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PREFACE�xix
PART ONE: FOUNDATIONS OF INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION
CHAPTER 1: Interpersonal Process�1
CHAPTER 2: Interpersonal Communication in a Changing World:
Culture and Social Networking�28
CHAPTER 3: Communication and the Self�64
CHAPTER 4: Perceiving Others�106
PART TWO: CREATING AND RESPONDING TO MESSAGES
CHAPTER 5: Language�140
CHAPTER 6: Nonverbal Communication�174
CHAPTER 7: Listening: Receiving and Responding�208
CHAPTER 8: Emotions�244
PART THREE: DIMENSIONS OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
CHAPTER 9: Dynamics of Interpersonal Relationships�278
CHAPTER 10: Communication Climate�310
CHAPTER 11: Managing Confl ict�348
CHAPTER 12: Interpersonal Contexts: Friends, Family, and
Intimate Relationships�382
GLOSSARY�G-1
REFERENCES�R-1
CREDITS�C-1
AUTHOR INDEX�AI-1
SUBJECT INDEX�SI-1
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Contents
PREFACE�xix
PART ONE: FOUNDATIONS OF INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION 1
CHAPTER 1
Interpersonal Process�1
Why We Communicate�3
� Physical Needs�4
� Identity Needs�5
� Social Needs�6
� Practical Needs�7
The Communication Process�8
� A Model of Communication�8
� Insights from the Transactional Communication Model�9
� Communication Principles�11
� Communication Misconceptions�13
Interpersonal Communication Defi ned�15
� Quantitative and Qualitative Defi nitions�15
� Personal and Impersonal Communication: A Matter of Balance�17
Communication Competence�19
� Communication Competence Defi ned�20
� Characteristics of Competent Communication�22
Summary�25
Key Terms�26
Activities�26
FEATURES
AT WORK: COMMUNICATION AND CAREER ADVANCEMENT�7
FOCUS ON RESEARCH: MAINTAINING RELATIONSHIPS THROUGH DAILY CONVERSATIONS�19
FOCUS ON RESEARCH: HOW TO (NOT) ANTAGONIZE YOUR PROFESSOR: ADAPTING
E-MESSAGES�22
DARK SIDE OF COMMUNICATION: EXCESSIVE SELF-MONITORING DISCOURAGES INTIMACY�24
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CHAPTER 2
Interpersonal Communication in a Changing World: Culture and Social Networking�28
Interpersonal Communication in a Diverse World�29
Fundamentals of Culture�29
� Culture and Co-culture�31
� Intercultural Communication�33
� Interpersonal and Intercultural Communication�34
� Cultural Diff erences as Generalizations�35
Cultural Values and Norms�36
� High versus Low Context�36
� Individualism versus Collectivism�38
� Power Distance�39
� Uncertainty Avoidance�40
� Achievement versus Nurturing�41
Codes and Culture�41
� Verbal Codes�42
� Nonverbal Codes�44
� Decoding Messages�45
Developing Intercultural Communication Competence�48
� Motivation and Attitude�48
� Tolerance for Ambiguity�48
� Open-mindedness�49
� Knowledge and Skill�50
Social Media in a Changing World�51
Characteristics of Social Media �52
� Message Richness�52
� Synchronicity�53
� Permanence�54
Social Media and Relational Quality�54
Communicating Competently with Social Media�56
� Be Careful What You Post�56
� Be Considerate�57
Summary�60
Key Terms�61
Activities�62
FEATURES
FOCUS ON RESEARCH: FITTING IN: PEOPLE WITH DISABILITIES AND ORGANIZATIONAL
CULTURES�32
DARK SIDE OF COMMUNICATION: ALONE TOGETHER�52
FOCUS ON RESEARCH: LESS CAN BE MORE: WHEN ONLINE PARTNERS MEET IN PERSON�55
AT WORK: CHOOSING A COMMUNICATION CHANNEL�58
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CONTENTS�ix
CHAPTER 3
