of People Working With Adventurers

1. Loving the child for what he really is

2. Creating an atmosphere of love within the club which enables growth to take place

3. Understanding the developmental tasks of the child so that appropriate guidance and discipline may be given

4. Recognizing that each child is different with special needs

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How well do you connect with young How well do you connect with young Adventurers?Adventurers?

Answer the following questions and ask yourself how you can improve on it.

Remember - When we connect with the kids, we gain the opportunity to lead them to Jesus Christ

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Communication

• Do we communicate at their level?

• Do we say things to them in a way that will make sense to a kid?

• Remember that the tone of our voice and our body language are all part of our communication

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SensitivitySensitivity

• Do you give personal attention to the neglected and unpopular kids?Do you give personal attention to the neglected and unpopular kids?• Are you sensitive to their feelings and are aware of the things that Are you sensitive to their feelings and are aware of the things that

embarrass or hurt them?embarrass or hurt them?• Are you careful in the way you ask them personal questions?Are you careful in the way you ask them personal questions? 7/14

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AvailabilityAvailability

• Are you frequently Are you frequently present among present among Adventurers?Adventurers?

• Do you take time to Do you take time to listen to them?listen to them?

• Do you stay back after club activities when they have something to talk to you about (which need not necessary be a serious matter)?

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Affirmation

• Do you say positive things to and about Adventurers?

• Do you smile, nod, have good eye contact, give youth a handshake, high five, or pat them on the back when you speak to them?

• Do you give them a gift once in a while especially when they have done something good?

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Acceptance

• Do you accept your Adventurers as they are, not as you would like them to be (loving them unconditionally)?

• Do you trust kids with responsibility?

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Steps in becoming a real friend with the Adventurer

1. Knowing them intimately

2. Contacting them regularly

3. Meeting their needs earnestly

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1. Knowing them personally

� Learn their names, birthdays� Discover their likes and

interests, fears, allergies� Know their stories

The 3 PsThe 3 Ps1.1. PainPain2.2. PurposePurpose3.3. PassionPassion

The 3 FsThe 3 Fs1.1. FamilyFamily2.2. FutureFuture3.3. FaithFaith

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2. Contacting them regularly

� Take time to talk to them personally from time to time

� Visit their turf outside of club time

� Visit absentees and encourage them to come back

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3. Meeting Their Needs

� SecuritySecurity� Self-esteemSelf-esteem� RelationalRelational� Special problem Special problem

cases cases - - Reach out to those who are hurt, discouraged or are affected by certain crises

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