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Building an “affair-proof”

marriage

A presentation by

Rolan & Weng MonjeRoy & Gina Soriano

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Outline

• Four scriptures• Two principles• Three practical directions


Main passages

• 1Co 7:1-3 Now for the matters you wrote about: It is good for a man not to marry. But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.

• The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.


Main passages

• Heb 13:4 Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.


Principles• 1 “Exclusive ownership”

• 2 “Divine order”



You belong exclusively to each other and no one else

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• WHAT IS AN AFFAIR?


Principles• 2 “Divine order”

Your love and loyalty are expected in the order: God, spouse, children/family, others

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How do affairs start?• Seldom planned or foreseen• Mutual needs not met• Unguarded talks/texts/chats• Little or no accountability


Top 3 attitudes that lead to affairs

• 1 Anger• 2 Pride• 3 Dishonesty

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The effects of adultery The marriage will never be the same The kids go through incredible pain In-laws are gravely affected Friends are distraught and/or divided The couple’s testimony is weakened The church suffers in its witness Christianity is dealt a shameful blow


• Col 4:5 NIV Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity.

• Eph 5:15 NLT So be careful how you live, not as fools but as those who are wise. Make the most of every opportunity for doing good in these evil days. Don’t act thoughtlessly, but try to understand what the Lord wants you to do.


Practicals: Loving Pray for your spouse Express their love language/s Wag magtipid ng “I ♥ U” Avoid comparisons Lift up privately & publicly


Practicals: Guarding Wear your ring Better to be boring than a

‘player’ Talk about your spouse Keep tokens/pictures Let him/her know where you

are No ‘private matters’ Dress modestly

Pasig men’s survey (2008)


Practicals: Creating Weekly dates Double dates Physical time Special time away


Building up to ‘ideal love’ (motivation for staying together)

• Walang ibang mapupuntahan• Nothing better• “Nakakahiya”• “Kawawa kasi mga bata”• Maybe it will get better• We like each other• We truly love each other



• 2 “Divine order”


Practicals

☺ Loving☺ Guarding☺ Creating

• Let us BUILD affair-proof marriages that will glorify God and inspire romance in the Pasig ministry!

Building an “affair-proof”

marriage

A presentation by Rolan & Weng MonjeRoy & Gina Soriano

[ intro: film clip from “the bucket list” ]

Documents

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love languageswag magtipid

effects of adultery