Communication and the Self�64
Communication and the Self-Concept�66
� How the Self-Concept Develops�67
� Characteristics of the Self-Concept�70
� The Self-Fulfi lling Prophecy and Communication�73
� Changing Your Self-Concept�76
Presenting the Self: Communication as Identity Management�77
� Public and Private Selves�78
� Characteristics of Identity Management�79
� Why Manage Impressions?�81
� How Do We Manage Impressions?�82
� Identity Management and Honesty�84
Disclosing the Self: What to Reveal?�85
� Models of Self-Disclosure�87
� Benefi ts and Risks of Self-Disclosure�90
� Guidelines for Self-Disclosure�94
� Alternatives to Self-Disclosure�96
Summary�101
Key Terms�102
Activities�103
FEATURES
FOCUS ON RESEARCH: BODY IMAGE AND THE PRESSURE TO BE PERFECT�68
AT WORK: IDENTITY MANAGEMENT IN THE WORKPLACE�80
DARK SIDE OF COMMUNICATION: BATTLING ADDICTIONS THROUGH SELF-DISCLOSURE�95
FOCUS ON RESEARCH: DISCLOSING IDENTITY INFORMATION—OFFLINE VS. ONLINE�96
CHAPTER 4
Perceiving Others�106
The Perception Process�109
� Reality Is Constructed�109
� Steps in the Perception Process�111
Infl uences on Perception�116
� Physiological Infl uences�116
� Psychological Infl uences�118
� Social Infl uences�119
� Cultural Infl uences�122
Common Tendencies in Perception�124
� We Make Snap Judgments�124
� We Cling to First Impressions�126
� We Judge Ourselves More Charitably than We Do Others�127
� We Are Infl uenced by Our Expectations�128
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� We Are Infl uenced by the Obvious�128
� We Assume Others Are Like Us�129
Synchronizing Our Perceptions�130
� Perception Checking�130
� Building Empathy�132
Summary�136
Key Terms�137
Activities�137
FEATURES
AT WORK: SEXUAL HARASSMENT AND PERCEPTION�120
FOCUS ON RESEARCH: ETHNICITY SHAPES PERCEPTIONS�122
FOCUS ON RESEARCH: DOES HONESTY HURT? RECEIVERS SAY “YES,” SENDERS SAY “NO”�127
DARK SIDE OF COMMUNICATION: WHEN EMPATHY GOES OVERBOARD�133
PART TWO: CREATING AND RESPONDING TO MESSAGES 140
CHAPTER 5
Language�140
The Nature of Language�142
� Language Is Symbolic�142
� Language Is Rule-Governed�143
� Language Is Subjective�145
� Language and Worldview�146
The Impact of Language�148
� Naming and Identity�148
� Affi liation�149
� Power�150
� Sexism and Racism�152
Uses (and Abuses) of Language�155
� Precision and Vagueness�155
� The Language of Responsibility�161
� Disruptive Language�165
Gender and Language�167
� Extent of Gender Diff erences�167
� Accounting for Gender Diff erences�169
Summary�170
Key Terms�171
Activities�172
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CONTENTS�xi
FEATURES
FOCUS ON RESEARCH: “I DON’T MEAN TO ANTAGONIZE YOU, BUT…”�152
DARK SIDE OF COMMUNICATION: THE INCIVILITY OF HATE SPEECH�156
AT WORK: SWEARING ON THE JOB�164
FOCUS ON RESEARCH: GENDER DIFFERENCES IN INSTANT MESSAGES �169
CHAPTER 6
Nonverbal Communication�174
Nonverbal Communication Defi ned�177
Characteristics of Nonverbal Communication�177
� All Behavior Has Communicative Value�178
� Nonverbal Communication Is Primarily Relational�179
� Nonverbal Communication Is Ambiguous�180
� Nonverbal Communication Is Infl uenced by Culture and Gender�181
Functions of Nonverbal Communication�182
� Creating and Maintaining Relationships�183
� Regulating Interaction�183
� Infl uencing Others�186
� Concealing/Deceiving�186
� Managing Identity�188
Types of Nonverbal Communication�189
� Body Movement�189
� Touch�193
� Voice�194
