be honest-YOU’RE NOT THAT INTO HIM EITHER

written by Ian Kerner

Daniella FusaroFrank GarciaRyan Fischer

Introduction and Book Thesis Description

Geared towards single women in pursuit of finding a healthy relationship

Does not promote casual sex› However, advocates not settling &

lowering standards Book separated into 3 parts: Sex, The

Marketplace and The Cycle* Foreword by Amy Sohn and Conclusion

by Lisa Rubisch (Ian’s wife)

Introduction and Book Thesis Description

Debates whether the perception of sexual relations is based on societal or biological differences

Psychological and physical needs compared to rats and voles

Psychological goals to encourage women to raise their standards and reach for love

Sex glossary

Introduction and Book Thesis Description

50% of marriages end in divorce 60% of remarriages end in divorce Marry for the wrong reasons

› All of their friends are marrying› Just want the ring› Biological needs (time)

Men are waiting until 27 to get married (study by the National Marriage Project at Rutgers University)

Introduction and Book Thesis Description

Set your standards high but realistic Being single is not a bad thing Get to know yourself before you date

the wrong people Concludes with real life scenarios

based on patient’s experiences

Introduction and Book Thesis Description

Main Thesis: To maintain a relationship status with a member of the opposite sex, heterosexual women will compromise their standards and expectations to attract a mate.

Ian Kerner Ph.D. and FAACS, certified to counsel by the

American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT)

Diplomate in Sex Therapy of the American Board of Sexology

Member of The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSIS) as well as on the faculty of the American Academy of Clinical Sexologists.

Graduate of Brandeis University After much research, Ph.D. is undetermined

Data No specific research mentioned in the

book Acknowledgements include: friends,

patients, colleagues and “women and men of America”

Ian collects his information based on interviews and experiences from clients, in which he changes their names

Data

As quoted in the book, “the median age for first marriage for men has reached twenty-seven, the highest age in our nation’s history.”

The graph is evident of how Ian suggests not to rush into marriage, based on the divorce statistics.

http://www.biblenews1.com/marriage/marriags.htm

Results Data reports that later marriages survive the

long haul however the quality is poor. The highest quality marriages report to be

between the ages 22-25. http://search.proquest.com/docview/746541230?accountid=12536

The book is geared towards a younger female audience.

Men misperceive women’s motives for sex. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2885706/

This evidence is largely driven by men who promote and pursue sexual stereotypes aka “rats”.

Results

Helpful? › Depends on personal experience of reader.

Provides a relatable perspective however, none of it is based on longitudinal research.

Trained?› Yes, based on his credentials.› However, mainly driven by current social

stigmas of dating.

Discussion Because of the target audience, this book

is not intended for ALL single females. However based on scholarly sources we

have found that “the optimal time for first marriage for most persons is ages 22–25. “

As a result this book would benefit a mid-twenties audience on the hunt for marriage or a successful relationship.

Discussion By involving more precise research,

women may find this book more accurate and credible.

The data we found supports current trends on dating and success rates of relationships and marriages.

Our data only further supported the context of the book and clarified any unsure thoughts.

Exam Questions 1. What is the optimal age for marriage?

A. 25-30B. 22-25C. 35-40D. 32-35

2. Which of the following statements is true?A. The older you are the higher quality of marriage you will

have.B. Younger people have better sex but worse marriages.C. The later you get married the better survival rate

however have poorer quality. 3. How is sexual perspective affected by gender?

A. Women want to sleep with every man.B. Men only view women in a platonic role.C. Men perceive a greater degree of sexual intent.

References Farris, C, Treat, T, Viken, R, & McFall, R. (2008).

Sexual coercion and the misperception of sexual intent. Clinical Psychology Review, 28(1), 48-66.

Glenn, N, Uecker, J, & Love, R. (2010). Later first marriage and marital success. . Social Science Research , 787-800.

Kerner, I. (2006). be honest- you're not that into him either. New York, NY: HarperCollins.

US Census Bureau. (2009). Marriage statistics. Retrieved from http://www.biblenews1.com/marriage/marriags.htm

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