‘ the drama triangle’ and working with deaf clients
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‘ The Drama Triangle’ and working with deaf clients. Debbie Joynes Integrative Psychotherapist. Drama Triangle. Rescuer. Persecutor. Victim. Victim . ‘one down’ position “Poor Me” Feels victimized, oppressed, helpless, hopeless, powerless, ashamed Looks for a Rescuer - PowerPoint PPT PresentationTRANSCRIPT
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‘The Drama Triangle’and
working with deaf clients
Debbie JoynesIntegrative Psychotherapist
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Drama Triangle
Victim
Rescuer Persecutor
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Victim
• ‘one down’ position
• “Poor Me”
• Feels victimized, oppressed, helpless, hopeless, powerless, ashamed
• Looks for a Rescuer
• If stays in Victim position, will block self from making decisions, solving problems
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Victim
• ‘Dejected’ stance
• Stuck in a sense of being unworthy
• Avoid confrontation
• Believe their needs do not count
• Overly sensitive, wish-washy and unable to make and stick to decisions
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Victim
• Does not take responsibility for own feelings
• Believe they cannot take care of themselves
• Anxiety driven
• Express anger, resentment and retaliation through manipulation and passive aggression
• Feel angry when they go along with what the Persecutor or Rescuer says to do
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Victim
• Feels stuck
• May have had a lenient or overly protective parent who set up expectations of helplessness
• May have had a parent who feels anxiety when the child has to suffer natural consequences from mistakes
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Position of Victim
• Deaf people often invited unconsciously to take up position by their:
Families School Medical Model
• Profound effect on self esteem and confidence“you can’t do that because you are deaf’
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Rescuer
"Here, let me do that for you" • ‘one up’ position
• Are stuck in a false superiority • Feel good at the expense of others rights to take care of themselves. • Take the "high moral ground" • Need to be in control of others to avoid their own feelings and problems.
• Garner and boost their own self-esteem by being seen as unselfish for someone else's own good.
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Rescuer
• Use rescuing to connect or to feel important, needed or special. • Anxiety driven. Rescue to reduce feelings of anxiety. • Feel guilty when not involved with other's problems. • Strong sense of entitlement with the Victim. • Can become a martyr/Victim
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Position of Rescuer
• Naturally drawn to the caring professions
• Danger of reinforcement of helplessness – e.g. Deaf patient and hearing clinician - ‘Hearing knows best’
• Important driver: to avoid guilt
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Persecuter
• ‘one up’ position
• Needs to be in control • Uses blame, criticisms, attacks to release stress. • Highly judgmental of others • Self righteously judges others weaknesses
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Persecuter
• Has a strong sense of entitlement--"you owe me" • Has feelings of frustration that trigger the ‘right’ to get angry • Has a strong need to be right and not have their authority
challenged. • Finds reasons to make others wrong and scapegoats them.
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Indicators for primary positions: VICTIM
• Hang-dog expression
• Pouty
• Bent over
• Shoulders hunched
• Hands wringing
• Fidgety
• Sulky expression1 of 2
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Indicators for primary positions: VICTIM
• Avoiding eye contact
• Looks ‘little’
• Quiet tone, or monotone use of voice or ‘small’ kind of ‘floppy’ signing …. Not taking up much space. Inviting others to not hear/understand/miss the point
• Statements like ‘I can’t’, ‘You don’t understand’, ‘Its so hard for me’, ‘Yes, but …
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Indicators for primary positions: RESCUER
• Concerned facial expression
• Leaning forward, sitting forward in chair
• Head tilt
• ‘If I were you’, ‘you should’, ‘Well, I think …’, ‘Shall I …..?’
• Feelings of smugness, or superiority, or pity
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Indicators for primary positions: RESCUER
• Anxious compulsion to do something or give something or
solve something … and disproportionate sense of responsibility
• Parental
• Using touch whether invited to or not – like hugging, scooping, sweeping
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Indicators for primary positions: PERSECUTOR
• Leaning forward, making self bigger than the other
• Aggressive or loud tone. Bigger faster signs
• Sardonic or sarcastic language
• Fixed glare or stare
• Frowning
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Indicators for primary positions: PERSECUTOR
• Tight jaw, clenched teeth
• Racing pulse. Tight chest. Feeling hot
• Aloof or arrogant or dismissive or accustatory or stand-offish
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No one wins in the Drama Triangle!
All positions:
• Cause pain
• Come from denied pain
• Come from a sense of shame and they cause shame in the other
• Come from feelings of unworthiness
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No one wins in the Drama Triangle!
All positions:
• Are about a loss of personal power
• Perpetuate guilt
• Keep people caught in dysfunctional behaviour
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Management
• Self awareness
• Recognising the process in others
• Supervision