� Distance�197
� Territoriality�199
� Time�199
� Physical Attractiveness�201
� Clothing�202
� Physical Environment�203
Summary�204
Key Terms�205
Activities�205
FEATURES
FOCUS ON RESEARCH: POWER POSING�191
AT WORK: TOUCH AND CAREER SUCCESS�192
DARK SIDE OF COMMUNICATION: ACCENTS AND STIGMAS�195
FOCUS ON RESEARCH: IT’S ABOUT TIME: THE COSTS OF DELAYED RESPONSES�200
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CHAPTER 7
Listening: Receiving and Responding�208
The Nature of Listening�210
� The Importance of Listening�210
� Listening Defi ned�211
� Reasons for Listening�214
The Challenge of Listening�216
� Listening Is Not Easy�216
� All Listeners Do Not Receive the Same Message�218
� Poor Listening Habits�218
Components of Listening�219
� Hearing�219
� Attending�220
� Understanding�221
� Remembering�221
� Responding�222
Types of Listening Responses�222
� Silent Listening�223
� Questioning�224
� Paraphrasing�227
� Empathizing�229
� Supporting�231
� Analyzing�235
� Evaluating�235
� Advising�236
� Which Style to Use?�237
Summary�240
Key Terms�241
Activities�241
FEATURES
AT WORK: LISTENING ON THE JOB�212
FOCUS ON RESEARCH: DIVIDED ATTENTION: PHONING WHILE DRIVING�217
DARK SIDE OF COMMUNICATION: HEARING LOSS AND RELATIONAL STRESS�219
FOCUS ON RESEARCH: BLOGGING AS SOCIAL SUPPORT FOR THE MORBIDLY OBESE�233
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CHAPTER 8
Emotions�244
What Are Emotions?�247
� Physiological Changes�248
� Nonverbal Reactions�248
� Cognitive Interpretations�250
� Verbal Expression�250
Infl uences on Emotional Expression�252
� Personality�252
� Culture�252
� Gender�255
� Social Conventions and Roles�255
� Fear of Self-Disclosure�257
� Emotional Contagion�257
Guidelines for Expressing Emotions�258
� Recognize Your Feelings�258
� Choose the Best Language�259
� Share Multiple Feelings�261
� Recognize the Diff erence between Feeling and Acting�262
� Accept Responsibility for Your Feelings�262
� Choose the Best Time and Place to Express Your Feelings�262
Managing Diffi cult Emotions�263
� Facilitative and Debilitative Emotions�263
� Thoughts Cause Feelings�264
� Irrational Thinking and Debilitative Emotions�266
� Minimizing Debilitative Emotions�271
Summary�274
Key Terms�275
Activities�275
FEATURES
FOCUS ON RESEARCH: EMOTING UNDER THE INFLUENCE�249
FOCUS ON RESEARCH: SAYING “I LOVE YOU”: DIFFERENT CULTURES, DIFFERENT RULES�253
AT WORK: EMOTION LABOR ON THE JOB�254
DARK SIDE OF COMMUNICATION: WHEN JEALOUSY REARS ITS HEAD�273
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PART THREE: DIMENSIONS OF INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS 278
CHAPTER 9
Dynamics of Interpersonal Relationships�278
Why We Form Relationships�280
� Appearance�281
� Similarity�282
� Complementarity�283
� Rewards�283
� Competency�285
� Proximity�285
� Disclosure�286
Communication and Relational Dynamics�287
� Developmental Models of Interpersonal Relationships�287
� Dialectical Perspectives on Relational Dynamics�295
Communicating About Relationships�301
� Content and Relational Messages�301
� Expression of Relational Messages�302
Repairing Damaged Relationships�303
� Types of Relational Transgressions�304
� Strategies for Relational Repair�305
� Forgiving Transgressions�306
Summary�307
Key Terms�308
Activities�308
FEATURES
DARK SIDE OF COMMUNICATION: ABUSING THOSE WHO DISCLOSE�286
FOCUS ON RESEARCH: OPENING LINES: INITIATING ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS�288
AT WORK: SOCIAL CAPITAL AND CAREER ADVANCEMENT�296
FOCUS ON RESEARCH: REEL TO REAL?: RELATIONAL COMMUNICATION IN ROMANTIC
COMEDIES�303
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CHAPTER 10
Communication Climate�310
What Is Communication Climate?�312
How Communication Climates Develop�313
� Levels of Message Confi rmation�314
� Defensiveness�321
� Climate Patterns�323
Creating Positive Climates�325
� Reducing Defensiveness�325
� Off ering Constructive Criticism�332
Transforming Negative Climates�334
� Seek More Information�334
� Agree with the Critic�338
Summary�344
Key Terms�345
Activities�346
FEATURES
AT WORK: TAKE THIS JOB AND LOVE IT�314
DARK SIDE OF COMMUNICATION: CYBERBULLYING: ELECTRONIC CHARACTER ASSASSINATION�317
FOCUS ON RESEARCH: SAVING FACE WHILE DELIVERING BAD NEWS�322
CHAPTER 11
Managing Confl ict�348
What Is Confl ict?�351
� Expressed Struggle�351
� Perceived Incompatible Goals�351
� Perceived Scarce Resources�352
� Interdependence�352
� Inevitability�352
Functional and Dysfunctional Confl icts�353
� Integration versus Polarization�354
� Cooperation versus Opposition�354
� Confi rmation versus Disconfi rmation�355
� Agreement versus Coercion�355
� De-escalation versus Escalation�355
� Focusing versus Drifting�355
� Foresight versus Shortsightedness�356
� Positive versus Negative Results�357
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Confl ict Styles�357
� Avoidance (Lose-Lose)�358
� Accommodation (Lose-Win)�360
� Competition (Win-Lose)�361
� Compromise (Negotiated Lose-Lose)�362
� Collaboration (Win-Win)�363
� Which Style to Use?�367
Confl ict in Relational Systems�367
� Complementary, Symmetrical, and Parallel Styles�368
� Toxic Confl ict: The “Four Horsemen”�370
� Confl ict Rituals�371
Variables in Confl ict Styles�372
� Gender�372
� Culture�374
Confl ict Management in Practice�375
Summary�379
Key Terms�380
Activities�380
FEATURES
AT WORK: THIRD-PARTY DISPUTE RESOLUTION�356
DARK SIDE OF COMMUNICATION: WHEN SILENCE ISN’T GOLDEN�360
FOCUS ON RESEARCH: ATTACHMENT STYLES AND RELATIONAL CONFLICT�369
FOCUS ON RESEARCH: SELF-FULFILLING PROPHECIES SHAPE CONFLICT OUTCOMES �376
CHAPTER 12
Interpersonal Contexts: Friends, Family, and Intimate Relationships�382
Communication in Friendships�384
� Types of Friendships�384
� Friendships, Gender, and Communication�386
� Communication in Successful Friendships�389
Communication in the Family�391
� Creating the Family Through Communication�392
� Patterns of Family Communication�393
� Types of Family Relationships�396
� Eff ective Communication in Families�399
Communication in Intimate Relationships�402
� Dimensions of Intimacy�402
� Gender and Intimacy�404
� Culture and Intimacy�405
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� Social Media and Intimacy�406
� Commitment in Intimate Relationships�406
� Maintaining Intimate Relationships�408
Summary�409
Key Terms�409
Activities�409
FEATURES
AT WORK: CAN WOMEN BE COWORKERS AND FRIENDS?�388
FOCUS ON RESEARCH: FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS: THE COMMUNICATION CHALLENGES OF NOT-SO-
CASUAL SEX�389
DARK SIDE OF COMMUNICATION: VIRTUALLY UNFAITHFUL: EMOTIONAL INFIDELITY IN
CYBERSPACE�407
FOCUS ON RESEARCH: MAINTAINING MARRIAGES THROUGH FLIRTING�408
GLOSSARY�G-1
REFERENCES�R-1
CREDITS�C-1
AUTHOR INDEX�AI-1
SUBJECT INDEX�SI-1
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